feeling really down..

[rebeccalouise]

sorry, I just needed somewhere to vent. lately I've felt so down, isolated & alone. I've just had a bust up with Amelia's dad & now I've hit an all time low. basically, he's saying that I'm a useless parent. it all started today when I took LO to the docs & got told to I needed to get a urine sample off her tonight, I mean it's so silly, how am I meant to get my 1 year old to pee in a pot!? but apparently because I can't do it (after trying all night) I don't know how to do anything!? however, I'm the one who looks after our daughter most of the time unless it's his weekend to have her, I'm the one who feeds her, plays with her, cleans her & most of all I'm the one that loves her more than anything! I just feel like I'm never going to be good enough, I'm always going to be judged or told I'm doing something wrong because he thinks he's so god damn perfect!
I also feel like I have no friends I can call, no one that will sit & listen to me. I lost them all when I fell pregnant as sad as it sounds, I'm very thankful for this site & all of you lovely ladies!

sorry for going on, just needed to get it all off my chest.

x

 

[Scottish mum]

No everybody needs to vent.

Sounds as tho he's kind of taken you for granted! That's not an easy task for anybody to collect a sample from a 1 year old!!

I say sit him down and try talking it out! Not sure if you've tried to do this already!

You know you've hit the nail on the head yourself tho you said you do everything I think he should open his eyes and be thankful your such a doting mother!!

My oh is useuly great but we have had moments!! He use to tell me him being at work was harder than me being home with lo however he's now experianced what it's like as I'm back to work and he's off when I'm working so you know his eyes are open!

He's a fool if he can't appreciate all that you do. I hope having a talk and a calm one at that can help him understand more ! X

 

[rebeccalouise]

They just don't understand at all, it's not as easy! x

 

[Scottish mum]

It's so not. Thing is in my opinion its us that mothers go beyond our call of duty but dads do what they need to and that's it!!

My oh and I have similar arguments about how he does things with lo compared to how I do things!! Your not alone!! I've been on here ranting about my oh for as long as I can remember hehehe xx

 

[Bex84]

Poor you. You should go in to doctors and ask for urine collection bag. It sticks around genitals so when the wee just collects it rather than going in nappy, gosh my los 22 months and i doubt i could get urine sample on cue. Thats what are local doctors give out. Ignore your los dad hes been an idiot