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Because when we had DS it was a little traumatic and he hated watching. He is grateful his son was born alive and well don't get me wrong, but it has left him so shaken that he's petrified of what this labour will bring - to the extent he doesn't know if he wants to even be here
He will be here because I have asked if he can be there for me if nothing else, I mean, how does he think I feel - i can't walk away and not watch... Its me its happening to... I have tried to reassur him that just because we laboured badly last time it doesn't mean that this one will be anything like that one, but getting through to someone who is clearly badly traumatised from what was seen...
The differences this time make me "believe" this labour should be better than with my son, I had anterior placenta with him and laboured back to back, he got totally stuck... This time I have posterior placenta, I always feel hiccups low low down and to the left hand side just above my pubic bone and can always feel a hard part that I am assuming is baby's bum around about and just above my belly button, heart beat is more often than not found low down too - surely taking these facts into account the chances of a back to back labour are slim????
I dont want him to worry about the labour, I would rather him try put it aside and concentrate on being there and thinking positive, I understand that it will be hard for him, it's something I have pondered over myself many times... But I had no idea until last night he felt this way
Can anyone offer me any reassurance? Surely the above differences are a positive indicator right? My labour with my DD 11 years ago was fantastic, she was posterior and was almost always head down but thats all i can remember!!!
Thank you reading xx
He will be here because I have asked if he can be there for me if nothing else, I mean, how does he think I feel - i can't walk away and not watch... Its me its happening to... I have tried to reassur him that just because we laboured badly last time it doesn't mean that this one will be anything like that one, but getting through to someone who is clearly badly traumatised from what was seen...
The differences this time make me "believe" this labour should be better than with my son, I had anterior placenta with him and laboured back to back, he got totally stuck... This time I have posterior placenta, I always feel hiccups low low down and to the left hand side just above my pubic bone and can always feel a hard part that I am assuming is baby's bum around about and just above my belly button, heart beat is more often than not found low down too - surely taking these facts into account the chances of a back to back labour are slim????
I dont want him to worry about the labour, I would rather him try put it aside and concentrate on being there and thinking positive, I understand that it will be hard for him, it's something I have pondered over myself many times... But I had no idea until last night he felt this way
Can anyone offer me any reassurance? Surely the above differences are a positive indicator right? My labour with my DD 11 years ago was fantastic, she was posterior and was almost always head down but thats all i can remember!!!
Thank you reading xx