Gutted! AF arrived once again!

[heykitty]

Hi ladies,

10 long months have now passed since me and DH decided TTC. Feels like we've tried everything from intensive every other day, ovulation prediction kits, preconception vitamins to trying to take our minds of it all and let nature take it's course. It's just so disheartening each month when the dreaded AF shows. Please don't get me wrong, there is lots in my life that I love, but I really now feel that the time is right for us to add to our family and it's really hard that I seem unable to do the most natural, beautiful thing in the world for a woman. I'm really trying not to let it get me down but at the moment so many of my friends are pregnant and I don't know what we're doing wrong.

Anyone else been through this stage and have any words of wisdom- it would be lovely to hear from you. Xx

 

[MichelleW]

Have you tried temping? I tried everything and it was only when I started temping I fell twice, 1st one resulting in a miscarriage and the second one I had my son, the second time I also used pre-seed which was great, just dont give up its hard going but so worth it in the end xx

 

[heykitty]

Thanks Michelle. I keep telling myself that when the time is right, it will happen.

No, I haven't tried either temping or pre seed. I have heard good things about both although I don't even know where to start with the temping? I'm cd 2 now- when should I start temping and what are the tell tale signs I should look for? Think Amazon sells pre seed so may invest in that too. Xx

 

[MichelleW]

Thanks Michelle. I keep telling myself that when the time is right, it will happen.

No, I haven't tried either temping or pre seed. I have heard good things about both although I don't even know where to start with the temping? I'm cd 2 now- when should I start temping and what are the tell tale signs I should look for? Think Amazon sells pre seed so may invest in that too. Xx

Start temping right away, use fertility friend trial version just to record your temps and opks, its great, I have my little thermometer under my pillow and soon as I wake up with my alarm I turn on the thermometer pop it in my mouth under my tongue and wait for the beep and thats it, you have to take it at the same time everyday, so i still have the alarm at the weekend but just go back to sleep after. I temp every day, and start using opk's around calendar day 10, that way when you get a positive opk you can check your temps to make sure you have ovulated after. Fertility friend will also show you the day you ovulated by using your temps, you have to use opks to though as temping only shows you ovulation after you have ovulated but will give you a good idea of how you cycle is after a few months, you can see your luteal phase and tell if there is any problems.

Some people dont get on well with temping but I found it really easy, my alarm goes off at 6.30 every morning even at the weekend so before I speak move or anything I take my temp, its important to do this before you sit up and get out of bed as this affects your temp.

Hope this helps xx

 

[Mrs W 11]

It will happen kitty, stay positive and strong. Ill keep my fingers crossed for you!

You'll need a basal body temp thermometer not a normal one and you can buy a bbt on amazon or eBay. You can also get opks on eBay in bulk.

Good luck xx

 

[Sarah.Janelle]

Thanks for the temping info. I was going to try that this month. I've already downloaded the fertility friend app too!

 

[heykitty]

Thank you so much for your kind words ladies and thanks Michelle for the info! I've ordered a basal body thermometer on line and some pre seed so once they arrive, we're good to go! : Read some fab reviews about pre seed so will keep my fingers crossed.

I've read about temp dips and temp rises after ovulation meaning something? Think people talked about an implantation dip?!

Thank you again

 

[chimmi]

Hi ladies,

10 long months have now passed since me and DH decided TTC. Feels like we've tried everything from intensive every other day, ovulation prediction kits, preconception vitamins to trying to take our minds of it all and let nature take it's course. It's just so disheartening each month when the dreaded AF shows. Please don't get me wrong, there is lots in my life that I love, but I really now feel that the time is right for us to add to our family and it's really hard that I seem unable to do the most natural, beautiful thing in the world for a woman. I'm really trying not to let it get me down but at the moment so many of my friends are pregnant and I don't know what we're doing wrong.

Anyone else been through this stage and have any words of wisdom- it would be lovely to hear from you. Xx

I know EXACTLY how you feel! Me and hubby have been TTC since aug last yr with the odd month of ntnp which didn't work either.
Everyone eseems to be pg or have kids and my body is craving to do the same, I work in a dental practice and we get kids in, when their parents are consoling them or praising them sometimes I find it so difficult not to burst into tears..
My sister is having her first baby in a few weeks and I'm going to struggle without letting show how i feel about it all..
Me and hibby have been to the doc and are under going tests now, I have had blood tests and he is going to have sperm analysis very soon, then we will meet doc to go over results. Half of me is excited to get it moving and hope we can fix it, but other half is petrified about what will be found and how I will cope in day to day life if something is wrong with me/us...

