It's been a few months since we found out we are having our second boy (and most likely our last child) I have been plodding on fine, pregnancy has been very straight forward *touch wood* and I've been relatively excited (although being pretty busy it hasn't been the fore front of my mind but that's just the fact it's our second I think, nothing else) I am now on maternity leave though and have too much time to think. The fact I'm not having a daughter is obsessing nearly every thought, I'm Christmas shopping for DS and I keep seeing all the girl things il never get to buy, I was at a wedding watching the mother of a bride and realised that would never be me, I'm resenting anyone I know with a daughter. Worst of all, I'm feeling punished, punished?! I have a gorgeous boy and I am blessed with a so far healthy pregnancy and should be praying for the safe arrival of our second child, not feeling like I am some how being punished. I am absolutely hating myself right now, I have no one to talk to about it, DH just doesn't understand, I know my mum understands too well she has pretty much said she'd feel the same so that is not really a help. I'm so scared to have a new born again, but I'm scared I'm going to resent him, I just keep thinking if it was a girl everything would be perfect, I could manage anything. I know this isn't true, but it doesn't stop me thinking it. I always managed my gender disappointment because as much as I wanted a girl it was never a case of not wanting another boy, but I'm obsessing more and more about having a girl I think I am forgetting this