First scan this Thursday! Excited, terrified & stressing!

[Buttercup_Way]

Hello ladies,

So, I have my first scan this Thursday at 8.40am (UK). This is my 5th pregnancy but 3rd baby all being well as I've lost 2 due to MMC's. Despite 2 healthy little girls at home I am so nervous about this scan. I'm struggling to get the image out of my head from my first MMC and it's ruining my excitement for Thursdays scan. I know it's perfectly natural to worry but it's just not something I have any control over.

Anyone else due for their scan soon feeling at all similar? I'm exactly 12 wks today according to the MW but I know my dates are bound to be off slightly as my cycles vary from 32 - 40 days!

My husband keeps telling me to stop stressing, with all my previous pregnancies I had no pregnancy symptoms whatsoever, with this one I've had nausea all day, every day since week 5 so he sees that as a good sign! I'm not convinced that's a strong enough case to let my worries lie.

Just looking for some support over these next few days if possible!

Thank you for listening! Xx

 

[DobbyForever]

Hugs I'm stressing as well. TBH I am dreading my appointment on Friday. I have seen beanie twice already but idk. I'm so worried I feel like I can't even enjoy that my prenatal is a few days away

 

[UnderPressure]

I can totally understand how you'd be stressed after having been through 2 MMCs. Chances are good everything will be great, though. I'll be thinking of you and your sweet baby

 

[Wish85]

I'm not going to tell you not to stress because I was before my scan and I haven't even suffered a MMC so I think you are justified for feeling the way you do, but I wish you all the best and it's certainly a positive sign that you do have morning sickness and no reasons to think anything has happened to bub ie bleeding, cramping etc.

Please come back and update us xx

 

[Natnee]

Best of luck buttercup. I've got an early one booked for next Friday 30th. My aim at the moment is to get past 6 weeks (tomorrow) as all my recent losses I've not got past 6 weeks. Feeling a bit more positive this time as tests still look v dark and got 3+ on a digi yesterday (same as a week ago) and symptoms still here (sporadically) xx

 

[Buttercup_Way]

I can totally understand how you'd be stressed after having been through 2 MMCs. Chances are good everything will be great, though. I'll be thinking of you and your sweet baby

Thank you so much for replying! Its so reassuring having you ladies by my side! I know my body doesn't expel pregnancies itself as I had to have D&C's with both MMC's and my body doesn't register its made the loss which scares me the most. I just have no idea. I will keep you all posted and let you know how it goes. Ill try and be positive as much as I can

Hugs I'm stressing as well. TBH I am dreading my appointment on Friday. I have seen beanie twice already but idk. I'm so worried I feel like I can't even enjoy that my prenatal is a few days away

Aw hun, I'm right there with you! Take comfort that you have seen your little one already, that must be reassuring to a degree but I know as well as you do that until we hit that 12 week scan, nothing feels safe. Your scan is the day after mine so I will update as soon as I've had it and hopefully provide a little more comfort for you. My nausea has subsided this morning, have yet to feel it at all but I know that can happen now I've hit that 12 wk mark, trying not to let the littlest things worry me even more. These few days until Thursday have gone so incredibly slow. I wish I'd had a reassurance scan just to see that baby is growing. I'm so frightened of going and not seeing a baby the size I should be. Must try my best and remain strong, try and preoccupy ourselves over the next few days. Here if you want to talk or go over concerns... Its a huge support having someone talk too! Wishing you all the best

I'm not going to tell you not to stress because I was before my scan and I haven't even suffered a MMC so I think you are justified for feeling the way you do, but I wish you all the best and it's certainly a positive sign that you do have morning sickness and no reasons to think anything has happened to bub ie bleeding, cramping etc.

Please come back and update us xx

Thank you so much for responding! Its that awful feeling knowing how my body doesn't react to the loss of a pregnancy and continues to respond as though nothings wrong that worries me the most. Thinking that the last indicator I had that things were okay would have been my positive pregnancy test at 5 weeks and in the meantime ive no idea if things have progressed at all. I'm holding on to it being a good sign, having nausea (although typically today I woke with absolutely none), but I do know that happens as we reach this stage of pregnancy so I'm doing my best not to stress about that as well

I promise to update as soon as I can. It will if nothing else provide reassurance to anyone in a similar boat with previous MMC's because its just such an uncertainty! Xx

Again, thank you so much for all the responses! Means a lot to me!! Its hard to express my fears to family and friends because they haven't been through anything similar and I just don't want to be constantly coming across as completely down about it all. My husband is very positive, I don't want to bring him down with me which I'm pretty sure I'm beginning to do. Wishing everyone all the best! Lots of baby dust!

