Friendly thread -Why did you choose to FF?

[Hayley90]

She also asked for only those who had CHOSEN to ff.

 

[J23]

Nobody was reminding anyone of the benefits of breastfeeding, someone actually disputed that there were any, which is totally false and patch was simply correcting that.

WSS

A number of women will read this forum for advice in particular threads about choosing a course of action, be it feeding, sleeping, carrying, nappies, prams etc etc. It's wrong to have incorrect information cited as if fact when it's not correct and purely anecdotal.

 

[nicole_]

Why are people less in favour of BF 'allowed' to make false claims where as if someone DARES to provide correct info about BF, that's making people feel bad...? I don't get it

i think madcatwoman was just saying that from experience to her theres been no significant benefits between the two, thats what i got from it anyway ofc she knows the scientific research, how can she not by now! its fired into us left right and center

 

[patch2006uk]

She also asked for only those who had CHOSEN to ff.

That's true. But if you look through the posts, only a handful actually chose to. Most were forced due to circumstance, which is incredibly sad.

 

[doggy121]

i bf the first wk or so then my supply started to dwindle, i was super stressed due to my emergency c-sec where i hemmoraged and had a drain in my side,my dh was an emotional wreck from seeing his wife and son nearly both die (this wasnt really the case but dh thought this at the time and had nightmares seeing us both die, bless him|) so i wanted him to feed his son so he could bond and i did express for another two wks or so getting two 150ml bottles per day but eventually just soley ff and i'm so happy i did, my son was more settled, slept much longer, i was happier in myself with not haveing scabby sore nipples and tbh i really really wantedto enjoy a beer at the weekends when ds went down for the night( he sttn from 6wks!, this i put down to ff as he was getting a good feed!!) , i genuenly pity my bf friends from my baby club, even if they are happy as larry everytime i see them, they dont get a break from bf, its constant, they look nackered and some of there babys are very clingyand need to be held or feeding regardless if they are on the boob, i'm not saying i wont give it a proper go nxt time now i know how to do it properly with regards to expressing throughout the night etc to get the supply to increase, i'll hopefully not have the same complications as this time with my birth, but even then i will just do it those initial first few wks like i did this time but i'll be more clued up on how todo it and hopefully enjoy the experience before i change to ff .

 

[Mooshie]

Why are people less in favour of BF 'allowed' to make false claims where as if someone DARES to provide correct info about BF, that's making people feel bad...? I don't get it

i think madcatwoman was just saying that from experience to her theres been no significant benefits between the two, thats what i got from it anyway ofc she knows the scientific research, how can she not by now! its fired into us left right and center

Exactly what I thought. Absolutely no need for someone to come along and spout the "facts".

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

Why are people less in favour of BF 'allowed' to make false claims where as if someone DARES to provide correct info about BF, that's making people feel bad...? I don't get it

i think madcatwoman was just saying that from experience to her theres been no significant benefits between the two, thats what i got from it anyway ofc she knows the scientific research, how can she not by now! its fired into us left right and center

I don't have a problem with her stating that, that's fine.
However I do think others are equally entitled to state that that's purely anecdotal and that just because she may not have seen it for herself, BF does have all the benefits its purported to have. Her experiences do not disprove the facts.

 

[kerrie24]

How did I know this thread would end up with people bickering

Just as madcatwoman has the right to express her opinion on breastfeeding benefits to 'not have anything in it',Patch has the right to point out that it is in fact proven through research.My eldest was ff from birth and has no health problems etc,but it was reasearched on a much larger scale than one individual child.

 

[MrsPOP]

Can we calm down please?

Most of us know the scientific benefits of BF. However it's reassuring to me to know that millions of FF babies are ok and haven't developed the things we've been told our babies are at risk of due to our choice of feeding methods.

Let's all get along now eh?

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

haha Kerrie, great minds

 

[Blu10]

I have proudly FF from day 1 simply because I wanted to and wanted my hubby to be able to feed Oliver too. He's thriving now at 6 months and I wouldn't have it any other way

 

[patch2006uk]

Why are people less in favour of BF 'allowed' to make false claims where as if someone DARES to provide correct info about BF, that's making people feel bad...? I don't get it

i think madcatwoman was just saying that from experience to her theres been no significant benefits between the two, thats what i got from it anyway ofc she knows the scientific research, how can she not by now! its fired into us left right and center

So many people believe there are no benefits to BFing past the first few days. You've only got to nose through some of the threads in the BF section to see women fight with MILs, doctors, husbands and HVs who just don't believe that breastmilk could possibly be as good for a baby as formula. Ignorance is surprisingly wide spread. Ask the mom of a 4 month old baby who's constantly asked whether she's *still* breastfeeding instead of giving LO *real* food.

