We used ingender but the Shettles Method. Will find out in just a few days.
Can't wait to find out what team you're on Keep us updated I hope you hear pink! Just to mix it up a little. Are your boys hangin' out for a little sister? x
They don't know yet- it's a Christmas gift!
What a good idea! Have you thought up any neat ideas of how to announce it to them? xx
We are telling the kids as well as my husband's family on Christmas Eve during a toast. My Father-In-Law passed away just weeks ago so we were going to have a toast in memory of him and then announce it because we never got the chance to tell him we were expecting =(
This Christmas Eve would've also been my older sister's 35th birthday if she were alive (we lost her in 2003). I think it will be the most exciting toast we've ever had!
Mrsahmed, is this your firstchild? I know a lady who's 1 and only son died at 3 months old, she went on to have 7 daughters who she loves dearly, is it wrong for her to want a son? And another lady who's beautiful 2yr old daughter developed a wasting condition similar to alzheimers, her Mum was terrified of having another daughter because she knew it wuld break her heart to watch her 2nd daughter dance and sing whilst her 1st little precious girl sat in a chair in her own world,was she wrong to cry at the ultrasound confirming her 2nd daughter?
Its a privilidge to raise a family of both genders and one that is often overlooked for being by those already blessed with it. Nobody walks into an ultrasound thinking 'I don't care if my babies disabled just as long as its a girl' we take it for granted that everythings going to be fine, but set possible hopes and dreams on our children's genders, a son to carry a name, a daughter to share motherhood with one day, a brother for a brother or a sister for a sister, that doesn't make us bad people or ungrateful for being pregnant.
Again this is not being written as offensive, or directed to you MrsA but more in the way 'Walk a day in another person's shoes' and directed to anyone else who thinks wanting to complete a family is wrong.
- I wouldn't quite say that it's that they don't feel that child is good enough, but there are different aspects to raising different genders and that is what people would like to experience. You may be happy with either gender now, but that's not to say that feeling might change if you had two, three or more of the same gender. You really couldn't tell until you were in that situation.I find it even more insulting that someone could have for instance 6 kids of one sex and they STILL feel the need to keep trying for the opposite, it feels as though they arent good enough.
Firstly, I think it's a little pointless and maybe even a bit rude to be posting in this thread and condemning those who believe that these methods work and are not opposed to trying them. I don't think that the lady who started this thread asked for opinions on the matter, but for people who have tried the method and whether or not it worked.
Of course what anybody would want is a healthy baby, that is first and foremost and the most important thing. But I do not believe it is wrong to desire one gender, especially if that is a gender you don't already have. When people have children they obviously have to accept that, going into it, if they have a preference then at the end of the day it could always go either way. You don't have a child if you were never open to the idea of both genders, do you. But I think it's only human to desire a certain gender, and by no means is that wrong - it can't be helped. What is wrong about trying to sway for a particular gender if it's not actually hurting your baby or anybody else for that matter?
- I wouldn't quite say that it's that they don't feel that child is good enough, but there are different aspects to raising different genders and that is what people would like to experience. You may be happy with either gender now, but that's not to say that feeling might change if you had two, three or more of the same gender. You really couldn't tell until you were in that situation.I find it even more insulting that someone could have for instance 6 kids of one sex and they STILL feel the need to keep trying for the opposite, it feels as though they arent good enough.
I would love for my sister to have the little girl she so desires. She has three lovely little boys already and she loves them more than life itself and wouldn't trade them for an army of girls, but like I said it's the difference of raising the opposite gender that you do not have.
So please, I respect your opinions but I do not agree with the fact that you have said swaying genders is wrong, because that statement in itself is very judgmental.