Harder going from 0-1 kids or 1-2 kids??

[Brz04]

We have one 15mo old DS and are considering having one more but I am terrified of going from 1-2 kids!! What are everyone's opinions...did you find it harder going from having no children to having one, or going from having one to having two??

 

[minties]

0-1 was waaaaay harder than 1-2. I'd had no experience with babies or children at all and it was such a shock.

Sophie fit in with us like she had always been here and I found it all so much easier and less stressful.

 

[Wilsey]

I found 0-1 easy, in the sense that you only have to worry about one. 1-2 took some adjustment, it was harder to go out with two etc. But we really love it. Sure they have their bad moments but they also have their adorable moments.

 

[Babybear85]

Having two.was easier than having my first I.didn't.have a.clue what I.was doing the first time around lol. I only find having two.hard when.they are.unwell really as I find myself not able to fully comfort them the way I'd like but in.terms of anything else it was fine

 

[Sarah lo]

0-1 was WAAAAY harder for me. My little firecracker DD came to this world with a bang and she's not stopped since! Number 2 just slotted in

 

[Larkspur]

Overall 0-1 for me, though 1-2 has had some moments that outdid anything one baby could achieve in terms of stress. But I know what I'm doing now, and know how quickly it all passes, so I just don't stress out as much when everything is chaos. I know to just keep plugging on and doing one thing at a time.

 

[Mummytoosh]

On reflection for me I would say 1-2. When it was just my DS I had all the time in the world and just his needs to meet. When I was then pregnant again, if I was tired I still had to chase around after my DS and when my DD was born I couldn't nap when she did as of course I was looking after DS.
That said, I wouldn't have it any other way and it's not that bad as I now have #3 and would love baby #4.
It was probably harder for me when I went from 2-3 because my DD was only 17 months old when DS was born.
They are so close as siblings it's totally worth it xx

 

[Wriggley]

1-2 for us. Adjusting to being a first time mum was easier for me then adjusting to having two of them lol

 

[Eleanor ace]

I found 1-2 harder, but still manageable and mostly enjoyable

 

[Amy2701]

Definitely 0-1. It was such a shock to my system suddenly having this little person to take care of and having to make decisions for this little helpless baby.
Going from 1-2 was a breeze. My eldest was still a baby herself (only 13 months) so my son just had to fit in, and it was like he'd always been there.

I'm about to go from 2-3, and I have two very strong willed and energetic toddlers. I've a feeling that 2-3 will be like going from 0-1 all over again

 

[Mummy1506]

1-2 was much harder but then my youngest had reflux & cried ALOT however I wouldn't change it for the world! Also going for number 3 this year so can't be that bad xx

 

[MrsPear]

For me so far 0-1 was a lot harder. This time at least I know of some baby groups already, I have a few local friends and I'm generally more at ease with a baby. First month I found both equally draining but at least second time round I was forced to just get on with it more as I already had a toddler. So although it was really hard at least I was maintaining a sense of normal life. Honestly? I think if I can do it anyone can. The first few weeks I was adjusting and very unsure but even now at 7.5 weeks I'm already getting into the swing of it and the adjustment has not been so intense as last time round xx

 

[candyem]

0-1 was harder for me.

I worried much less the second time and knew the tough times wouldn't last forever.

 

[catty]

I found going from 0-1 pretty easy as I only had one child to worry about.
2 is/was definately harder but I dont stress over the small stuff now.
Evie doesnt want her whole bottle? No issue she doesnt need to have it.
lucas doesnt want to nap at 1? No issue il try in 30 mins
Evie wajts to come into our bed for a cuddle? Ok in she comes

before it was very much ' oh but the health visitor said 7oz is what he should be having' now im just like il decide haha

 

[AngelUK]

try 0-2

 

[seoj]

Technically we have 2- as hubby has his oldest full time, so I became a full time mom to her when she was 9yrs- she's 17 now (but obviously much different than the baby stage)-- so when LO came along, she was my 2nd, but my first LO- and tbh, I found it pretty easy. Obviously there are struggles with ANY new situation... but, overall, I adjusted really well and it just felt very natural from the start. Like she was this part of our family that had been missing- and the girls adore each other and get along great (but 14yrs apart helps! lol).

Although we don't plan on having any more- having just one LO is so easy (still)-- But whenever another kid is in the mix- oh man! lol. I know it's all unique to each situation and family and kid... so my experience is limited to the time I'm with my bestie and her daughter (who's 18mos older than my LO)- and when they are getting along, it's all very sweet... but when they bicker- ALL day- ugh. I guess it's not THAT bad- as I've heard some pretty crazy stories from co-workers or other friends- lol. But if one is bossy, the other is sensitive and visa versa. And just the little tasks- like a bathroom trip or making a meal or picking out a movie become more difficult for sure. If we had wanted another- I'd want a bigger age gap again for sure! Least 3-4yrs... my niece is almost 4 and my nephew is almost 1 and both pretty darn easy now.

Just my experience... so, probably no help there Just gotta take the plunge and I'm sure you wouldn't imagine it any other way.

 

[x__amour]

0-1 definitely. 1-2 was a breeze.

 

[jd83]

Definitely 1-2 for me. 0-1 was ony hard the first month or so, since I had no clue whatsoever about babies. But once we got beyond those first few weeks of cluelessness, and learned that newborns want held mot of the time and don't actually like being laid down so you can do your own thing like most childless people assume, lol, things got much easier. He was a super happy, easy going baby, so it really wasn't to hard with him once we figured out how to care for a baby.

Going from 1-2...well, DS2 wasn't near as easy going as DS1, so he kind of completely shocked us. We weren't used to dealing with so much fussines over every little thing, so it was difficult learning to adjust all over again. I thought I was prepared from DS1, but he really didn't prepare me for a fussy baby. he's still a very fussy toddler, but now I'm more used to it and adjusted to how to handle him, so its not bad anymore. Definitely a shock to the system at first, though!

 

[Zinky]

1-2 definitely harder for me. We have a 23 month gap. The early days were hell for me, things have got easier but it's still twice the work!

 

[Lady_Bee]

1-2 was way more stressful and exhausting. But I was more confident. So... Pros and cons. But I was shocked at how hard it was with 2 in the beginning.