 

[Buttercup_Way]

Best of luck buttercup. I've got an early one booked for next Friday 30th. My aim at the moment is to get past 6 weeks (tomorrow) as all my recent losses I've not got past 6 weeks. Feeling a bit more positive this time as tests still look v dark and got 3+ on a digi yesterday (same as a week ago) and symptoms still here (sporadically) xx

Thank you Natnee, I'm so sorry to hear about your previous losses. The waiting, no matter how many pregnancies ive had, seems to put added stress on it all. Its getting through a day at a time and taking comfort that each passing day is a positive sign. Have your losses been MC's or MMC's? The most worrying part for me is just not knowing whether anything has progressed! With my previous MMCs my body just hasn't registered anything has happened! Mines Thursday so only a few more days and luckily its an early scan so ill have no time to think about it too much when I wake before ill be sat in that waiting room. Can feel my anxiety already when I think about it. Last time, they moved the screen for me so I didn't have see anything in case id experienced another loss which was very kind and helped a little. I wish you all the best with this pregnancy! Keep us posted wont you... Sending lots of baby dust your way! Xx

 

[Natnee]

Best of luck buttercup. I've got an early one booked for next Friday 30th. My aim at the moment is to get past 6 weeks (tomorrow) as all my recent losses I've not got past 6 weeks. Feeling a bit more positive this time as tests still look v dark and got 3+ on a digi yesterday (same as a week ago) and symptoms still here (sporadically) xx

Thank you Natnee, I'm so sorry to hear about your previous losses. The waiting, no matter how many pregnancies ive had, seems to put added stress on it all. Its getting through a day at a time and taking comfort that each passing day is a positive sign. Have your losses been MC's or MMC's? The most worrying part for me is just not knowing whether anything has progressed! With my previous MMCs my body just hasn't registered anything has happened! Mines Thursday so only a few more days and luckily its an early scan so ill have no time to think about it too much when I wake before ill be sat in that waiting room. Can feel my anxiety already when I think about it. Last time, they moved the screen for me so I didn't have see anything in case id experienced another loss which was very kind and helped a little. I wish you all the best with this pregnancy! Keep us posted wont you... Sending lots of baby dust your way! Xx

Thank you. Mine have been mc and 1 chemical, all being so early they've been pretty much like af's. It's so hard as since my 2nd little girl was stillborn I've desperately wanted a sibling for my little girl. Each time I get a bfp I think, this is it, only to have my hopes smashed again. Just getting to 6 weeks is now my target but I know the whole pregnancy will be scary. Each time though I feel the odds must be better?

 

[BB1982]

Hi, mine is also on thursday, excited and apprehensive all at once. I just want them to tell me quickly that baby is ok so I can relax and enjoy the experience. I had an early scan a few weeks ago and saw the heart beating but the constant worry that something has gone wrong is always there. Good luck, let's hope we all have happy healthy wriggly babies x

 

[Buttercup_Way]

Oh my gosh Natnee I'm so sorry, you've been through so much! They do say the odds in these things happening are very low, so the only way to cope sometimes is to look at it like the previous losses have happened, you were in those odds but how many times can those odds be against you! You have a lovely miracle little girl, lets hope, being Christmas that we all get the end to a year we so desperately want. Just take it day by day. 6 wk mark, followed by 7 wk mark and so on. I do wish my body would recognise a loss itself without having to see that scan image, just breaks my heart! X

 

[Buttercup_Way]

Hi, mine is also on thursday, excited and apprehensive all at once. I just want them to tell me quickly that baby is ok so I can relax and enjoy the experience. I had an early scan a few weeks ago and saw the heart beating but the constant worry that something has gone wrong is always there. Good luck, let's hope we all have happy healthy wriggly babies x

Hello, thank you for responding. Ours are the same day then, what time is yours booked in? I wish id had the reassurance of an early scan, not sure if you've followed the previous posts but my first and only true indicator was a positive pregnancy test at 5 weeks and now my scan. I have had nausea which is new to me for a pregnancy so I'm holding on to that being a promising sign that everything is working as it should be. However, because my body carries on thinking its pregnant until I have surgery to remove it, I just cant take that as a guarantee. I'm too scared to believe it will be fine just to have it taken away from me again. I think its sometimes better to be prepared for the worse just so it isn't so much of a shock, for me anyway, that's the best way I can cope. I agree completely with you, the minute they can tell me its ok, they see a heartbeat, the better. Its that wait, they are looking on the screen and I can just tell when somethings wrong. I did with both MMC's! I'm so anxious this time, I don't remember being this bad before... I think the fear of losing again has really taken its toll on me.
Good luck for your scan! Keep us posted!!

