I'm probably not the usual type of poster, but I'm sitting here going out of my mind with worry and would appreaciate any guidance you may have.
My girlfriend and I have been together for a long time and only very recently started actively trying for a baby. However there had certainly been times during our decade plus relationship where we could have been more 'careful' and I'd always been a bit worried that it hadn't just happened by accident.
Anyway to cut a long story short I got my gp to refer me for a sperm test and sadly the results are not great. The count itself is not awful (although could be better) but the mobility is very poor.
I've paid to get tested privately tomorrow as don't want to have to wait, and I'm hoping that some of my issues might be the result of being misadvised by the gp to abstain for at least 7 days before my original test - am now told at least 2 days but no more then 5.
Anyway, I'm really struggling with this. Not so much for myself but because I feel I've completely let down my GF who I love dearly. She wants a baby more then anything and I'm devastated that I might not be able to give her one.
We've spoken and she was of course understanding and supportive, but deep down she must be upset. I don't think for a moment she'd leave me, but I'm increasingly thinking maybe it would be kinder if I let her go. I don't want her to grow to resent me or to deprive her of her chance to be a mother.
I know I'm probably not thinking straight, particularly as I've only had one test, but I'm just completely numb at the moment... I don't smoke, never done drugs, never had an STD, barely drink, eat pretty healthy and apart from being a little anxious have never had any health problems. Yet here I am...
How can I deal with this?
My girlfriend and I have been together for a long time and only very recently started actively trying for a baby. However there had certainly been times during our decade plus relationship where we could have been more 'careful' and I'd always been a bit worried that it hadn't just happened by accident.
Anyway to cut a long story short I got my gp to refer me for a sperm test and sadly the results are not great. The count itself is not awful (although could be better) but the mobility is very poor.
I've paid to get tested privately tomorrow as don't want to have to wait, and I'm hoping that some of my issues might be the result of being misadvised by the gp to abstain for at least 7 days before my original test - am now told at least 2 days but no more then 5.
Anyway, I'm really struggling with this. Not so much for myself but because I feel I've completely let down my GF who I love dearly. She wants a baby more then anything and I'm devastated that I might not be able to give her one.
We've spoken and she was of course understanding and supportive, but deep down she must be upset. I don't think for a moment she'd leave me, but I'm increasingly thinking maybe it would be kinder if I let her go. I don't want her to grow to resent me or to deprive her of her chance to be a mother.
I know I'm probably not thinking straight, particularly as I've only had one test, but I'm just completely numb at the moment... I don't smoke, never done drugs, never had an STD, barely drink, eat pretty healthy and apart from being a little anxious have never had any health problems. Yet here I am...
How can I deal with this?