Had the worst day

[emyandpotato]

I had my 6 week check up booked in today and wanted to ask about the problems I'm having not being able to BF and struggling with expressing (LO never could latch and EE is extremely painful, I can't get rid of thrush and my milk is drying up).I got up early and was all organized despite having tonsillitis and having had a completely sleepless night due to LO cluster feeding and was generally feeling awful. My doctors surgery is one of two that have the same people registered and the same doctors but one is a regular surgery and one is part of the university and is for students, mine is obviously the regular one. I got to the doctors on time and checked in and sat there in a unusually completely empty waiting room for about half an hour before one of the receptionists came up and said 'are you Amy? We've had a call from the university practice asking if you're here cos they're waiting for you'. Why on earth they made my appointment there I do not know. My doctor knows me as do all the receptionists and they know I'm not a student and that I have a baby Anyway I asked if I could change my appointment to another day as the university surgery is miles away and I didn't have money for a bus as I'd walked the 20 minutes from my house to the doctors and didn't think I'd need any but they were weird about it and said well they're waiting for you there you really should go, as if it was my fault After completely turning out my bag I managed to find a bit of change luckily and after a 20 minute wait the bus finally arrived only for the stupid driver to overcharge me on the already ridiculous fair. Once I got to the other practice I had to wait another half an hour before the doctor saw me and when I got in she said they didn't do 6 week check ups at that surgery!!!! By this point I'd been out of the house for about two hours and was completely shattered and really pissed off. I think the doctor felt bad and as she knows about how much I'm struggling with BF/EE she asked about that and examined me and said it looks like I still have a bad fungal infection or something similar. I explained that I'm in constant agony and that the previous antibiotics hadn't worked and also that my supply was low and asked if I could perhaps have domperidone prescribed. She said LO wouldn't be able to learn to BF at 6 weeks as he never could do it and will be too used to a bottle and she said to just quit expressing and that I won't get better til I do. I told her I really want to BF and feel guilty about FF but she refused to give me any medication and just said there's nothing I can do Then as if I wasn't annoyed enough she told me I have to have a smear test at my new 6 week check on Tuesday, great. I am petrified of that and really see no need. To top it all I had no money left for the bus back and had to walk about 3 miles with LO in the sling crying for food (I ran out of EBM as we'd been out way longer than I expected) and when we finally got back five hours after I went out I couldn't find my keys and my stupid OH didn't answer the intercom for about 5 minutes Sorry I just needed a rant.

 

[chocojen]

hugs xxxxxxxxx

 

[patch2006uk]

And shame on the doctor just telling you to give up EE! You should be crongtatulated for sticking at it.

 

[kerry0509]

Aww im sorry to hear about your day, doctors can be the worst sometimes hey, take care x

 

[Princess pea]

Oh Amy, your story made me want to cry. What an awful day, stupid bleeping doctors!! Big hugs, hope you sort your feeding out, I'm sorry you feel so guilty I sympathise totally, as had to give up feeding my DD1 after three months and couldn't feed DD2, and the guilt can be crippling, but don't let it eat away at you, you are doing your best and like someone said above you should be congratulated on sticking at it. But formula's are very good these days, granted never as good as breastmilk, but they are good. Personally SMA staydown has been a godsend for me and my little one, following a few fractious weeks with reflux.

 

[Groovychick]

 

[emyandpotato]

Thank you I honestly think I'd go mad sometimes without the support on BnB

 

[New Mrs W]

Just to let you know, when I was pregnant I got a letter saying I was due a smear. I rang up and explained I was pregnant and they said I had to wait until I was 3 months pp before a smear should be performed. As luck would have it (!!!!) I had a smear on the morning of my 30th birthday!!!

 

[emyandpotato]

Just to let you know, when I was pregnant I got a letter saying I was due a smear. I rang up and explained I was pregnant and they said I had to wait until I was 3 months pp before a smear should be performed. As luck would have it (!!!!) I had a smear on the morning of my 30th birthday!!!

Yeah I was sure I wouldn't need one Gonna try and talk my way out of it I think

 

[midori1999]

I have been told they can't do a smear until 3 months post partum now.

Have you spoken to a good BF counsellor or lactation consultant about the BF/EE? NCT, LLL, ABM etc all have people you can speak to and that may be able to do a home visit. They'll be far more knowledgable than any doctor, midwife or HV.

 

[shellie]

Oh you poor thing, if that was me I would have broken down in tears. I hope things start to improve soon. xxx

 

[keeks1987]

Hugs x

 

[MajorBee]

I was told 3 months till smear too, so just ask to book another appointment. Its your body and they cant do it without your permission anyway! If your day is still getting you wound up consider contacting the practice manager to complain. They shouldnt have made an appointment they couldnt even complete for you, or made you feel like you couldnt reschedule. It's tough enough havung a six week old!