feeling sad im not ever doing it again

[tristansmum]

So I just had my second 9 days ago. I had an ok pregnancy but it was harder than first time round as had a toddler to care for. Towards the end I was so fed up and uncomfortable....told my husband to remind me of this should I get broody again! I had a vbac birth which was very painful but a huge acheivement for me.
So now I'm sad that's it. No more pregnancy or births. We both agree two is the right number for us but I can't help feeling sad. I remember last time I missed my bump and feeling him move ect but then I knew I would get to do it again.

Anyone elee feel the same? Seriously though we don't be trying for another so I know this is it.

 

[New Mrs W]

Congrats on your new baby, we were on this board together last time too

I've struggled this time with Frankie to care for too. I have told myself there will be no more but I just can't say that I'm 100% certain. I guess we'll see what happens when Frankie is ready to start school and I have a bit more time on my hands! X

 

[Melissa x]

I no it's such a scary thought isn't it, I want a second baby but in a way delaying it as I don't think I will have a third as one baby is hard work as it is and I no after that second one I won't get to do that again. I've been thinking about it a lot and suppose the only way I've made myself to feel better is thinking of the fun I will have with children as they get older and appreciate things a lot more!

 

[Vicky1982]

This was me this time last year, my DD2 was 6 days old, and we knew two would be enough for us, but I was soooooo sad. Now fast forward a year and I think we have made the right decision, dd2 has been hard work, and we are getting married in march. Part of me is thinking I would love another, but two is enough, as we can still afford to have luxuries, holidays etc, and me to work part time.

 

[tristansmum]

This was me this time last year, my DD2 was 6 days old, and we knew two would be enough for us, but I was soooooo sad. Now fast forward a year and I think we have made the right decision, dd2 has been hard work, and we are getting married in march. Part of me is thinking I would love another, but two is enough, as we can still afford to have luxuries, holidays etc, and me to work part time.

Yeah I know it will pass in time. Guess I just need to enjoy it now with my new baby. I agree that having two works welll for us too with being about to afford stuff and give them both time ect

 

[_jellybean_]

I feel the same way hon. We have two, and I would love another boy so that my little guy would have a brother, or a girl so my daughter would have a sister. Hugs to you.

 

[XJessicaX]

I am done now. I feel complete with my two girls What is annoying though is my husband wants one more! I do feel a twinge of sadness that I wont have another but at the same time, I have zero jealousy at pregnant women. I loved being pregnant but I don't want to be pregnant again. I love cuddling other peoples newborns but there is a slight relief when I hand them back.
I held a friends twins a few days ago and awwwwwwwwwww, soooooo tiny and soooooooo cute! I did feel a twinge of broodiness but it almost cleared it out of my system as I suddenly wanted to cuddle my big splodge of a 5 month old lol! I KNOW I will want another in the future and as I have poor will power and am highly fertile I have had the coil inserted to ward off moments of madness!!

 

[Jembug]

Hello, this was me two years ago... And here I am with a third gorgeous girl of 16 weeks.
It took a long time to get my husband to come round to a third child.
As much as she has completed our family I still feel sad that I will no longer have a newborn. I actually hate pregnancy but love the labour and imagining the baby in your tummy.
But saying all the above my stress levels are a lot worse than I imagined (3 under 3.8 months) I think I'm just coming out the 'other side'

I think us ladies will always have that maternal love and want for another?
I have to be complete for my sanity I think and so my long term goal is to become a midwife- I'm hoping that I satisfy me? Xx

 

[GreyGirl]

I am not there yet (I hope!) but I am dreading that day! We've decided (99%) that 2 will be our number, there'll probably always be a part of me longing for a 3rd, but 2 is a practical number for us. I have missed being pregnant, but I hope there will be another one..I can imagine once that pregnancy is over with I'll be a little sad that I'll never do it again. But I'm trying to think more about how much there is to come with our 2 little people

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I have sad days but im mega stressed atm lol x

 

[Scottish mum]

I'm not at the stage of wanting number 2 yet. I have days when I think about the future and think 2 would be nice but I'm happy to wait 4 years as I want to cherish what I've got just now plus he's only 6 months.

For me the pregnancy was great no issues at all but the new born stage was hard work more to do with my hormones and feeling overwhelmed I was not prepaired for it at all lol.

My cousin is expecting her first and was telling my mum how she knows it all lol so you can imagine all the mums in the family grinning like Cheshire cats lol.