Last night FOB informed me that he was planning on going to his family reunion next year probably in July. It is on a cruise this year and is planning on taking Noelle with him. I told him I wasn't sure about that. He does take good care of Noiee but has never had her for more than 12 hours by himself and complains when I make him take care of her at night. Its not that I think he would neglect or hurt her but I am not comfortable with her on a cruise without me. To be fair, when we first split my family had been planning a trip down to the coast (about 4 hours away) for a weekend and i wouldn't let him go. So he spent 2 days without her. I have never been without her. I have seen her every morning and every night even if its just for a few seconds to tell her good night when I get home from work very late. He will get mad when I go to my moms for dinner, and leave until after we get home and go to bed, so he has gone days without seeing her just because I wasnt home when he got there, even though I told him where i was. I just dont think he is mature enough to take a 17 month old on a cruise by himself. He was all like "but she will be walking by then" I said "thats even worse, youll have to watch her even closer and run after her" he just had this attitude of whats the worst that could happen. Noiee HATES water. I mean she screams like we are bathing her in acid and stares at the water like it is going to bite her. She wont even go near a fountain or pond with out whining and trying to cling to me just in case i might put her in it. I cant imagine what going on a cruise with her would be like. Not to mention that I have a phobia of water. I will not go in water I cant see or touch the bottom and I wont go near a railing where there is water on the other side that is deep. I almost drowned when I was 4. My mother pulled me out of a lake right before I past out. I can still remember seeing the water above my head and being unable to reach the top. And I am terrified that it will happen to her. So my question here is.. Am I being unreasonable in telling him no? or should I just suck it up and say that he is her father and should be able to take her?