For everyone who has gotten a BFP - can you share your story

[leelee]

I am 28, DH is 38. We started to TTC in Feb '99 but seeing as I have severe PCOS and only get a cycle every 6-9 months, we did not have much luck. Over the years, we did everything... BCPs to regulate cycles (EPIC FAILURE), Clomid (FAIL), IUI (Fail), Injections (Fail). Finally, last December they told us that our last option was IVF but that is completely unaffordable for us so we just stopped. We decided to go back to being a happy married couple and enjoy life.

My last period was in early December and as I went off all the meds, just forgot about it. On St. Patricks Day of this year, I was feeling a bit sickly and has the internet cheapies laying around so I figured why not take one. What do you know?!

So, once we decided not to try, it happened and it is SUCH irony because I used to get violently angry when people would tell me to stop trying so hard.

God works in mysterious ways, I guess.

to all the TTCers. I have been there for 10 long years. I totally understand the frustrations!

Wow, huge congrats to you! I think it is true. It seems to happen to most people when they are more chilled out about the whole thing. I am trying to be as chilled as possible. Maybe I will BD every 2nd day til AF arrives. It might be more relaxed.

 

[Cherry Cherry]

Cherrycheery, congrats on your . I am in a similar situation to you. 4 of my very close friends are pregnant (one on her 2nd) and I am feeling a bit under pressure as well. I have bought 'Taking Control of your Fertility' but think I will buy Zita West's book as well.

Thanks Leelee - just hoping for the best now!

Are you able to talk to these friends about it? I haven't felt able to, but no doubt when I tell them I'm pg I'll mention how I was feeling and will probably think I should have just spoken to them about it. It's just hard when you worry they'll make insensitive comments without really meaning to.

I have a friend who took a year to get her BFP and had a great chat with her about it all. She was great and reassured me that everything I was feeling was normal, and that she had felt the same. She also recommended reflexology as it helped her - I was looking into that for next month too.

The book helped me, particularly the whole Chinese medicine side of it all. I really went with the whole 'keeping your lower abdomen warm' thing, and am still doing that - want to keep the bean cosy!
Good luck to you!

 

[leelee]

Cherrycheery, congrats on your . I am in a similar situation to you. 4 of my very close friends are pregnant (one on her 2nd) and I am feeling a bit under pressure as well. I have bought 'Taking Control of your Fertility' but think I will buy Zita West's book as well.

Thanks Leelee - just hoping for the best now!

Are you able to talk to these friends about it? I haven't felt able to, but no doubt when I tell them I'm pg I'll mention how I was feeling and will probably think I should have just spoken to them about it. It's just hard when you worry they'll make insensitive comments without really meaning to.

I have a friend who took a year to get her BFP and had a great chat with her about it all. She was great and reassured me that everything I was feeling was normal, and that she had felt the same. She also recommended reflexology as it helped her - I was looking into that for next month too.

The book helped me, particularly the whole Chinese medicine side of it all. I really went with the whole 'keeping your lower abdomen warm' thing, and am still doing that - want to keep the bean cosy!
Good luck to you!

Thanks Tiggercats,

None of my friends live near me (I live away from home) so don't feel like I can chat to them about it. I do have a friend who took ages to fall pregnant so may discuss it with her if it takes longer than 6 months.

Have just ordered the Zita West bookfrom Amazon so will get that during the week. I have always been really interested in reflexology so I think I will try that next month if nothing happens this month. It will be a nice treat and I found a local fertility centre that do it so it should be a good sign.

Glad all is going well with you.

 

[seattlemama]

Hi, Im 23 now but was 21 when I got pregnant. My husband and I were TTC for 8 months when we got pregnant. I had been on birth control for 4 years before we decided to start TTC, so when we started trying I went off. For the first 5 months I didnt do any OPKs or charting, except charting PMS symptoms and AF dates. I had a very irregular cycle after going off birth control, ranging from 27 days to 47 days at its longest. By the 6th month I realized I was starting to even out to between 30-35 day cycles. So I started doing OPK tests and drinking "Fertili-tea" which has red raspberry leaf and other herbs to help with reproductive health. Also, my husband drinks a lot of caffinated pop (coke, mt dew, etc) and he stopped drinking that around 5 months of TTC.

8 days past ovulation I had light pink spotting for one day and then nothing else.

The day I was supposed to start AF I broke out in hives so I went to the doc because I didnt know what was wrong, I had never had them before. He sent me to the store to get some cream and I walked past the pregnancy tests and thought "I dont feel pregnant but why not?" So I bought some, took one when I got home and the moment my pee started moving across the little screen the blue line showed up right away. I had absolutly no pregnancy symptoms at all. At 5 weeks along I had some bleeding but everything was ok. I cramped until about 12 weeks, menstral like cramps, and then I continued cramping with ligament stretching. I got a little nauseas between the 7-9th weeks and my boobs never hurt or were sore until the very end of pregnancy. Although, strangly I started leaking colostrum at 18 weeks along. Anyway, my point is that you can be pregnant and feel no physical change. I took 6 pregnancy tests and went in for a blood test before I believed it because I didnt feel any diffrent.

As far as BDing we did it every other day for about a week and a half to two weeks in the middle of each cycle. Sometimes daily, mostly at night. Always him on top to help with the gravity issue and I always laid in bed with pillows under my butt for about 15-30 min after.

My advice... RELAX! I know I know, easier said than done. But really, the month I finally relaxed and had kinda given up a little was the month I got pregnant. Also, take two OPKs daily, once in the AM and once in the PM. This way if you ovulate after you already took one test you can catch it on the other.

Good luck ladies! I hope this helps somehow

 

[Jessa]

I've had two BFP so far. My hubby and I decided to start TTC last June, so I went off the bcp and got pregnant right away. That ended in miscarriage at 7 weeks in August. I got pregnant again in October, but that also ended in a miscarriage at 17 weeks in February.

Both times I got pregnant, I sort of just "knew"....usually a few days before getting the positive test. I also was really, really bloated, had lots of gas, and all of a sudden had tons of zits (which I've noticed have decided to stay since our miscarriage in February!).

Like others have said, I also recommend trying to relax....big time. It's a lot easier said than done, but when I felt consumed by TTC, it wasn't was much fun and wasn't always successful. It's a lot better when you just take it day by day and try to forget about the TTC part.

Good luck to all!

 

[eclipse]

I've had two bfp's. The first one, I was 30. Never wanted kids. On BCP. I had a weird breakthrough bleed a few weeks before my period was due and then didn't get my actual period. I waited a few days then took a test. I put it down, cleaned up, looked down, and almost passed out, since the line was as dark as the control line. I didn't have a ton of symptoms, just sore boobs, and I threw up asparagus once. I started bleeding with no pain about a month later, went to the doctor, threatened miscarriage, did levels, went two days later, levels, rising very much, did ultrasound, baby was dead. I was further along than they thought, 10 1/2 weeks, but the baby died at 6 weeks. I was sent for an emergency d and c because I wasn't letting go of it physically at all and was bleeding out. After this devastation, I needed time to heal and get physically ready so we waited a few months. I never temped or anything, just didn't prevent. I got pregnant with my son and tested at work (I worked in a surgery center, the tests can pick up 4 days after fertilization) so found out about 3-4 weeks in. It was immediately different. A ton of symptoms, the first time I got nauseous I almost cried for joy. That first test was light because it was early but just as beautiful. I had the bloating, the crying, a few zits (i don't break out), nausea and random vomiting (and I do mean random LOL), peeing all the time, and boob pain, and uber exhaustion. The last 3 were my early symptoms. Didn't really have them as bad with the first bfp. Hope this helps, and isn't tmi.

 

[lou1979]

Hi im Lorraine, im 29 (30 on sunday_) boooo lol

I have 2 little boys aged 6 and 4...

I fell pregnant in Jan 09 and found out that was ectopic, had my right tube removed on the 20th Jan...

waited for my next period which never arrived and then 23rd feb BFP!! i used opk's throughout feb to see if my overies were getting back on track , but i never for one min thought that i would get preg so so quick..

anyway im now nearly 13 weeks and feel very lucky even though i went through hell in early part of 2009 (worst time of my life) but they say these things happen for a reason.

 

[DaisyBee]

DH is 33 and I am 30. We started trying in spring of 07. May of 07 I had a chemical - very faint bfp that went away & got my af soon after. Had another chemical Oct of 07. We were heartbroken & scared - thought something was wrong with us. We stopped trying. Late spring of 08 we decided we were ready to try again. After 1 month of trying my cycles got all screwed up - usually have 31 day cycle with no bleeding in between. All of a sudden I was having AF every 10-15 days and each one would last about 5 days - so dr. put me on birth control to regulate things. Was on bcp for the summer of 08. Got the ok to start trying again late sept- we were bding about every other day midmonth and trying to not stress about it. Nov. dh was away for work and we missed O time. Jan we messed timing up and didnt do it at the right times(dh was too sick to bd)

We got our bfp April 11 - 10dpo. I had bought Zita West's book also + another fertility book. 6 weeks before bfp I started taking Bcomplex, selenium, magnesium, 1 baby asprin, and continued my prenatal vitamin. DH started taking multivitamin, 1000 mg vit. c, 50 mg zinc, 400 iu vit E. DH cut out alcohol almost completely since feb. I had already cut out all caffeine for past 4 months. DH & I were trying to eat healthier & both lost a little weight.
In March we used preseed and opks for first time. We o'd right when I thought I would - but it was nice to see the dark lines! We bd on CD 15, CD 16, CD 17 (+opk) CD 18 (+opk) CD 19 (-opk). I was cramping on CD 20 and CD 21 ( I do not cramp until I get AF) Woke up on CD23 starving in a.m. Noticed nipples were erect that week and sensitive but bb's were normal feeling. Had backache a little a few days before BFP. Took my first hpt on CD10 with fmu. Didnt wait to read it - decided I didnt really feel pregnant and went back to bed! When I woke up I looked at it & saw a line - which I thought must be an evap- it was faint (but pink) took a ic hpt with smu which was very faint but came within time limit. So held my pee and didnt drink anything from noon to 4 pm and peed in a cup. Tested same urine with different tests - digi's said Pregnant which when I had my chemicals never saw that word. Walmart equate tests and first response were both good lines - no mistaking. Continued testing the rest of the week.... ok maybe longer and lines got dark. Had cramping 11dpo and a little brown mixed in with cm. Went to er to have bloods done on CD12. HCG was 86. CD14 went in to clinic to have bloods redone - nurse saw my hcg # from monday and told me I wasnt pregnant. I was devastated! After my appt. I went home and cried. Dr. called me 2 hrs later and said new # was 249 and progesterone was 22.2. He said everything looks great & no worries. Stupid nurse!!! So now, finally am starting to believe it. BB's started hurting a lot - really sore! Cramping on & off & starting to feel really ick- kind of like a hangover feeling. Really tired all the time. No vomiting yet.

Good luck everyone on getting your Hope my journey can help someone else!

 

[JayDee]

I'm 29, OH is 32.
I stopped taking microgynon BCP in Jan and started TTC straight away.
Didn't temp/check ov etc but tried to BD every day from about CD 9 to CD 19.
It got pretty tiring towards the end of that time but it did work! We were talking about doing ov tests or something the next month to try and concentrate efforts but it wasn't needed in the end.

The only other things we did was OH stopped having really hot baths and we both tried to eat a bit healthier. I took folic acid and (in the last month only) vitamin B6 which is thought to regulate your cycles a bit (not sure of the medical proof behind this but thought it was worth a try).

I have no idea which of these if any made a difference or if it was just our month. Good luck to you all x

 

[littlestar]

We're both 28, I came off the pill (Microgynon 30) in march 08 after being on the pill 13 years.

my cycles had difficulty sorting themselves out, i only had 6 periods in 12 months, so i have a ovary scan in Aug 08 got the all clear then hubby did an SA in Nov 08 and all his levels were good too.

My GP always told us she would refer us when we got to 12 months TTC, so in Feb 09 went to see my GP on a very long cycle was something like CD46 when i saw my lovely GP and we got referred to a specialist. CD65 the day before my appointment with the fertility Guy we got our we went to the appointment anyway to find out if there was any underlying issues for my cycles etc. I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid which was interfering with my cycles.

I'm now on meds to control my thyroid as my condition can affect our LO's development, i'm just glad they spotted it early to prevent anything bad happening.

The only thing i did different in my pregnancy cycle was start taking pregnacare which also has the vit b's in it, i was taking Vit b complex for several cycles before that and realised that the dosage was too low for them to have any notable benefit.

 

[Laurenj22]

Hi

I'm 24 (OH 28 ) BFP in Dec 08 unplanned but not unwanted..... sore bb's and bad skin, occasional bloating and gassy feeling. No heartbeat at 12 week scan, m/c'd 15.02.09.

Cycle following was 42 days and very difficult to work out where in the cycle I was.

This cycle charted CM and bd'ed every other day since cd7.

LMP 27.03.09, no sore bb's but gassy bloated feeling and burning feeling in chest as though I was getting indigestion. Very emotional and kept snapping at poor OH, bfp on 24/04/2009. Just really tired and hoping it will stick

to everyone ttc

xxx

 

[Cherry Cherry]

None of my friends live near me (I live away from home) so don't feel like I can chat to them about it. I do have a friend who took ages to fall pregnant so may discuss it with her if it takes longer than 6 months.

Have just ordered the Zita West bookfrom Amazon so will get that during the week. I have always been really interested in reflexology so I think I will try that next month if nothing happens this month. It will be a nice treat and I found a local fertility centre that do it so it should be a good sign.

Glad all is going well with you.

Thanks - everything is crossed! Going to see the doctor on Friday!
I recommend that chat with your friend. I hadn't seen mine for a while, as she was off on mat leave, and was really looking forward to the chat, it eased my mind.
Good luck with the book - hope it helps you. My local beauty salon does reflexology - they do a lot of the more unusual things - colonic (!) etc. too.
Relax and enjoy the treats. My sis also told DH he should be treating me and paying for all these things - I couldn't agree more with this philosophy!!!
xoxo

 

[Kelly9]

Great thread leelee! I am ttc still but love reading about others stories!

 

[Csunshine013]

I am 38(DH is 31) we got married in Aug 08 and weren't actively trying but not preventing. I got my BPF on Dec. 10 08 I don't know what made me take the test as I was due the following day and not yet late. I just had a feeling. I didn't temp or use any opk's. I had really sore boobs, to the point I had to sleep in a sports bra to even lay down. I did pee quite a lot, but that's not unusual for me. Unfortunatly I had a missed m/c in Mar at 15w+5d. I was induced and had a d & c 9 Mar. since then we used protection until my cycle returned. We have bd'd cd8,cd10,cd12,14,15 and my hubby leaves for work out of town for the next three nights starting Tues. I hope we accomplished what we set out to do. LOL

 

[TigerLady]

*I had been TTC for 6 months.
*I was using opks, CM, and BBT charting from the start.
*I was trying to use CP charting but it was doing my head in!
*I would aim for bd'ing at least 4 of my 5 most fertile days (4 days leading up to o plus day of o).
*I would stay in bed as long as possible (no less than 15-20 minutes) with my hips up.
*I used a conception friendly (like preseed) lube the month I got my bfp.
*The month I got my bfp, OH refused to bd with me after ovulation because he said "it needed to settle for at least 5 days." Not sure that is true, but he is convinced that is what did it! Personally, I think he just wanted a break from all the sex!
*I was seeing an OB and on my 6th cycle he started to do bloods to test if I was ovulating. Thankfully I got my bfp before we got too far into that!
*I was 32 while TTC (33 now)
*OH is 38

to everyone!!!

 

[leelee]

Thanks everyone for adding their story. There is some great advice on there.

Sorry to anyone who has suffered a loss.

 

[susan_1981]

I was 26 (a month away from my 27th birthday) when I got my BFP. I came off the pill in October, had my period as normal, then had a 27 day cycle that month, then the next one and got my BFP on 23 October. It took me a while to get to grips with all this fertility business, embarrassingly I didn't even know what ovulating was!!!

We did something similar to SMEP the month of my BFP, I hadn't planned to do that but we were just doing it every other night and when I got my positive OPK, then we BD'd for about 4 or 5 nights in a row. Got my official BFP at 12dpo.

I'm pretty sure I know the night I got pregnant - although obviously I can't be sure - but after we'd DTD, I just went straight to sleep, no bum on pillow but I didn't go to the loo afterwards either. I'm pretty sure that was the night it happened. Unfortunately I miscarried and now it's 5 months on from that and I hope this is going to be my month! I'm getting impatient!

 

[Ablaski17]

Hey Everyone ,

-My name is Allison Iam 19 & the hubby is Joe he is 20.
-This was our first month TTC
- My 2WW symptoms were cramps & pulling , gassy & kind of tired.
- I got my the day after AF was due


Hope this helps everyone.

 

[leelee]

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