I feel like I am waiting for everything, waiting for my life to start. We've been engaged a month now and OH is unwilling to talk about the wedding. We were going to buy a house but now he wants to find a new job first. I am desperate to start a family with him but he won't even NTNP til we're husband and wife and he won't set a date. I'm so frustrated and depressed. All I can think about is the future and he is rooted firmly in the present. I need to plan things, that is just who I am, but he just wants us to coast along and 'enjoy just being together now'. I feel totally unloved being engaged but unable to discuss/plan the wedding. I feel like he doesn't really want all those things with me. He said I've got to stop rushing everything but I can't find any enjoyment in waiting, we've lived together for 2 years now and I thought when we got engaged we'd finally be taking steps in the right direction. I'm so down at the moment that I've taken time off work, I am so teary and anxious that I'd be a wreck trying to work right now. This is getting out of hand and I know the more stressed I am the less OH will want to move forward. But I can't help it :'( I don't know what I'm asking, or what to do. I just need to vent I guess. I know he'd be a great dad, and we rent a 3 bedroom property in a good area, we have good jobs and plenty of savings. If we had a happy accident we'd both be over the moon but he's so set on waiting to be married. Which is fine if I felt that was going to happen anytime soon! Call me old fashioned but isn't engagement for planning the wedding?!