For those with OH's that smoke..

[Katiie]

A question.

Now I'm not anti smoker, I used to smoke before I got pregnant, but the moment I saw that positive test I stopped. My OH still smokes but NOT inside the flat.

I was reading stuff about third hand smoke and second hand smoke relating to SIDS.
I'm now I'm worried.

Baby is going to sleep next to me in a Moses basket at night, our flat gets hot easily too so I may possibly have to have the window open, which is closer to my OH and the opposite side of the room to baby.

But apparently your chances of SIDS with the father smoking are higher too?

Am I mean to say I don't want him to hold the baby for five / ten minutes after he's had a fag? And I will want him to wash his hands with soap..

Or am I just over reacting..
What are you girls doing who are in the same situation?

 

[Frecks]

I'm asking my oh to wash his hands after a ciggie and also asking him to wear a jacket outside when he smokes which he can take off when he comes back in xxx

 

[Leopard]

They have actually not PROVEN any reasons for SIDS, just 'maybes'. I had a friend who did everything perfect, no smoking or anything near bub and yet her little girl still died...

 

[nicmum2b]

My OH smokes, and I am an ex smoker, soon to be smoker again. I know it sounds bad but I really can't wait to have a cigarette!!!

Neither of us smokes in the house at all, smoking is outside only. We will both wash our hands after smoking and try not to touch baby straight away afterwards. And I've refused to take baby around OH's Mum's house until they stop smoking in the house when LO is around. I'm annoyed as they have no intention of doing this and I haven't been around there in months as I want no smoking around me whilst pregnant and they can't even go outside for a cigarette! It's a joke! Guh sorry , rant over lol.

 

[shelleney]

My OH is a social smoker, he only smokes when he goes out drinking with the lads (which is very rare these days).
But I have told him that if he does smoke, he needs to shower, wash his hair, brush his teeth and put on a fresh set of clothes - all before he holds baby.
I just do not think it is worth the risk!!!

 

[Katiie]

I can't really ask my OH to do all that, he smokes a fair bit.

But I will make him wash his hands...
As for jackets... He pissed me off the other day, by wearing MY jumper to go outside ad smoke in!!

And when I told him not to wear mine he got pissy! I don't want my clothes smelling like an ash tray!

 

[nicolefx]

My OH was a smoker but quit when we found out we were having a baby . It's such an expensive habit and even without going into the health hazards the smell gets into everything - especially hair! I don't think your over reacting xxx

 

[hellywelly]

I don't think your overreacting when some of my colleagues for a ciggy at work they come back and they absolutely wreak - not sure about the health implications but I don't think it is nice - having said that my mum smoked throughout all three of her pregnancies lol and I turned out ok xxxxx

 

[jac33]

I made my oh quit when I got pregnant, we'd talked about it beforehand and he promised he would

 

[BeckyBoo]

My mum and dad smoked while mum was pregnant for us. They both smoked while we were babies, but not around us for the first few weeks and we're all fit and healthy.

My sister in law has had 4 healthy babies and she and my brother smoke around their children and during pregnancy.

I'd try not to worry about these things too much or you might end up never sleeping!

 

[sugarheart]

My OH is also a smoker (I'm not). I would never make him quit because at the end of the day it's his decision. I knew he smoked when I married him! He no longer smokes in our home though or the car, and when the baby arrives I will be asking him to wash his hands after a ciggerate and too change his top, or like others have said to wear a jacket whilst smoking and then taking it off to hold the baby. The thing that annoys me most is my MIL. She smokes inside her house (fair enough it's her house) but she smokes all around her other grandchildren (SIL kids) and I hate that, I think if you chose to smoke that's your choice but children shouldn't have to put up with it!

 

[ttcnewbie123]

My OH is a smoker, he'll be going outside to smoke and it'll be winter so he'll be wearing a coat which he'll then take off when he comes in. I've never smoked and would never allow smoking in my house, especially with a baby - hes got a chair in the shed so if its really cold and wet he'll just have to go in there! Sounds harsh but 2nd hand smoke is deadly x

 

[romeo.juliet]

Me and OH smoke. We will be smoking outside with an overshirt or jacket on then washing hands. My mom, dad, dad's gf, brother, and his wife will have to do the same until LO gets older. I have my concerns and will be careful, but I also grew up with smokers along with my 2 sisters and brother, as well as my neice and nephew, and my dad's gf kids.

 

[AlbaAngel24]

my hubby smokes! Used to smoke inside by the windows before I got pregnant. Ever since I got pregnant he goes outside, never smokes inside ever! plus he'll brush his teeth or wash his hands usually.
Like beckyboo said, My mom smoked with us during pregnancy and afterwards and I grew up okay. But I think i've read so much that it makes me paranoid, plus hubby wanted to smoke outside! Why not? Plus the house smells much better!!

 

[MrsMalowey]

Mine smokes but hardly at all. I don't know why he bothers. I think when baby comes I will ask him to stop smoking at home and only have one if he is out drinking etc. I hears you shouldn't let anyone hold the baby if they have smoked in the last half hour and they should change clothes/put a blanket over their shoulder if holding baby..
Xx

 

[hot tea]

I think it is completely fair to worry. Perhaps suggest he quit? I would.

 

[Rainie]

There is no medical proof it is connected just mere speculation at the moment. My parents both smoked and mum smoked when she was pregnant with me and my brother and we both were fine. My friend and her husband both smoke and continue to do so and they just had there second child also. So i think you just have to be responsible.

For me i do not smoke and my OH does and what i say to him is he cannot smoke next to me as i cannot stand the smell anymore and it makes me more comfortable. As for sleeping arrangements due to where we are my room will have me and my daughter and the newborn and he uses the other room. So i do not have to worry for the moment.

As for when we have our own place he will wash his hands after a ciggy and also smoke in one room away from baby or outside with a jacket on.

 

[BabyJ'sMummy]

Here is a link to the FSID website which gives a bit more info into smoking once baby is born...

https://fsid.org.uk/page.aspx?pid=409 xx

 

[cantwaitforu]

Mine has tried quitting and is doing quite well. I've told him that I don't want third hand smoke around the baby. I am even going as far as expressing concern around other family members who smoke and plan on visiting us. I just don't think it's right to have a cigarette, then hold a baby.

My cousin's son, who is watched by my cousin's mother (a smoker), has a severe lung illness at the moment - he either has pneumonia or is showing signs of having asthma.

I quit smoking nearly 4 years ago and should have more tolerance for it than I do. But really when it comes down to it for me and my DH, we don't matter anymore now that we have our little boy to care and worry about.

When I say "we don't matter" I mean in the sense that we're putting our baby's health and life first and will sacrifice whatever is necessary to give him every advantage in this world.

So, no, I do not think it is too much to ask your OH. He should be quitting anyway so that when the baby turns into a young adult, they don't see him smoking and want to copy daddy.

 

[xAmberLFCx]

Hey Katie

As you know I used to smoke,I quit when I was just over 12 weeks pregnant.. My OH still smokes, he did try and quit but found it too hard.. Also I know how hard it is to quit smoking as I was an emotional wreck lol but got there in the end! I think ur OH will quit if he WANTS to .. Like my OH he admitted he enjoys his cigs to much & that's why he is finding it hard to quit! We have spoke about this & there is no smoking in the flat anyway & I want him to wash his hands & brush his Teeth b4 he pics up little Man. X