gosh so worried...

[yrose20118]

Hiya,

Well we are going to TTC in the summer and im utterly worried about the following:

1) LO feeling pushed out
2) LO is an amazing baby, really well behaved... we might be so lucky next time round! lol but that the demands of a new baby will result in less attention for LO
3) I cant imagine loving anyone as much as I do LO...

Please help as im really anxious!

xxx

 

[Jennbear]

Sorry I can't help but wanted to say they're all the things I worry about when thinking about #2!

Infact, I reckon everyone thinks the same when round two approaches!

You will love your next one just the same and they'll each have their own special things that are unique to them.

Good luck and hope it all goes well for you xx

 

[Mummytobe85]

Its natural to feel anxious when wanting to bring another baby into the family. I have 2 under 2 and my DD1 is perfectly well-behaved (dont get me wrong she does have her moments) my love has grown stronger for both my girls and its not changed the way i feel towards my oldest.

Before i had our second daughter, i felt that my oldest would get pushed out and she'll get jealous but its the opposite, i include her in everything we do, she helps mummy out with the bottle feeding, changing the nappy and she still has mummy and daddy's attention.

It is hard work and most of the time im shattered as DD2 is still young, but i would never change having 2 under 2 and in the long run it'll be nice to see them growing up together!

Good luck with TTC

 

[pompeyvix]

^^ This!

I cant imagine loving another baby as much as I do Anabella....but I know I will. I'm assuming your heart naturally has space for two (or three or four etc).

LO won't feel pushed out if you include him throughout your pregnancy, when you bring your new arrival home and so forth.

Try not to worry

 

[Sprat]

I have a 2.5 year old and a 5 month old. It is a strange thing having a second - you feel like you could never love another as much but you do. My 2 are so different but so amazing in different ways.

I love having 2. Lovely lovely baby and 2 year old to chat to.

2 year old goes to play group 2 mornings which gives me time with baby also you have time with baby in evenings, at night and when toddler naps.

Baby when newborn typically sleeps alot and then when older usually quite happy to watch you spend time with toddler.

Helps to get toddler involved with looking after baby.

You can read stories to toddler while feeding baby. There are so many things you can do to make sure you give time to both.

If you have a difficult 2nd baby you deal with it and get help and support but also you are more relaxed with 2nd so can be easier.

I hope this helps and is not just waffle - should really be getting some sleep!