Have you got any children already?

 

[MichelleW]

Me and my husband started trying for a baby xmas 2009 until xmas 2010 without trying anything like temping opk's etc and nothing, we then got referred for tests which all came back fine on both our sides, we were then diagnosed with unexplained infertility and put on a waiting list for a specialist. I starting temping and using opk's in January 2011 and fell pregnant in February 2011 which unfortunately resulted in an ectopic pregnancy. I was unable to try for 6 months due to having 2 doses of methotrexate and waited another month until september 2011 to start trying again, during this time I kept temping and got so familiar with my period and got to know my luteal phase, so regardless of how long my cycle was and when I ovulated my luteal phase was practically the same every month so I knew if this was longer I would be pregnant. I bought preseed as heard really good reports about it and concentrated on my chart, I knew exactly when I needed to dtd with hubby confirmed with how I felt and opk's and we got too it lol, ovulation confirmed with temps and I just knew I was pregnant and low and behold I was. I do in fact believe there was nothing wrong with my and my husband we just werent timing it right and all stuff you are told when your younger and through school about falling pregnant turns out it aint just as easy as we all thought, it takes some work, but at least if you put the effort in to know your cycle, you will definitely know if there is something wrong and worth investigating and not just bad timing. I do also believe there is such a thing as trying to hard and wanting to hard, so stay positive and believe it will happen xxxx

 

[heykitty]

Hi Chimmi!

Lovely to hear from you. No, we don't have any children. We're both in our early thirties and we were just so naive when we started the TTC journey. We've spent years trying not to get pregnant and assumed that as soon as we stopped using contraception, it would happen. It is hard when you've made the decision and commitment to try for a baby and it doesn't happen. You hear so often that people are caught out and end up pregnant- I had no idea it would be this difficult.

Think you've def made the right decision to start the ball rolling with the tests. I had a blood test last month and all came back normal. My DH is due to get tested soon and know he's not looking forward to the next stage. At least you can start getting some answers. You might be relieved that all is fine but if not, someone will be able to tell you what the options are.

Will keep my fingers crossed for you. Def keep in touch xx

 

[291]

I know the feeling!
14th month trying here.
I'v done soy (which I think made things worse), clomid, temping, opks, sperm meet egg plan (SMEP).

Took 11 months to fall prego with our first, nothing special used or tried.

 

[heykitty]

Me and my husband started trying for a baby xmas 2009 until xmas 2010 without trying anything like temping opk's etc and nothing, we then got referred for tests which all came back fine on both our sides, we were then diagnosed with unexplained infertility and put on a waiting list for a specialist. I starting temping and using opk's in January 2011 and fell pregnant in February 2012 which unfortunately resulted in an ectopic pregnancy. I was unable to try for 6 months due to having 2 doses of methotrexate and waited another month until september 2012 to start trying again, during this time I kept temping and got so familiar with my period and got to know my luteal phase, so regardless of how long my cycle was and when I ovulated my luteal phase was practically the same every month so I knew if this was longer I would be pregnant. I bought preseed as heard really good reports about it and concentrated on my chart, I knew exactly when I needed to dtd with hubby confirmed with how I felt and opk's and we got too it lol, ovulation confirmed with temps and I just knew I was pregnant and low and behold I was. I do in fact believe there was nothing wrong with my and my husband we just werent timing it right and all stuff you are told when your younger and through school about falling pregnant turns out it aint just as easy as we all thought, it takes some work, but at least if you put the effort in to know your cycle, you will definitely know if there is something wrong and worth investigating and not just bad timing. I do also believe there is such a thing as trying to hard and wanting to hard, so stay positive and believe it will happen xxxx

Wow- Sounds like you've had quite a journey. Sorry to hear that you had to through an ectopic. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement and your advice. My thermometer arrived yesterday, along with the pre seed so I'm now all set up and ready for the month ahead. Lol. Downloaded the fertility friend ap too- it seemed so complicated at first but think I'm getting to grips with it now. I def agree that there is such a thing as trying too hard so I'm not going to let baby making take over our lives. Both DH and I have said that we're going to enjoy being a two and try not to lose sight of that - and if a third littler person comes along, then that's def a bonus! If nothing else, it's always interesting finding out how your body works. Find it amazing that I've learnt so much about my body and all the crazy little cycle symptoms that happen every month, and that I never noticed before.

