Guilt

[hmu04146]

I feel terrible for writing this in this section and I'm sorry for anyone I hurt but I dont know what to do, its my due date for my little angel on Friday (10/09) and I'm in peices I cant get him out of my head. My OH is not really interested he's always said it was never a baby for him because we lost him at 9 weeks but it was a baby for me, OH is being nice and distracting but I cant talk to him, I told my best friend how I was feeling and she hit me with well your pregnant with a healthy baby now cheer up. I love my baby boy I'm carrying and feel so blessed to have made it as far as 26 weeks with his wriggling away inside me and I know it is very selfish to post here with so many of you ladies grieving and ttc but I dont know where else to go. I feel guilty for missing my angel and guilty as I keep being told I should be 'over it' and concentrating on my baby boy im growing, I feel guilty that istead of always being on my mind my beautiful baby boy is getting increasingly replaced with thougths of his angel brother or sister. I cant enjoy him kicking me like he is just now or poking him bum out like he does in the morning because im conviced something will happen to him too and it petrifies me.

Im sorry for this rant but I needed to get it out xxxxx

 

[annmc30]

hi hun u should never feel guilty it was your baby and you'l never get over it maybe light a candle or do sumthing just to remember it will do u good

 

[Fraggles]

I lost my first baby and it was a baby to me. There is nothing wrong with grieving a loss. Your new baby isn't a replacement.

 

[aviolet]

Feel free to be sad and grieve while at the same time celebrating your new pregnancy - it is necessary recognize your loss in order to heal. s/he was a real baby, a little soul you will meet in heaven, and s/he is worthy of being remembered. i am so sorry. don't let anyone tell you that you should be "over it" or that you should only focus on your lil baby you have now - your lil baby growing wouldn't be here if it wasn't for the sacrifice of your first baby, that is a noble purpose and is worthy of remembrance

 

[Elmodoggie]

we all grieve differently and you are entitled to grieve anyway you see fit, even with a new baby in you, that pain of want may not gisappear throughout your life, but know you are blessed and pour all the love you have on that new baby that is coming. EWe definately get where you are coming from and never never never feel guilty about your feelings, they are yours and you are entitled to them

 

[lilwelsh1]

Dont feel guilty, the baby you are carrying now is a blessing but so was the one u lost. grieve how u want to grieve, its not something you can just 'get over' just because you are pregnant again. u can celebrate as well as remember and grieve. i wish all the best to you and massive xx