Got 2 weeks till baby's due & OH wants to break up

[minyme]

Yes it's true i can not believe it!!!
We have been together for 3 yrs and i didn't see it comin.
He said we don't get along anymore and he is not happy.
I have not stopped cryin all day i can not believe it.
He really wanted me to have a baby so it was planned so i don't understand.
I am tryin to calm down and not get too stressed for the babies sake but the tears keep on comin.
How can i enjoy the next two weeks-i don't even want to think about the birth.
He has been goin out more and more lately stayin out late as he states bein at home is borin.

OMG it feels like i am havin a bad nightmare.

 

[mandylou]

is he maybe just freaking out a bit about the baby hun? if not i feel for you and sending lots of hugs your way!

 

[lynnikins]

i feel for you hun id give it a little time he may well change his mind in the next 24 hours or it might take the baby arriving but its not uncommon for couples to drift apart in late stage pregnancy

 

[reversal]

AW IM SORRY, HOPE ITS JUST NERVES

 

[ricschick]

im so sorry hun he is being so selfish!!! just think of yourself and your baby xxx

 

[mummyra]

He is probably just having that man moment when they think thier life is about to end and they havnt lived enough or sown enough seeds.

think about all the support, reassurance etc you have needed through the pregnancy, we forget they need it to sometimes. It may be him being scared and running for the hills. he will come back i am sure, but you need to talk it through and see a way of making life not boring!!!

Set a time each month you both go out, that he goes out and you. i know this sounds really silly by my hubby and i argued alot when baby was born coz we were both so tiered and you hurt the people around you. in the end we realised that as we were never on our own any more (little baby in toe) we never really chatted, like over dinners out etc and that was the problem. We decided that we would have a sunday eve chat, about anything the only rule is you cant be angry or shout etc. we do it every sunday, sometimes its serious stuff others its fun stuff that makes us laugh. it worked for us, you may need to find something that works for you as your world is changing. we are back to being supper happy again, i have no doubt the same will happen for you. be strong us woman are amazing at that

 

[pinktaffy]

oh it gets me so mad when men do this. they think they can make a baby then just walk away its so wrong . hopfully all will work out for u. wish u luck hun its the last thing u need rite now u need support not a selfish idiot.

 

[moomin_troll]

omg! what a tw*t for springing this one u 2 weeks before ur due.
and as for saying being at home is boring that so childish i think he is just having a panic moment but its not fair on u at all the way hes gone about it.
has he moved out or are u still living together?

if hes still at urs then id say hes not serious about splitting but would u be able to stay with someone whos hurt u like this?

hope everything works out for u and u do what makes u happy x

 

[minyme]

He is probably just having that man moment when they think thier life is about to end and they havnt lived enough or sown enough seeds.

think about all the support, reassurance etc you have needed through the pregnancy, we forget they need it to sometimes. It may be him being scared and running for the hills. he will come back i am sure, but you need to talk it through and see a way of making life not boring!!!

Set a time each month you both go out, that he goes out and you. i know this sounds really silly by my hubby and i argued alot when baby was born coz we were both so tiered and you hurt the people around you. in the end we realised that as we were never on our own any more (little baby in toe) we never really chatted, like over dinners out etc and that was the problem. We decided that we would have a sunday eve chat, about anything the only rule is you cant be angry or shout etc. we do it every sunday, sometimes its serious stuff others its fun stuff that makes us laugh. it worked for us, you may need to find something that works for you as your world is changing. we are back to being supper happy again, i have no doubt the same will happen for you. be strong us woman are amazing at that

I have suggested for us to spend more time together like goin out but he is not intrested.

 

[x-li-x]

really sorry hun, hope it all works out. sending you loads of

 

[minyme]

omg! what a tw*t for springing this one u 2 weeks before ur due.
and as for saying being at home is boring that so childish i think he is just having a panic moment but its not fair on u at all the way hes gone about it.
has he moved out or are u still living together?

if hes still at urs then id say hes not serious about splitting but would u be able to stay with someone whos hurt u like this?

hope everything works out for u and u do what makes u happy x

He has not moved out but lately he has been spending a lot of time out.
I have to be honest i will never feel content in this relationship now for what he has said. His timin and selfishness is unreal. He saw me in tears about it this mornin and still choose to go out and has not arrived home yet.

 

[Baby G]

AWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!! (hugs) This is just terrible. It makes me so sad. I hope he has a change of heart when the baby comes. But I really just want to kick him for you!

 

[mummyra]

Babe he sounds like hes being a twat, so your trying and he is shoving it back in your face. Well if it was me dont sit there and dwell you can still show him what it is hes missing, glam up the face be a yummy mummy and get out and about for the 2 weeks. i have no doubt hell come running back, but dont sit and wait for him make him find you.

You deserve better and whilst he may need support you cant support someone who throws your offers to help back at you.

We are all here, i know its not the same, but come on here when your down and we will pick you up. feel free to message me if you need a rant, chat or whatever

He is probably just having that man moment when they think thier life is about to end and they havnt lived enough or sown enough seeds.

think about all the support, reassurance etc you have needed through the pregnancy, we forget they need it to sometimes. It may be him being scared and running for the hills. he will come back i am sure, but you need to talk it through and see a way of making life not boring!!!

Set a time each month you both go out, that he goes out and you. i know this sounds really silly by my hubby and i argued alot when baby was born coz we were both so tiered and you hurt the people around you. in the end we realised that as we were never on our own any more (little baby in toe) we never really chatted, like over dinners out etc and that was the problem. We decided that we would have a sunday eve chat, about anything the only rule is you cant be angry or shout etc. we do it every sunday, sometimes its serious stuff others its fun stuff that makes us laugh. it worked for us, you may need to find something that works for you as your world is changing. we are back to being supper happy again, i have no doubt the same will happen for you. be strong us woman are amazing at that

I have suggested for us to spend more time together like goin out but he is not intrested.

 

[LogansMama]

It really sounds like a case of cold feet to me! I hope thats true! Geesh. Freaking men!

I hope things work out for you, I really do! hugs!

 

[dt1234565]

Oh dear, poor you. Is there someone else? Only with all the staying out etc is that his usual behaviour?

I dont know what to say to you hun, his a right twat ay. How men can just walk away i will never understand.

xxxxxxxx

 

[lizzieredrup]

Awwww hun, im so sorry your going through this at the moment, I really hope its just a case of having a last minute panic attack! It is very scary thinking there will be a baby here very soon and our lives are going to change so much!

So hope you both manage to work something out! Huge Hugs

 

[aladrian]

What a jerk!

Tell him he's got responsibilities & that he needs to start being a man about them, not some high school twit who gets to do whatever he wants to. No one gets along all the time, nor is everyone happy all the time so his reasoning is just flat out wrong. Grrrrr

I'm so sorry this happened to you hon.

 

[Unicus]

Aw hun. Hopefully he just has cold feet. No excuse tho! Why some men seem to think its ok to stress and upset their pregnant partner is beyond me! If he is serious then sod him hun! Easier said than done I know but you'll be just fine without him x

 

[trashit]

i'm sorry hun, i hope he was having a "man moment" although there's absolutely no excuse for doing it in this way!
xx

 

[broodylocket]

xx