Getting into sitting position?

[Demotivated]

Hi all..

My LO is is 9 months old. I used to worry a lot about his development, but in the past month or so, he has really caught up.
He sits unsupported (although doesn't like it much, and soon crawls away on his own). He does a very good army crawl, can crawl on hands & knees, but prefers commando style. Loves rocking on hands/knees. Can pull to stand very smoothly. Prefers standing to sitting. Has even started to cruise.

Babbles a lot..says combination of different consonants, claps, mimics, responds to name, eats finger food etc. has a great pincer grasp. A very happy baby.

However, i have one doubt. He CAN NOT get himself into sitting position from lying down. funnily, he tries to pull himself up to sitting if lying on back, but he is just content to be on his tummy and likes to crawl, stand etc. HI have no idea how to show him how to sit. I used to wory about his muscle tone, but i guess if he is pulling to stand and even cruising, thats not a concern?

He just hates to sit..even if i make him sit, he is not v happy abt it..if I give him a toy, he will sit but soon he will fling it and crawl away..

when did ur babies learn to sit themselves? thanks..

 

[TTC First]

I have a 9 month old and she is just now learning to sit from laying down. I take her to a kids clinic to monitor her development and they said that she is perfectly on track in that area.

My lo is not able to crawl (coincidentally she is just starting to as I write this) and does not pull up to stand. To me it sounds like your lo is slightly ahead. Sometimes when kids try to master certain skills, others seem to fall behind. Maybe your lo is falling behind on the sitting from laying down...but that is so minor when they are developing so many other advanced skills. I have no doubt that your lo will pick up this skill, try not to stress oner it.

 

[_Meep_]

Mine learnt around the same time as she crawled, so around 8.5 months. She would (and still does) roll over onto her front or side and push herself up into a sitting position.

She still can't sit straight up from lying flat, though she does try.

She can, however, walk, just about run, squat, bend, 'dance' (it's hilarious) and do all sorts so it hasn't impacted her development in any way and I'm sure she will learn eventually!

And no, not to worry about muscle tone, he sounds like he is right on track - closer to the side of being advanced actually.

 

[minties]

Sophie was about 8 months I think, but sitting is quite boring for some babies. Sophie was a bit slower than Thomas at lots of things, she didn't roll or anything till beyond 8 months.

 

[Demotivated]

Mine learnt around the same time as she crawled, so around 8.5 months. She would (and still does) roll over onto her front or side and push herself up into a sitting position.

She still can't sit straight up from lying flat, though she does try.

She can, however, walk, just about run, squat, bend, 'dance' (it's hilarious) and do all sorts so it hasn't impacted her development in any way and I'm sure she will learn eventually!

And no, not to worry about muscle tone, he sounds like he is right on track - closer to the side of being advanced actually.

thanks Meep..i remember your post on another paranoid thread of mine, where you were worried regarding CP & ur daughter. I am glad to see that you were over thinking and now she is running around (almost ).. thanks for ur help everytime..

thanks to other posters also. Babe has his 9 month vaccination today later. I ll ask doc as well on this.. though he always rubbishes me off

 

[_Meep_]

Haha, yes that was me.

It's so easy to get bogged down, obsessed and start panicking over small things because your baby is so precious. I know exactly what that is like.

My LO definitely doesn't have CP. But it took a very expensive, paranoid 90 minutes with a paediatric physio for me to finally stop worrying about that.

I think ALL babies have something or other that they are not great at or take a little longer to get the hang of. Mine has only in the past month or two started to properly chew her food rather than just tongue mashing and swallowing everything. It's been bothering me for ages, but it's slowly going away.

I have (of course!) seen a SALT, lol, who could see nothing wrong with her and reassured me she will get the hang of it by the time she goes to school! So that was helpful. There's nothing wrong with asking for help or an opinion from a professional if it really gets you down.

What I've found though is that things generally get better on their own and I'm getting better at accepting and remembering that. Literally all my daughter's little issues from the early days have resolved in time. Relax as much as you can, give it three months and you'll have a totally different baby - I'm sure he'll be gliding smoothly in and out of positions, haha! Probably walking, too.

 

[Perplexed]

They will learn it themselves I believe. dd used to tummy crawl but then one afternoon she just randomly figured out how to sit from laying down. she was probably around 10 months. I do not remember if she were pulling to stand or cruising yet. maybe she started shortly after.

