Guests visiting and spreading their germs!

[Lm129]

I am so annoyed with my MIL she visited while she was ill and has passed her bug onto all of us including the LO I wanted to ask her to leave at the time but i thought i was just overreacting (Until i am kept up all week with no sleep looking after my sick baby while feeling crap myself!) I just feel like i should've done/said something at the time. What does everyone else do when they have family/friends who are sick when they come by?

 

[jenniand]

Sorry you are having a bad time all feeling poorly!
I went to a baby club the other day where we discussed illness, colds ect. The HV said that while babies are building their immune systems they will get poorly a lot and for a long period of time it may feel like they have a cold all the time as there are lots of differnt strains and until they have had one they won't be immune to it...so when this one has passed he won't get it again but he will get another. Thing about that is that colds are always evolving so it will go on all our lives. I was also horrified to find out about 'chicken-pox parties' where when someones child has it other mums take their babies to have contact so they get it! I was told that if babies get it before they know how to scratch then they won't get scars and it will clear up easier, so while it sounds awful I can sort of see the logic...not sure I will e attending one tho!
While you must feel so lousy yourself and it can't be nice seeing your LO poorly they are going to get ill at some point so try not to get to annoyed about it
Get well soon x

 

[roseyblossom]

If someone was ill and tried visiting my children I'd tell them not to come simply because I can't and won't deal with sick babies its annoying frustrating and being sleep deprived on a normal day is bad enough without adding 10 extra sleepless nights! I hate seeing my babies suffer with bugs/colds etc therefore if I can avoid them catching it in the first place I will do.

 

[socitycourty]

I personally think it's rude. And inconsiderate because the majority of people will not come back to help you with sick baby if you and your OH also get sick. I don't mind getting a cold so much but I would hate it if someone came here and spread stomach bug to all of us, I can't imagine having to take care of LO while being sick and whatnot.

IMO it's rude, I know they need to build their immune system but people shoulnd't come over if they're sick

 

[robinator]

I'm sorry you all got sick, that sucks! It was inconsiderate of her, but honestly, you can expect at least one kid to be sick at any groups or play areas you go to; your lo is bound to catch something regardless. But with this situation, your mil should know better and was being selfish; I'd ask her to not come over next time, if you're comfortable saying as much.

 

[overcomer79]

I'm sorry you all got sick, that sucks! It was inconsiderate of her, but honestly, you can expect at least one kid to be sick at any groups or play areas you go to; your lo is bound to catch something regardless. But with this situation, your mil should know better and was being selfish; I'd ask her to not come over next time, if you're comfortable saying as much.

I've been sick (as well as LO) for 3 months...whatever it is we know we aren't contagious. My husband and DS only have now gotten sick with a head cold. I was planning on going to see my parents today but we didn't go due their colds. That was a joint decision. We told my parents up front that they had colds (dad is on chemotherapy) so they asked we wait to come up. That would have been my choice to begin with but dh wanted to go so I made him talk to my parents.

I do agree with you about kids passing back and forth. I wanted to comment on this several times but know it would have come off sounding as rude. My kids are in daycare so I do expect them to be sick. I'm not sure what kind of bug the OP is referring to b/c some people do refer to colds as bugs. I can't imagine a stomach bug lasting a week.

 

[Casey3]

I'm sorry you're all sick, that's too bad. Honestly, if someone is sick they're not allowed over and people usually respect that as it's only considerate. I know it's important that they build their immune system but I wouldn't purposely invite someone over that I knew was sick/contagious.

Feel better!