Hard time adjusting!

[LadyBelle]

Today is my first day back to work in over two years...hating it! I miss my lovely, little lady more than words! I have been very fortunate to have had all of this time with her but it still feels like mommy/daughter time has been cut short. If I hear one more person tell me "it'll be good for both of you," I'll scream! I don't understand this statement. Why will it be "good" for us?

 

[seoj]

Well, I certainly won't say it will be good for ya Sorry- not trying to make light of the situation. Honestly, for me, I do feel better balanced working. I do work from home on Fridays- and that was a compromise with work so I got that balance. And I fully enjoy all the time I have with my LO. I figure, and this is just my two cents, it's the quality of the time- not just the quantity. BUT- it's perfectly OK that you are having a hard time adjusting hun. I honestly know that it would have been much harder going back to work if LO was say, the age she is now. But because I had to go back when she was 4mos- I've had a lot of time to adjust and find that balance I need.

You'll get there- but that doesn't mean you have to be happy about it. Seriously. If others say it's good for you- they are only trying to make you feel better... obviously not the right thing to say. But I'm sure they have good intentions.

I think what is "good for you" is being a happy Mommy- whatever that intails

 

[ValentinesGal]

It's a hard adjustment and I too think it would be harder if DS was older, instead of 2 months when I had to return to work. I enjoy having adult time at work where I can use my brain more and give DS the socialization and learning at daycare that I'm not sure I could adequately provide for him, plus when I'm not a work, we do much more interesting and fun things together. I agree it's the quality that counts. It sucks now, but I hope things get better for you

 

[supertabby]

I went back when Isobel was just turned 1, for the first 3 months I did part time and though I hated the first couple of weeks I quickly started to enjoy the balance. On work days I got grown up conversation, hot tea, went to the loo undisturbed lol, and could sit and read while I ate lunch.

When I went full time it took me a few months to really get used to it tbh. I did find that hard.

I think it also depends on your job, I do enjoy my job even though it's demanding, I think if I didn't like my job I'd really resent being there.

 

[supertabby]

Meant to add - I think Isobel enjoys me working more than I do lol. She loves nursery and has made friends there, some activities they do we rarely or never do at home so she's getting good experiences. I think it helps her to be both sociable and independent - but she's not lost wanting cuddle time, she gives us lots of cuddles and kisses and "luv yoo"s!