Gender disappointment- did anyone have it at birth?

[gk1701]

I know these are controversial posts. Has anyone ever given birth and felt sad because they didn't have a baby of the sex they were hoping for? Or is that something that happens only during pregnancy and you get over it right away when you have your baby?

We are not finding out before the birth. I'm not going to say what I'm hoping for and of course a healthy and safe delivery is really all anyone can ask for. Sex of the baby is just the cherry on the cake. I've had dreams about my baby, think about him or her all time time and would really love if our little surprize is the sex that I'm hoping for. Is that bad?

 

[overcomer79]

I wish I had advice for you but I find out but I'm sure some ladies can give you feed back.

 

[Joeyzgirl]

You know what, I think when you find out in an appt. and it isn't the gender you wanted, you are disappointed, but I think at birth, that wouldn't be the case, because your baby is there, for you to hold and see, and the joy of that is way more potent than any disapoinment about gender could be. Because once you see that baby, you're in love, no matter which sex it is.

 

[NotNic]

I have a gut feeling about what I am having (staying team yellow) and I do wonder how I will react if it's wrong. I do think that the relief of the baby being here safe and sound might stop me being disappointed though. If I found at the scan that I was wrong then I might feel disappointed for a while iykwim.

 

[NotNic]

Ahh. Joeyzgirl backs up my theory!

 

[Elisheva009]

My friend is currently expecting her 7th child. She already has 5 boys and a girl (girl is the 3rd one.)

She found out what she was having in the 2nd and 4th pregnancies. Both times she wanted a girl but had a boy. She told me she was disappointed at the scan when she was told it was a boy but then felt bad that she had felt that way. Both times, when the baby was born she was thrilled with the baby, had no disappointment and said she couldn't even imagine herself with a girl at that point because each little boy was just perfect.

She told me that after the 4th child she made the decision never to find out the sex in advance again so that she didn't have to go through those negative feelings. Her 5th and 6th babies were both boys too and even though she was hoping for a girl both times during the pregnancy, once the baby was born she had no disappointment at all.

 

[CloverMouse]

I'm a bit worried about this as well staying team yellow. I sometimes want a girl and sometimes a boy, but I've been dreaming of one gender, and now kind of have my heart set on that...

 

[VikkiD]

I was convinced i was having a girl there were a few personal reasons why I thought we would have girl first turns out we are having a boy which I know hubby wanted, I was shocked at first when she said boy but really happy none the less. I think when the baby is born and holding her/him in your arms the sex wont matter at all

 

[PrettyUnable]

This worries me abit too. We're team yellow and I personally don't have a preference over boy or girl, as long as baby is healthy then I'm happy.
But I know it would make my OHs dreams come true for us to have a baby boy, although he will be over the moon if baby is a girl, he feels he won't quite be content in life until we have a boy too.
So I'm worried that I'll be distracted after the birth worrying that he will be disappointed, and if we have a girl that I will get upset and apologise to him, then he'll probably get mad at me lol...

All hormonal worries - I know we will be happy as long as baby is healthy, that is number 1. But I worry about it being a disappointment for him, and then being disappointed for him...

 

[gk1701]

This worries me abit too. We're team yellow and I personally don't have a preference over boy or girl, as long as baby is healthy then I'm happy.
But I know it would make my OHs dreams come true for us to have a baby boy, although he will be over the moon if baby is a girl, he feels he won't quite be content in life until we have a boy too.
So I'm worried that I'll be distracted after the birth worrying that he will be disappointed, and if we have a girl that I will get upset and apologise to him, then he'll probably get mad at me lol...

All hormonal worries - I know we will be happy as long as baby is healthy, that is number 1. But I worry about it being a disappointment for him, and then being disappointed for him...

Me too- I know its prehistoric but I really want to give OH what I know he wants. So silly since the man determines the sex of the baby.

 

[PrettyUnable]

This worries me abit too. We're team yellow and I personally don't have a preference over boy or girl, as long as baby is healthy then I'm happy.
But I know it would make my OHs dreams come true for us to have a baby boy, although he will be over the moon if baby is a girl, he feels he won't quite be content in life until we have a boy too.
So I'm worried that I'll be distracted after the birth worrying that he will be disappointed, and if we have a girl that I will get upset and apologise to him, then he'll probably get mad at me lol...

All hormonal worries - I know we will be happy as long as baby is healthy, that is number 1. But I worry about it being a disappointment for him, and then being disappointed for him...

Me too- I know its prehistoric but I really want to give OH what I know he wants. So silly since the man determines the sex of the baby.

Exactly!! I know logically there is no point in me worrying about it, but it all comes down to the desire to please my OH and make him happy... like creating and growing life inside me isn't enough