 

[BB1982]

My scan is 4.30pm so have to wait all day!! I had an early scan due to bleeding so it was a bit scary, but all was fine with the scan. It was very quick, am looking forward to having a longer appointment this time and hopefully a scan picture which looks like a baby rather than a peanut shaped white blob like a few weeks ago. Less that 48 hours to go and it feels like weeks!! I was the same as you, half thought I'd imagined the whole pregnancy right up to seeing baby there on the screen and seeing 'viable singleton pregnancy' written on my notes!! Xx

 

[Buttercup_Way]

Glad to hear the bleeding was nothing to worry about! I had bleeding with my second pregnancy, very scary time but like you, nothing to worry about.
4.30pm, the wait would also drive me mad! Especially as it states in the letter that you have to drink so much water beforehand to ensure you have a full bladder. I'm going to have to get up, down the water, get my girls dressed and ready for my Mums and then drive the 20 minutes to the hospital! All without one single stop to wee lol. Oh the joy - But at least it will take my mind of any anxiety I guess.
Cant believe its less than 48 hours away... Excitement is starting to creep in amongst my fears! Being so close to Christmas as well, I just want it to go well!

I will keep everyone updated!

Baby dust to us both for Thursday! Xx

 

[BB1982]

I don't think I could get up and not pee!! My bladder is usually full to exploding even with getting up in the night to go. Goodness knows what I'll be like at 9 months! Think I'm going to need a bed pan!! 😂 goo luck, x

 

[Natnee]

Oh my gosh Natnee I'm so sorry, you've been through so much! They do say the odds in these things happening are very low, so the only way to cope sometimes is to look at it like the previous losses have happened, you were in those odds but how many times can those odds be against you! You have a lovely miracle little girl, lets hope, being Christmas that we all get the end to a year we so desperately want. Just take it day by day. 6 wk mark, followed by 7 wk mark and so on. I do wish my body would recognise a loss itself without having to see that scan image, just breaks my heart! X

That's what it'll be, taking each week as it comes. Tomorrow will be the first and probably one of my most important benchmarks. Well I've not really felt nauseous today, that comes and goes, but I've been absolutely shattered today. Tried to have a nap this afternoon but as there was only half an hour to go out on school run I was paranoid I'd not wake up. Set the alarm on my phone but every 5 minutes I'd jolt awake to check the time

 

[Wish85]

I've only had 2 chemical pregnancies and they were hard enough so I can't even imagine going through 1 let alone 2 MMC's. You are so strong and brave to put yourself out there again and I hope this is your rainbow baby which I'm sure it is. Make sure you update us and tell us the good news!! xx

 

[Buttercup_Way]

I've only had 2 chemical pregnancies and they were hard enough so I can't even imagine going through 1 let alone 2 MMC's. You are so strong and brave to put yourself out there again and I hope this is your rainbow baby which I'm sure it is. Make sure you update us and tell us the good news!! xx

Thank you for such a lovely message! Meant a lot to me. I promise to let you all know how I get on tomorrow. 8.40am!! I'm so nervous!! Symptoms have now almost completely subsided but at least I only have to wait until tomorrow morning to find out how everything is.
Thank you again for your support and reassurance!
Xx

 

[Buttercup_Way]

That's all we can do in these situations Natnee! I hope things are okay today and your feeling well! My nausea today and everything else has almost completely subsided, I feel nothing at all but I only have to wait it out until tomorrow morning so fingers crossed the time now speeds up for me.
I completely get where your coming from with regards to napping and potentially sleeping over I struggled in the first 6 weeks and only had a few hours between preschool runs so I spent most of my time looking like id not slept in days whilst I clung to a decaf coffee When I was forced to socialise I just kept apologising for my appearance and attitude

I have my flu jab this afternoon, 2.55pm! Hate needles but I've been told its not too bad! Simple scratch and a numb arm for a bit. I don't remember what it was like with previous pregnancies but you know what its like, we work ourselves up over every aspect of pregnancy lol!

Ill let you know how tomorrow goes! I'm so nervous!!! Keeping everything crossed!!! X

 

[Wish85]

Can't wait for update Buttercup xx

 

[Natnee]

Good luck buttercup xx