We had a great 20ish week scan this afternoon, the sonographer was lovely and spent ages getting baby into position and even let us go for a walk and come back to make sure she saw everything perfectly. However when we went in to see the midwife the first thing she said was 'oh no, you haven't found out the sex have you?' and we had, so told her this, she then went into a mini rant for 10 minutes about how we've ruined the surprise we'd have got at the birth and she doesnt understand why people find out the sex at their scan and that finding out the sex was stupid because as long as the baby was fed, watered and looked after it really didn't matter if it had a pink or blue room. I was shocked at this and just said 'well I can see it from both sides, I can understand why some people want to wait to find out but we really wanted to know' to which she responded that she couldn't see it from both sides and that we really didn't need to know until baby arrived. I can totally understand why some people don't want to know the sex but we did, and I'm sorry but the midwife is there to give medical advice not give us her personal opinion on the choices we've made, it really felt like she was telling me I'd done something to harm my baby in finding out the sex!! Both me and my husband we're really quite upset at her rant and it put a bit of a dampner on things, although we're both still really really excited that we're having a baby girl, I just don't want to have to see this particular midwife again Sorry for the mini rant about erm the mini rant but just wondering if anyone else has had an extremly opinionated midwife and if they've done anything about it?