overcomer79
LT-TTC success 3.5yrs
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I am just a bit upset right now. I have a "friend" that I used to talk closely to at least once a week. She and I were ttc at the same time. Well, they overlapped for about a year and a half. She underwent tests, was put on clomid and other forms and nothing happened. She just has unexplained infertility. We even talked about my struggles and she was very encouraging in sept/oct that I really should consider getting tests done since I had been ttc for 3 years at that time. I decided to wait until I had a break over Christmas (work an academic year).
In May of last year, she adopted a beautiful 2 year old little girl and was really happy and I was very happy for her. It costs up there to adopt and I knew at this time that would not just be an option for us. In fact, I had my doubts about adoption due to "discrimination" over my vision that I would face from the state (even though they would say it was over something else).
I had a long debate about whether to tell her or not as we live in different states now. OH called one of his friends, who also is having fertility issues, and she took it very well and congratulated us and is very very happy for us. I then decided that I would tell my friend. She acted happy but hasn't talked to me since. She always "has to run" when I try to talk to her. She is a teacher and I know how busy their jobs are (I am one as well) but we used to talk regularly and she was a teacher then. I feel like if I hadn't told her, that we would still be friends. I am feeling so down right now. At first it didn't really bother me, but I am now feeling James move and just wanted someone to share in my happiness and be an encouragement for her for whenshe was ready to take that ttc journey again. I guess that will never happen though .
Thanks for listening, these damn hormones make things a lot harder to deal with.
In May of last year, she adopted a beautiful 2 year old little girl and was really happy and I was very happy for her. It costs up there to adopt and I knew at this time that would not just be an option for us. In fact, I had my doubts about adoption due to "discrimination" over my vision that I would face from the state (even though they would say it was over something else).
I had a long debate about whether to tell her or not as we live in different states now. OH called one of his friends, who also is having fertility issues, and she took it very well and congratulated us and is very very happy for us. I then decided that I would tell my friend. She acted happy but hasn't talked to me since. She always "has to run" when I try to talk to her. She is a teacher and I know how busy their jobs are (I am one as well) but we used to talk regularly and she was a teacher then. I feel like if I hadn't told her, that we would still be friends. I am feeling so down right now. At first it didn't really bother me, but I am now feeling James move and just wanted someone to share in my happiness and be an encouragement for her for whenshe was ready to take that ttc journey again. I guess that will never happen though .
Thanks for listening, these damn hormones make things a lot harder to deal with.