FTM..Scared to breast feed help please

[barack]

Hie ladies like it says am a first time mom and worried that i will not enjoy breastfeeding. Reason being i dont enjoy DH sucking on my breasts. i used to enjoy it when we got married but all of a sudden i just dont enjoy it anymore..... it irritates me...
now am wondering is this the same feeling i will get when my beautiful daughter finally comes and wants to breastfeed??
are the feelings the same??
i want to be a good mother.. and be able to enjoy breastfeeding please help

 

[hope&faith09]

I find its a completely different feeling - baby sucking is for a reason and me and lo have a brilliant bond. The thought of oh going near them just doesn't bare thinking about!

 

[NoodleSnack]

Babies really suck to get the milk, to the point your nipples are sore and even crack so no that is not the enjoyable part, in fact for the first few weeks it will be very tough with more difficult problems that have to be dealt with than just the sucking sensation. If you're going to stay with it, you need to know what to expect, so you should start researching now. I'm glad I did it during my pregnancy so I understood how it works and how to deal with the problems. Lots of people like the kellymun website, there are loads other if you google.

 

[Geegees]

I used to feel sick at the thought of my boobs being touched. Especially my nipples... But bf is 100% different!

 

[Tattoo]

The stimulation your nipples receive while feeding is verrrrrrrrrrrry different to that in a sexy situation!
Breastfeeding is very difficult for the first week or so, and you need to expect that. I don't like hearing the "Breastfeeding doesn't hurt!" line, because it does hurt initially and that can lead to you thinking you're doing it wrong. But bear with it and you'll soon find breastfeeding is comfortable and convenient. The reason it hurts to begin with is simply because no-one, no matter how kinky they are , is used to having someone suck on their nipples almost permanently. And newborns have to nurse A LOT. They need to be on the breast so often because they have small stomaches which empty quickly, and to bring your supply up to the level they need.

If breastfeeding is something you really want to do, you will manage it, no matter how weird it might seem now!

Good luck! And enjoy the remainder of your pregnancy.

 

[Tacey]

I've never been comfortable with DH doing that. It makes my skin crawl to imagine it! It is entirely different from nursing a little baby (or even an enormous toddler!)

 

[barack]

thank you all for the assurance. does nipple cream help ease off the pain for first time breastfeeding.?

 

[Tattoo]

thank you all for the assurance. does nipple cream help ease off the pain for first time breastfeeding.?

Oh definitely! You want to be using a nipple cream after every single feed in the early days. Lansinoh is meant to be the best, and you don't have to wash it off before feeding. I've also discovered that it's very good for dry, chapped knuckles and lips!

 

[xteepeex]

Like many others on here I HATE having my nipples touched by Dh (or anyone!!), it just feels so uncomfortable to me, I knew I wanted to do best for baby but was very worried about whether I would be able to bf because of this.

I'm not going to lie to you, it's weird and it hurts,(at first). I spent a good few feeds just crying because I hated it, and because I hadn't been shown proper positioning my nipples were bleeding and every suck felt like someone stabbing my boob. Dh even wanted to go out at 3am to get me some formula because he couldn't stand to see the pain I was in. I was about to give in.

My daughter is 4 weeks old today, and I am still bf! I would even go so far as to say I am (nearly) loving it! I honestly was about to give up (I even said to Dh that he should find someone else to have our daughter as I felt such a failure that I just couldn't go on), but I broke down talking to a MW and she showed me proper positioning, which made all the difference. It still hurt for a while after because my nipples were already wrecked, but I am so proud (and can't quite believe) that I'm still doing it now!

Tips:
Ask for help - if I hadn't broken down to the MW I would have given up, and she was able to sort me out within a minute!
Lansinoh cream!! It really is amazing, and it was on special offer in boots, not sure if it still is though...
It is COMPLETELY different to a sexual thing. It's not something that you can easily describe, but if I can do it, I really do believe anyone can.
It does get better - please don't give up.

I can now bf whilst not even thinking about it, earlier on today I had to check she was still latched on because I couldn't feel anything.

By the way, I'm not paid by a bf club or anything, I really just want you to know that bf is totally worth it

 

[AC1987]

Its VERY different. Ever since I got pregnant with my LO I've hated my boobs being touched by my dh. But from my LO its very different.
I admit it HURT the first 2 weeks.

 

[tommyg]

Yes breastfeeding is sort in those first few weeks but I never used any creams. BM is a wonderful substance and if you express a little and rub it on your nipples it will help them heel if they are sore.

The hardest thing is understanding BFing is diffrent to FFing, depending on the age of the Grannies they will not have a clue and try to purswade you things aren't right.
Normal is Cluster feeding, they feed lots during the night, once you are past the first few weeks they start pooing every 3 or less days but you will have a pooplosion that is everywhere. BF babies will feed every 2 hours FF babies are about every 3 or 4 however most adults consume something about every 1.5 hours - so decide for your self which is more normal for baby.

Some ladies find 2 tops work best, vest top underneth a t-shirt, pull the t-shirt up vest top down so your not totally exposed.

I'm sure others will add to this but it is a great start but if you get to 6 weeks you won't want to give up.

 

[brieri1]

Breastfeeding is totally different from foreplay. It does hurt at first, but it does get better. I've found the best way to soothe sore nipples is expressing a little milk out, rub it around your nipple, and let it air dry. That helped more than anything else. Breastfeeding is actually very nice. Its an easy way to calm a fussy baby most of the time, it really helps with bonding, and, if this is a concern for you, its free where as formula can be expensive. I seriously considered giving up breastfeeding at first. My baby was Jaundice and lost a lot of weight, it was stressful, and my husband could also feed her if we gave her formula. On top of all that, it hurt. But I am so glad I stuck with it. I love staring into my little girl's eyes while she feeds and being that source of comfort for her. Its very rewarding.

 

[Hopeful42nd]

The nipple cream helps when they are dry or cracking. I find that you almost have to toughen up your nipples for the first while and then on e that happens it gets easier. I hurt bad with my first child but pushed through the pain and made it fine. I just kept telling myself I can do this, and it's best for him. We went 16 months! Now with this little girl no issues really with pain but for the first week a tiny bit.
I also think things are different with my breasts now, they are food providers and I don't get much of a sexual thrill fromdh touching them.