Going through court

[KiansMummy]

Well i have posted here before but im wondering if anyone baby/childs father has taking you through courts to get contact with your LO and can share your experiance, my baby is 3 weeks old and im breastfeeding, me and babys dad split up when i was about 11 weeks pregnant but he said he still wanted to be involved with Kian, any way since he was born he has asked to see him a number of times and i have always let him, he then text me last wednesday and said when can i next see him, i seemed to have missed this text then the next day he text saying ive forced him to take it through the courts as i am apparently stopping him from seeing his son, my head is seriously messed up i didnt want this to happen as i just want the best for my son, so i was wondering what would happen if it does go to court? Thanks x

 

[TattiesMum]

It's OK Jess .... He's talking complete rubbish

Kian is only 3 weeks old and your ex has already seen him several times and whenever he has wanted to - no solicitor in the land would advise him to go to court based on ONE incident where he didn't even bother enough to ring you about arrangements

Texts, like emails, go astray .... if something is really important to you then you make direct contact and actually speak to the other person!

He's pulling your chain Hon Tattie's FOB does the "I'm taking you to court" thing about once a week on average Needless to say Kaylum is now 5 months old and she has yet to recieve so much as a whiff of a solicitor's letter

Don't worry about it unless/until you actually get a solicitor's letter

 

[LittleMadam]

I completely agree with Tattiesmum. However, should he actually take you to court, it might not be such a bad thing. The court will assign visitation days and times (which he will have to stick to) and set child support payments.

Hugs.xx

 

[billy2mm]

he is just trying to get a reaction hun. as tatties mum said he cant take you to court for missing ONE text!! you were probably breastfeeding when it came in so the wouldnt look good on him if he wanted you to put the baby soen and check your phone everytime it went just to check if it was him asking to see lo!

just say to him im sorry i missed your text but in future if you want contact and i dont reply its probably coz im busy with lo or trying to do housework or sleep! text again in a few hours or call me if its that urgent!

 

[Bex1p]

Today I offered FOB an hour a week supervised by my sister as my solicitor advised as I am breastfeeding also..........and he threatened me with court and social services!

Told him to go for it......he is mentally unstable....I just hope I can prove it to the courts!

If he does go it will take him a while and he will probably get supervised access at a contact centre and have it reviewed in 6 months.

 

[suzanne108]

My FOB did something similar. He was coming to see Lola as and when he pleased as long as he arranged it with me first - turned out it wasn't very often but it was still whenever he wanted (about once a month). Then he asked me on a Friday if he could come on the Saturday - I had plans and because he lives quite far away his visits need a whole day to be worthwhile. So anyway I told him I had plans, decided I wasn't changing my plans if he couldn't give me sufficient notice. Then a few weeks later he sent me a letter telling me he was taking me to court if I kept forcing him out of LO's life!!!!! Ridiculous!

So, I set up a proper arrangement with him. Asked him how often he wanted to come and see her and he said once every two weeks. So I said that was fine and he now comes every other saturday from about 11.30am-5pm. It's a lot better this way, I know when to expect him and also I don't need to speak to him inbetween visits because he doesn't ever ask how she is etc.

Maybe you could do something like this with him? xxx

 

[Kate&Lucas]

It won't go to court. A solicitor will only refer it to court if there's a dispute. There's no dispute as you're letting him see the baby, he's just being a dick and trying to scare you.