Feeling sad today :(

[lynzlogan]

Hi girls,

Sorry for the down post, but its easier to type of hear than to bore people face to face- especially family and they just think i should be happy

Well today i'm 23+3 and everything is fine, baby is kicking away nicely everyday and night, and Leo (3yr old DS) is getting over his cold.....

BUT........i should have been 30weeks pregnant today

DH doesn't understand, he thinks i should just be happy that we're pregnant again, and i don't think he really see's the Mc as being a baby as i was approximately 6+1.
I don't hate him for it, as i guess some people just see things differently to others.

Don't get me wrong i am over the moon with my gorgeous son Leo and so happy to have my thriving baby boy bump, Its just sad that i never got to meet my inbetween bump.

sorry for the ramble just needed to ofload.

Well Baby Logan, Mummy,Daddy,Leo and Blue bump Logan will always miss you xxxx

 

[Sevenladybugs]

It's o.k. to grieve that baby Men just don't bond the same way early on. Sure you are pregnant again and happy about that, but it's normal to feel sad about your loss.

 

[mislaww]

Aww, Lynz, big hugs.

Sadly, lots of us know how you feel. Wednesday would have been my due date It helps to be expecting again with a lovely healthy baby, but I'm sad not to have met my first too. Men feel these things differently than us because they're not close to it, they don't experience it the same way. But many of the ladies here know exactly how difficult and sad it is. Big hugs.

Wednesday, I asked for distracting posts from the lovely ladies here - they are cute or funny or very, very funny - it made me feel loads better and maybe it'll make you feel better too?

https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-second-trimester/464977-today-would-have-been-day-7.html

 

[Gemie]

 

[lisabee]

Hi girls,

Sorry for the down post, but its easier to type of hear than to bore people face to face- especially family and they just think i should be happy

Well today i'm 23+3 and everything is fine, baby is kicking away nicely everyday and night, and Leo (3yr old DS) is getting over his cold.....

BUT........i should have been 30weeks pregnant today

DH doesn't understand, he thinks i should just be happy that we're pregnant again, and i don't think he really see's the Mc as being a baby as i was approximately 6+1.
I don't hate him for it, as i guess some people just see things differently to others.

Don't get me wrong i am over the moon with my gorgeous son Leo and so happy to have my thriving baby boy bump, Its just sad that i never got to meet my inbetween bump.

sorry for the ramble just needed to ofload.

Well Baby Logan, Mummy,Daddy,Leo and Blue bump Logan will always miss you xxxx

It must be hard and dont think anyone really understands unless they have had it themselves, fortunatly I havnt but I can feel the sadness that you must be feeling

Maybe this isnt appropiate to some people but I am a firm believer in fate and that everything happens for a reason and sometimes it can be a comfort to think that the baby wasnt ready yet for this world and maybe this is his/her time now!

Does that make sense??? Sorry if its a lot of mumbo jumbo but its how I think when these things happen

Keep your chin up mrs all will go well

 

[ummar]

You're not alone - as someone said, sadly many of us know how you're feeling.

My first baby - had I not lost the pregnancy, would have been 2 years old in June.

I do think about it sometimes and no, guys don't understand the full extent of what goes through a woman who has lost a pregnancy.

 

[holly2234]

 

[tainja]

So sorry hun...I lost a baby boy when I was 19 weeks 14 years ago and I still consider Angel baby Benjamin one of my kids and pray for him too. All babies live somewhere in their mommies hearts. HUGS!

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

I hear you hon....I m/c the month before our with baby Charlie so always think about being approx a month ahead of where I am now esp with our 2nd scan date approaching I keep thinking if we hadnt of m/c our I would know my babys sex now I am so so grateful to be expecting again so soon but it doesnt take away the sadness I feel!

 

[crazyfrog]

Sorry to hear you are feeling sad. I had a mc before this pregnancy. I sometimes think that my baby would be 4 months old by now. It is very difficult i think for others to understand unless they have experienced it no matter how sympathetic they are. It is terrible thing to go through regardless of the stage of pregnancy and something i think a woman will never forget. That is being a mother. How you feel is perfectly natural. Look after yourself. Think of all the wonderful things you do have - a great man (even if they aren't always as understanding as we'd like) a son who looks adorable and another little baby to look forward to. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx