get this kid out of my head!

[smitsusan5]

how do i stop thinking about my ex. i miss him like crazy even after all the hurt that he has put me through. cheating and lying and abandoning me and his child. the thought of him settling down with someone else breaks my heart. i try and stay strong but i just want to talk to him and i want him back. i know thats never going to happen but i dont know how to just stop loving and caring about someone after nearly 3 years. he cant have ever loved me nor cared about me. how can he put me through this?! sorry i just needed to get this out.

 

[ashleypauline]

i am here for you girlie, i understand where you are coming from! please PM me if you ever need to talk

 

[_mich]

didnt want to r&r, hope your okay babe

 

[Desi's_lost]

It gets easier as time passes...its a slow thing but it does get better!

 

[michele06]

Ugh i know EXACTLY how you feel. we were together for 2 yrs, best friends for a yr before that, and ALL he talked about was how much he wanted me to have a baby. When I did get pregnant (wasn't on birth control but wasn't exactly trying) he left. Never checks in. Nothing. I have nightmares about him etc. It is horrible. I know exactly what you are going through and you are welcome to PM me any time you want. I go to counseling to get over him and I know its weird but it actually helps A LOT. Your not alone

 

[Ashleii15]

Aweee. I never loved someone like I love my boyfriend now.. The father of my baby. I couldn't stand to see him walk away.. Not only from me, but away from his child. It would make life so much more difficult, but it's something you always have to keep in the back of your head. Because unfortunetly.. anything is possible. ):
You need to start thinking positive about more things. Let more positives things come into your life, as you let go all the negative (I sound weird lol..) But just try to cheer up! You know you will find someone new, someone great. Someone that is going to do things your ex never did for you.
I know it's hard.
Just keep thinking about a positive future - Being stressed is not good for anyone.
I'm here if you need to talk.

 

[Leopard]

I can sort of understand, chic, as before I met DF I missed my ex like this (though he was a druggo, woman basher). But the way you have to look at it is yeah, he treated you like sh*t, he obviously didnt care and you don't need the stress of someone negative like that.

Stay strong and remember all us girlies here are here to help

 

[Shanelley]

how do i stop thinking about my ex. i miss him like crazy even after all the hurt that he has put me through. cheating and lying and abandoning me and his child. the thought of him settling down with someone else breaks my heart. i try and stay strong but i just want to talk to him and i want him back. i know thats never going to happen but i dont know how to just stop loving and caring about someone after nearly 3 years. he cant have ever loved me nor cared about me. how can he put me through this?! sorry i just needed to get this out.

I know exactly how u feel gurlie. i wish for one morning that ill wake up and not thing about FOB. But it hasn't happened yet. It will happen one day. But it does take a loooong time.

 

[kel3639]

I didn't get over my ex until I met my now husband! but before that I had a fling with a guy and had fun!

 

[KiwiMOM]

Give it time, it might take ages but you'll be alright in the end.

 

[trinaestella]

i've been through amounts of heart break, and time heals everything. i've also been cheated on and just dashed into the corner like a old dirty toy he didn't want to play with anymore and then he'd beg for me back and do the same thing repeatedly for 2 whole years in the end i gave up. he wanted us to have kids aswell, thank GOD i didn't.

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

 

[Elizax]

how do i stop thinking about my ex. i miss him like crazy even after all the hurt that he has put me through. cheating and lying and abandoning me and his child. the thought of him settling down with someone else breaks my heart. i try and stay strong but i just want to talk to him and i want him back. i know thats never going to happen but i dont know how to just stop loving and caring about someone after nearly 3 years. he cant have ever loved me nor cared about me. how can he put me through this?! sorry i just needed to get this out.

Aw sweetie
I know it's hard right now but it will get better in time, he might have done an awful thing to you but he's given you such a great gift in the baby you're carrying.
It's his loss if he doesn't want to be a part of both your lives, but all you need to do is concentrate on giving your LO all your love and attention and you'll soon realize how little he really means to you and what a loser he really is

 

[Cassie_x]

Ah hun ! The father of my twins cheated on me, and we split up when they were a month old. It's hard at first, but you need to stay strong for your beautiful baby. He's probably not even worth it. If you ever need anyone, there's always someone here xxx

 

[ShanBearr_19]

from my expirences
everyone heals in their own time;
one of my ex's cheated on me with my best friend and i was distraught.
it seems no matter how much they hurt you theres always this little part of you (sometimes a big one) where you still want them because you cant just switch your feelings off.
i think the worst part being is you put yourself in the situation where you think you'l never find someone who will make you feel the way you did about him; im got it into my head that id never love anyone again.
now a few years on im in a happy relationship and expecting his baby.
it must be a hell of alot different situation because your having his baby but the way you need to see it is if someone can cause you that much pain and heartbreak even when your expecting their child they deserve to be a part of your life; and all the people that do hurt you are just stepping stones towards the right one who will treat you right.

sorry for the essay i didnt want to just read and run; im always a pm away if you need to talk xxxx