For different reasons, the breast is best messase doesn't help either, as it implies that breast is the unobtainable ideal, and FF is normal.

 

[mummy2lola]

To me the title said friendly thread and it was why we chose to ff so why is it suddenly I'm reading the benefits of bf'in again and people getting offended.this is for choices of formula feeding not the pros and cons of bf'in ONCE again.all this bf babies are smarter and not as ill is aload of crap IMO,my friend was bf and is always ill with something and was nearly bottom of the class whereas my other friend was ff and never even gets a cold and is now a lawyer travelling around the world doing huge cases.it goes either way.it's all down to the individual person not wether they were ff or bf

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

I personally don't think breastfeeding has any benefits really, it's the baseline norm, it's NOT breastfeeding that carries risks. But it can't be worded like that because it puts people's backs up making them less likely to listen to the message.

 

[nicole_]

So many people believe there are no benefits to BFing past the first few days. You've only got to nose through some of the threads in the BF section to see women fight with MILs, doctors, husbands and HVs who just don't believe that breastmilk could possibly be as good for a baby as formula. Ignorance is surprisingly wide spread. Ask the mom of a 4 month old baby who's constantly asked whether she's *still* breastfeeding instead of giving LO *real* food.

For different reasons, the breast is best messase doesn't help either, as it implies that breast is the unobtainable ideal, and FF is normal.

fair enough, but if you glanced in the FF scetion youd just see just as many negatives and sad posts about women made to feel an inch tall for FF.
IMO and only IMO ive never seen one bit of REAL LIFE evidence that the benefits are as important as we are told. yes, research, research..but all i ever see is how FF has brought up a healthy, fit child and not a sickly one!

 

[patch2006uk]

To me the title said friendly thread and it was why we chose to ff so why is it suddenly I'm reading the benefits of bf'in again and people getting offended.this is for choices of formula feeding not the pros and cons of bf'in ONCE again.all this bf babies are smarter and not as ill is aload of crap IMO,my friend was bf and is always ill with something and was nearly bottom of the class whereas my other friend was ff and never even gets a cold and is now a lawyer travelling around the world doing huge cases.it goes either way.it's all down to the individual person not wether they were ff or bf

Gah, anecdotes do not disprove the facts. I'm FF, not stupid, not sickly and generally in good health. When people stop spouting mistruths about BF, then I'll stop correcting them.

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

Also, risk doesn't equal certainty. People get confused about that too

 

[heather91]

To me the title said friendly thread and it was why we chose to ff so why is it suddenly I'm reading the benefits of bf'in again and people getting offended.this is for choices of formula feeding not the pros and cons of bf'in ONCE again.all this bf babies are smarter and not as ill is aload of crap IMO,my friend was bf and is always ill with something and was nearly bottom of the class whereas my other friend was ff and never even gets a cold and is now a lawyer travelling around the world doing huge cases.it goes either way.it's all down to the individual person not wether they were ff or bf

it will always get turned into that when people try and say there are no benefits to bf. Thatssimply NOT TRUE. why should those who have chosen to bf be made to feel like they're doing it for no reason? I've FF one by choice and BF one by choice, so im not even biased

 

[kerrie24]

I personally don't think breastfeeding has any benefits really, it's the baseline norm, it's NOT breastfeeding that carries risks. But it can't be worded like that because it puts people's backs up making them less likely to listen to the message.

That is the way my lc put it-risks of ff,rather than benefits of bf.
I think that is wrong actually,whether you chose ff or ff chose you,that kind of thing makes it sound dangerous,which it isnt.It has no doubt saved many lives since it was invented.

 

[Carly2310]

So many people believe there are no benefits to BFing past the first few days. You've only got to nose through some of the threads in the BF section to see women fight with MILs, doctors, husbands and HVs who just don't believe that breastmilk could possibly be as good for a baby as formula. Ignorance is surprisingly wide spread. Ask the mom of a 4 month old baby who's constantly asked whether she's *still* breastfeeding instead of giving LO *real* food.

For different reasons, the breast is best messase doesn't help either, as it implies that breast is the unobtainable ideal, and FF is normal.

fair enough, but if you glanced in the FF scetion youd just see just as many negatives and sad posts about women made to feel an inch tall for FF.
IMO and only IMO ive never seen one bit of REAL LIFE evidence that the benefits are as important as we are told. yes, research, research..but all i ever see is how FF has brought up a healthy, fit child and not a sickly one!

Exactly my thinking, I'm not arguing with the science and facts but I have two perfectly healthy boys who were FF me and my sisters were FF and other than a genetic disorder my sister has we're all fine!!