 

[SarahBear]

It sounds like the "problem" is more a matter of lack of interest than it is a developmental issue. He has so many other skills that I would really not worry at all. To answer your question though, Violet figured it out at about 8 months and Leo figured it out at about 6 months. He's been ahead on all his physical milestones though, so I wouldn't compare to him to see what's "normal."

 

[calm]

My two were late sitting,but all of a sudden they could also get up from lying from any possible position you can imagine! That's is what I'm learning from their milestones and development, you never know what is round the corner! X

 

[londonangel]

Honestly, your baby sounds fine. Min crawls and can get into a seated position from laying down but I think she turns onto her front, gets into a crawling position and then sits up from there. She cannot pull up to standing yet though. Don't worry!

 

[Demotivated]

Thanks all. Still waiting..
HE is now crawling only on hands n knees, standing, cruising like a pro, standing with minimum support now (just a couple of fingers). He can sit down and play if he is standing.. My family says the same thing that it is just a matter of interest and wait till 12 months
most likely he will be walking before figuring this out

 

[_Meep_]

Mine cruised for three months before she started walking, so he's probably got a bit of time yet to figure it out before he walks.

I promise you he will do it! As long as he continues developing typically, as he is at the moment, there is nothing to fear. In fact, his development seems to be so good for his age that in my mind, there's literally zero chance that he won't, even if it takes a little longer than expected - after all, how many healthy people do you know who can't sit themselves up?

 

[Demotivated]

Mine cruised for three months before she started walking, so he's probably got a bit of time yet to figure it out before he walks.

I promise you he will do it! As long as he continues developing typically, as he is at the moment, there is nothing to fear. In fact, his development seems to be so good for his age that in my mind, there's literally zero chance that he won't, even if it takes a little longer than expected - after all, how many healthy people do you know who can't sit themselves up?

Like..None..hahahaha..you are talking like my husband..lol.. He tells me the same that have you ever seen someone standing, walking..but not sitting
Interestingly, he can pull on things to sit.. funny baby

thanks for the reassurance.. will let you know at first as soon he starts doing it

 

[_Meep_]

Hahahah yeah, my OH used to say the same sort of thing to me. Made absolutely no difference to whatever obsession I had at the time, but looking back on it, he had a point.

Definitely keep us updated! I love hearing about the B&B babies' achievements.

 

[Demotivated]

Still waiting
*10 months tomorrow*

Now good thing is he has forgotten army crawl & does only hand/knee crawl. Standing, cruising like a pro.. Can go from standing to sitting by squatting.. He kind of did sit this morning though, but did not like it n went back to crawling
I have realised that he just doesn't like to sit..If i prop him also, he will sit only if i give something new to play with..else he is always on the move..always!

We are going on a vacation this weekend to Seychelles to celebrate our 5th wedding ann. I m hoping that may b beaches will interest him to sit n play. It doesn't help that floors in our house are hard wood.. :\

 

[_Meep_]

I think you just have an active baby. I do, too. Come to think of it, she barely ever sits still or even sits at all really.

Your son still sounds perfectly normal! The type of crawling he is doing is quite complex for a young brain to master and means the communication between the two sides of his brain is likely working as it should. Same goes for all his muscles.

There really is nothing wrong with him. It would be so so so so so unlikely with this level of motion and activity at his age. Squatting especially requires immense control, strength and balance. So said the physio I saw, anyway! And my kid was like 13.5 months old at that point.

Enjoy your holiday! Five years married ... I'm pretty sure I'll be sick of OH after five years. Hell, I am sick of him already ...

 

[Demotivated]

I think you just have an active baby. I do, too. Come to think of it, she barely ever sits still or even sits at all really.

Your son still sounds perfectly normal! The type of crawling he is doing is quite complex for a young brain to master and means the communication between the two sides of his brain is likely working as it should. Same goes for all his muscles.

There really is nothing wrong with him. It would be so so so so so unlikely with this level of motion and activity at his age. Squatting especially requires immense control, strength and balance. So said the physio I saw, anyway! And my kid was like 13.5 months old at that point.

Enjoy your holiday! Five years married ... I'm pretty sure I'll be sick of OH after five years. Hell, I am sick of him already ...