I was quite surprised how small the pre seed bottle was- did you use the pre seed each time you dtd throughout the month or just when you thought you were ovulating?

Thanks again and to all of you ladies. Xx

 

[heykitty]

I know the feeling!
14th month trying here.
I'v done soy (which I think made things worse), clomid, temping, opks, sperm meet egg plan (SMEP).

Took 11 months to fall prego with our first, nothing special used or tried.

Good luck 291. Really hope this is the month we get our BFP's. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you xx

 

[chimmi]

Hi Chimmi!

Lovely to hear from you. No, we don't have any children. We're both in our early thirties and we were just so naive when we started the TTC journey. We've spent years trying not to get pregnant and assumed that as soon as we stopped using contraception, it would happen. It is hard when you've made the decision and commitment to try for a baby and it doesn't happen. You hear so often that people are caught out and end up pregnant- I had no idea it would be this difficult.

Think you've def made the right decision to start the ball rolling with the tests. I had a blood test last month and all came back normal. My DH is due to get tested soon and know he's not looking forward to the next stage. At least you can start getting some answers. You might be relieved that all is fine but if not, someone will be able to tell you what the options are.

Will keep my fingers crossed for you. Def keep in touch xx

Yeah my hubby has his SA test booked in for tuesday now so once my results are back we can find out whats going on..!
Day two of AF now Ergh, its a heavy one too..! I have a feeling I kay have endo, but I know that the only diagnosis is surgery so who knows
Anyway good luck to you and yeah will deffo keep in touch x

 

[MichelleW]

Me and my husband started trying for a baby xmas 2009 until xmas 2010 without trying anything like temping opk's etc and nothing, we then got referred for tests which all came back fine on both our sides, we were then diagnosed with unexplained infertility and put on a waiting list for a specialist. I starting temping and using opk's in January 2011 and fell pregnant in February 2012 which unfortunately resulted in an ectopic pregnancy. I was unable to try for 6 months due to having 2 doses of methotrexate and waited another month until september 2012 to start trying again, during this time I kept temping and got so familiar with my period and got to know my luteal phase, so regardless of how long my cycle was and when I ovulated my luteal phase was practically the same every month so I knew if this was longer I would be pregnant. I bought preseed as heard really good reports about it and concentrated on my chart, I knew exactly when I needed to dtd with hubby confirmed with how I felt and opk's and we got too it lol, ovulation confirmed with temps and I just knew I was pregnant and low and behold I was. I do in fact believe there was nothing wrong with my and my husband we just werent timing it right and all stuff you are told when your younger and through school about falling pregnant turns out it aint just as easy as we all thought, it takes some work, but at least if you put the effort in to know your cycle, you will definitely know if there is something wrong and worth investigating and not just bad timing. I do also believe there is such a thing as trying to hard and wanting to hard, so stay positive and believe it will happen xxxx

Wow- Sounds like you've had quite a journey. Sorry to hear that you had to through an ectopic. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement and your advice. My thermometer arrived yesterday, along with the pre seed so I'm now all set up and ready for the month ahead. Lol. Downloaded the fertility friend ap too- it seemed so complicated at first but think I'm getting to grips with it now. I def agree that there is such a thing as trying too hard so I'm not going to let baby making take over our lives. Both DH and I have said that we're going to enjoy being a two and try not to lose sight of that - and if a third littler person comes along, then that's def a bonus! If nothing else, it's always interesting finding out how your body works. Find it amazing that I've learnt so much about my body and all the crazy little cycle symptoms that happen every month, and that I never noticed before.

I was quite surprised how small the pre seed bottle was- did you use the pre seed each time you dtd throughout the month or just when you thought you were ovulating?

Thanks again and to all of you ladies. Xx

Dont use anywhere near the amount it tells you too as it can be so messy!!! I only put up to two in the syringe and insert and believe me that is messy enough, depends on your own cervical mucus and how aroused you get too so its trial and error, I would start with it at two though and if you need to increase take it from there!! I only used it at this and fell my first cycle using pre-seed co-incidence I dont know but everything is worth a try xxx