Feeling homesick :(

[EcoMama]

We moved areas about 3 months ago, for my oh's work. We're about 4hrs away from our old area. It's a lovely place, our son has settled well in to the school, I've found some nice friends at baby groups with my 1yr old. One of which has been round to my house a few times for a brew. It's a really lovely area!

But I miss my old home so much ...... I know we can't move back due to son's schooling and oh's work. But, although I'm making nice friends here, I am missing my old friends terribly, a good friend has just had a baby, and I'm missing my 1yr old growing up with her little baby friends. I even miss my son's old school friends :/

The houses are more expensive that I feel we'll never get back on the ladder. The people are so much different around here, they're more towny and I'm more country, I don't feel like I have much in common with them.

I'm so sad about it, I just want to go home!

Anyone been in this situation? How did it turn out for you?

 

[seoj]

I'm sorry hun- I don't have much personal experience as I've only moved to another area twice in my life (once when my family left Cali and moved to OR when I was 6) and once when I moved out of my parents house and moved 2hrs away.

My best friend just moved to Cali though- 1,000 miles from her family/friend... but that was just a week ago. She moved to be with her fiance- as he business is there, so there wasn't a way for him to move.

TBH- for just being there 3mos, it seems you've all settled nicely. I totally understand missing your close friends and family... I can imagine how rough that would be. I think it's just gonna take more time for this new place to feel like home. Even though home is where your family is- it's still all very new. How far away are you from your old friends? Would it be possible say 1-2x's a year to meet somewhere for some reconnection time? After my bestie moved I immediately got a ticket for a girls trip down there! It's in Feb... so not too far off. I know our friendship will be different- being that she's no longer 15mins away! But we've been friends for so long (15yrs) that this distance won't change things- not really. I mean, yeah- but not where it counts. I won't see her or her kids as often (which sucks)- but when we do get together we'll just make the most of the time we have and cherish it even more.

I know that doesn't make it easier right now- but hopefully you'll grow to love it even more and make friends you feel connected with (or just get to know some of the ones you have now even better).

 

[Nut_Shake]

I feel for you. We moved from London to Dallas, Texas and I miss so many things, mainly my family and friends. Seeing pictures of my best friends babies being born, getting bigger, my family going for dinners together etc. People here are very different and I always feel like I don't fit in. For the first few months I had down days but then I had mostly up days, then I hit 6 months here and I felt really crappy. The 'holiday period' was over and it suddenly hit me that we were here to stay. I'm not sure about your situation, but I know that quality of life wise things are far better for us here; more work opportunities, so many resources for the kids which you just don't really get in London anymore.
We've been here for a year and a half now and I'm really feeling far more like I'm falling into my stride. I'm meeting more people, I'm understanding a lot more of the 'ways' here and and am just a lot more content. It's a big deal moving away from what you know, it's normal for you to feel this way. Time is the only thing that will help though. Embrace the change, focus on the pros of where you are now and keep looking forward. It's the only way you will start to adapt and feel more comfortable with all the newness around you. And ha ing things like Facebook and Skype really do make things so much easier and make you feel far more connected to your loved ones. You're not alone xx