Friends :-/

[tink30]

Two of my closest friends have really changed with me this pregnancy.. has anyone else been having problems?? its made me really sad if im honest xxx

 

[Peyre]

I think it can be normal, specially if they are not pregnant or are childless.

You are worried about your baby and your planning goes around your baby all the time. If your friends are not in the same situation, it's quite normal they drift from you a bit.

 

[tink30]

I think it can be normal, specially if they are not pregnant or are childless.

You are worried about your baby and your planning goes around your baby all the time. If your friends are not in the same situation, it's quite normal they drift from you a bit.

thanks hun xx i find they have been quite rude.. distant.. and just all sorts of things really.. also pitying me for having 2 children .. my view is im 31 so i dont want to wait and love my family.

 

[Babyvoisey]

I have the same Hun my friend only ever texts me when she wants a babysitter coz she wants to go out and get drunk! Never just texts to see how I am! She's Off the baby cuddling list!! I would never single a friend out because their pregnant! It saddens me to think I actually would rather have no friends than friends that don't go out their way to see if ur ok! U have us baby and bump
Lot xxx

 

[Skippy54]

ive hardly seen my bff since i got pregnant, which is a shame cause shes normally an awesome person, but i think she's slightly jealous (not in a nasty way) cause she has no children xx

 

[tink30]

ive hardly seen my bff since i got pregnant, which is a shame cause shes normally an awesome person, but i think she's slightly jealous (not in a nasty way) cause she has no children xx

I think thats the problem here.. it makes you feel awful doesnt it.. she just says lucky you looads of crying to come soon.. and she deleted my telephone number because i met up with an old friend.. shes just been super off key.. shes come round and ive not chatted about baby, made her lots of nice food.. but shes like talk to the hand with me.. she wasnt like this with the 1st and is my sons godmother.. shes been real snappy with him aswell xxx

 

[tink30]

I have the same Hun my friend only ever texts me when she wants a babysitter coz she wants to go out and get drunk! Never just texts to see how I am! She's Off the baby cuddling list!! I would never single a friend out because their pregnant! It saddens me to think I actually would rather have no friends than friends that don't go out their way to see if ur ok! U have us baby and bump
Lot xxx

Its horrible It makes you not want to go out with them next year lol.. because i assure you they will be back once yv had baby... not good xxx

 

[ggbaby2]

have you tried talking to her about how you feel? It might help

 

[tink30]

have you tried talking to her about how you feel? It might help

I have spoken to her in the past.. but she doesnt cope verywell with any stressfull situation, if im honest im scared of an out burst :-/.. weve been shopping a few times, she was not happy almost giving me dirty looks.. so i asked is she ok? i know shes depressed being out of work at the mo.. then the next week she would bring a present.. so i guess she knows whats happening. She just seems to be on a rollercoaster at the mo. I can inderstand it must be hard for her, she probably wants children and it may upset her. I just miss my friend.. and im finding her snappy dig comments hurtfull xx

 

[jeanniepresto]

yes .. my sister is being a b*t*h to me ... a friend we know who lives infront of my sister is pregnant too and my sister bring her sum baby stuff n hasnt give me not one thing.. hurts my feelings but oh well my baby boy doesnt need people like that in his lfe ..

 

[Wallflower]

I've been getting nasty digs from a friend too and she has shown no interest in my pregnancy at all and quickly changes the subject. It's very upsetting. I've spoken to a few friends and they've all said it's jealousy - it does strange things to people

Try and spend more time with the people who really care, pregnancy is emotional enough without friends being mean to you isn't it

 

[xPH03N1Xx]

I call it "the awkward moment when you get pregnant and all your friends disappear".

I think a lot of the time they just feel awkward around us, cos they have no idea what we are experiencing, and don't know how to talk about it etc...

Does go to show who's really there for you tho

 

[xBabyGoose]

Sorry to intrude (I'm from 3rd tri - just bored and flipping through forums!)

I have had exactly the same throughout this whole thing, and now its coming nearer the end people who haven't bothered with me are starting to reappear again..... I can only assume its because they want to meet baby when she's here.

What I say is - if you haven't bothered with me during one of the hardest times of my life (pregnancy isn't easy!) And only pop up when the baby is almost here, then in my eyes you see my child as a novelty and they'll be getting exact same treatment from me when I do have her!

 

[lissaw]

yep I think we all go through it a little, mostly because we're now at different points in our lives. We are involved in growing a family and talk and learning about our little ones when there not... thats just what i've experienced. But I now get along way better with my friends that have kids because we have more in common now

 

[tucker07]

i know what ya mean. i get it from some relatives to. they can atleast pretend to be interested or atleast ask about the pregnancy..