Fuming. I am not a charity case!!

[Aidan's Mummy]

We have been keeping our next door neighbour afloat for quite a while now finacially. Well the other day her son gave her 50 quid then she got over a hunderd on thursday. But she told us something came up as usual and she couldn't afford any electric (this happens all the time) Now we havn't got a lot of money as it is at the moment as I am making the switch from benifits to my NHS bursary and we are getting a reduced amount until that comes through. I put my foot down and told her we couldn't afford to give her any money or food this time and it's about time we payed for what we needed etc. Well I got home today and OH has just told me he has connected an extension lead up to her tv so she can have electric. We only have £17 on the meter to last us until the middle of next week!!!. I am absoulty fuming right now. That electricity is for us and I am fed up of keeping her finacially week after week. She says she has no moeny and can't afford to pay her catalouge get she keeps on ordering things out of it therefore makingf her bill higher! Why can't she budget like we have to?

I don't mind helping people but this is getting beyond ridiclous

Am I wrong? Am I selfish? Why do I feel bad here? Arrrgh
xx

 

[pinkish_angel]

You are extremely good to have been helping her for as long as you have. She should be grateful. I would put my foot down now hun as it seems to be becoming expected of you. You find that with some people.. the more you help the more they expect. And when you dont help its like 'you' are doing something wrong. She needs to stand on her own two feet. Its not like ur best buds or family even xxx

 

[AP]

Wow. You were so generous to start with, but your neighbour is taking the piss now and your OH needs to take that lead back because how long is that going to be there for?

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

She doesn't get any money until a week on Thursday
xx

 

[amie-leigh]

your right to be mad i can understand people needing a few quid once in a while but not every week she needs to budget or struggle and go go without

 

[louise1302]

she sounds like she is taking the p out of you hun, id give her the elbow and tell you oh enough is enough

she should put electric and gas in as a priority

 

[v2007]

Unplug it and tell her for F**k off.

She is taking the micheal left right and centre.

Your electric is for YOU and your family not to let some sponging cretin watch the Bloody X factor for free.

OMG i know i sound like a bitch but this is what bugs me about ppl who take others for a ride.

V xxxx

 

[ALY]

you are NOT selfish and def not in the wrong

she is all of them plus others that come to mind

babes you need to tell her that you didnt mind helping her but now she is taking the piss

she should be askin her family/friends for help not you

sorry but from now on tell her no as its costing you too much money

 

[Dragonfly]

What the heck are you in her financial affairs anyway for? :O thats her business and she can get help elsewhere of someone else not you, you have your own family to support. Your not selfish but you should be in this case your being taken for granted and you are not their keeper. I personally wouldn't hand them money or anything for that matter , call me cruel but my family first.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Jesus, I would tell her to eff off tbh, why should you help her out anyway? She isn't your problem x

 

[Natasha2605]

She's taking the piss.

Me and my OH were the same with our MIL. She claims poverty although I know for a FACT she has at least £500 spare a week considering she has her rent etc paid for her. We learnt the hard way... she owed us £300 and is paying it off £20 at a week.

I think you've been incredibly kind to her and she's taking advantage of your generosity xx

 

[Abz1982]

UN PLUG THE FRIKKING PLUG

AND IGNORE THE COW!

Sorry but she is really totally and uttering ripping you off!! I wouldnt even behave like that to family let along neighbours!

I wouldbe at least expecting her in to clean my flat if I was giving her cash. Not your fault she cant budget!

 

[jenny_wren]

unplug it and tell her bugger off
she's taking the piss

you need to think and you and yours
she's not your problem, you've been kind
enough to her already but she's taking
it too far it's not your fault she's crap
with money!

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[AP]

u just have a big heart hun

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

I just hate seeing people struggle. I've given her food before,cooked her meals and lent her money. I just felt I would be a selfish person if didn't help. But now its getting stupid
But I garuntee if I unplug it she will make it seem I'm being selfish.
Xx

 

[Donna35]

You're so kindhearted hun SB is right...

But this HAS to stop now this woman is taking the P in a big way. She has no money yet got 150 this week - hat she do with the 150 like did she just burn it? She needs to manage her own finances and never will while she has you to fall back on.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but if were you I'd unplug that plug right now and when she comes crying that shes got no electric or whatever tell her to order some off the catalogue. If you only have so much electric to last you until you get paid its going to be eaten up really quickly with two houses running off of it and will it bother her if you and your family have to do without electricity for a few days just cos shes got a shopping compulsion??

Sorry rant over just ppl like this really annoy me

 

[Dragonfly]

you have to do it you cant be walked over like that, dosnt do you any good either,l yuo will have good karma back for your help but theres a line thats been crossed and that wasa while ago. If your neighbour had any sence she would not let you help her as you have a family and gone and got help through the proper channels where she isnt taking it off a family who need it.

 

[Donna35]

I just hate seeing people struggle. I've given her food before,cooked her meals and lent her money. I just felt I would be a selfish person if didn't help. But now its getting stupid
But I garuntee if I unplug it she will make it seem I'm being selfish.
Xx

This is what ppl like this do. Everything is everyone elses fault. You're the selfish one not her erm NOT!!

Tell her if she does come knocking that you're sorry but you only have X amount electric and you'll be lucky if it lasts YOUR household that long and you cant afford to run hers too and that you have young kids who cant be in the dark for a few days cos of her. Give her a couple candles and tell her to read a book, plenty have had to survive without electric for a while through being short of cash not the end of the world. And if she does have to live without it til Thursday then she might just prioritise her electricity bill next time...

 

[Strawberries]

Wow, you're amazing to have helped her out this much already! But I think you have to put your foot down now, otherwise she's just going to keep this up.

 

[hayley x]

she is really taking the mick!!! I wouldnt help her out any more, you can only help people who help themselves and she clearly doesnt!!! xxx