I sincerely hope u r right darling
some days he amazes me with his sense of balance & co-ordination. Doc says wait for another month

DH is just so dismissive of my concerns. Will try not to bring any of it during holidays, else i have had it from him. Such a bummer he is.

 

[_Meep_]

I am sure I am right. I am no doctor, but have seen a number of professionals and done hours and hours of research, and from what you describe, he just sounds like he is doing so well.

I know I bang on about it all the time, but if it really gets to you, I promise an hour or so with a paediatric physio would help. I couldn't believe how quickly the months and months of worry lifted from my shoulders as the physio waved goodbye and walked down my garden path. It was wonderful.

My OH was/is a total twat about it too - always sighs if I raise a concern and comes up with some shitty 'logical' explanation, which is just not helpful at all. The other day my LO came down with a horrible fever, with freezing cold hands and feet and was shivering, had no appetite, etc. Of course, Google told me she could have meningitis and I wanted to take her to the out-of-hours clinic just in case but OH literally refused to take us. I can't drive, and was on the point of ringing my MIL to take us because I felt like we should really get it checked out.

A couple of days later it became apparent that she actually had hand, foot and mouth disease, which isn't serious, but still - I'm really pissed off that OH refused to do anything for HIS LITTLE GIRL just to make a point to me. I had to go on Facebook and ask all my mum friends if any of their kids had ever had shivering with a bad fever, and they were amazing, but it's my OH who should be doing that job, not them.

 

[Demotivated]

I am sure I am right. I am no doctor, but have seen a number of professionals and done hours and hours of research, and from what you describe, he just sounds like he is doing so well.

I know I bang on about it all the time, but if it really gets to you, I promise an hour or so with a paediatric physio would help. I couldn't believe how quickly the months and months of worry lifted from my shoulders as the physio waved goodbye and walked down my garden path. It was wonderful.

My OH was/is a total twat about it too - always sighs if I raise a concern and comes up with some shitty 'logical' explanation, which is just not helpful at all. The other day my LO came down with a horrible fever, with freezing cold hands and feet and was shivering, had no appetite, etc. Of course, Google told me she could have meningitis and I wanted to take her to the out-of-hours clinic just in case but OH literally refused to take us. I can't drive, and was on the point of ringing my MIL to take us because I felt like we should really get it checked out.

A couple of days later it became apparent that she actually had hand, foot and mouth disease, which isn't serious, but still - I'm really pissed off that OH refused to do anything for HIS LITTLE GIRL just to make a point to me. I had to go on Facebook and ask all my mum friends if any of their kids had ever had shivering with a bad fever, and they were amazing, but it's my OH who should be doing that job, not them.

Uh oh...how did she contract it? hope she is in good health now..
Men generally dont seem to take things seriosuly, especially things which concerns us.
My husband has been supportive in general, but so dismissive of my concerns.

I had taken my baby to a developmental PT/OT. He saw my baby for 5 minutes and refused to register him for full analysis. He said he doesn't want me to waste any money, time and give my child one uncomfortable experience, since he is perfectly fine. My husband blasted me so much after that. but i guess i needed someone to tell me that.

Hoping this worry ends soon..

 

[_Meep_]

I am 99% sure she got it at her soft play group as it is passed on by children TO children, through coughs, sneezes, salivary/fluid contact etc. I had a little mini rant about the soft play to OH - blasted the other mums a bit for being idiotic enough to take their sick kids out and infect others ... I was already feeling bad about it as LO has been pushed over/hit/hurt twice there now by older children whose mothers have just sat there and done nothing. OH of course had to be difficult about it and try to argue that she probably caught it off a shopping trolley, then told me to take my head out of my arse when I mentioned that my biology qualification means that I am more clued up on pathogen transmission than he is.

She's fine now and most of the blisters have dried up and fallen off.

I am a little shocked that the person you saw refused to look in depth at your son for you, but I guess in a way it's good that he was so sure and wanted to save you the money! Remember that these people see children with developmental problems every day and are intimately familiar with bodies that aren't working as they should, their movement patterns and feel. He obviously didn't see a single concerning thing, so if you can, take comfort from that. Or see a new physio and explain that you don't care about the money! I sent a very long and honest email to mine, and I think she just wanted to make me feel better lol.

Sorry for my long, moany posts; I just really hate OH right now.