Having a melt down with 20 days till due date...

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I've done pretty well with this second pregnancy. But it's getting harder and harder now. I've had an awful day (getting more frequent awful days lately).

I haven't been able to sleep properly in weeks. I do 99% of everything for my 13 month old baby girl who I adore and keeping on top of housework etc. (husband is great with her but works long hours and not around much).

I'm totally wiped out. I'm on the highest iron prescription they'll give anyone. Basically for anaemia which I haven't got - my body won't store iron this pregnancy. But I'm that exhausted I don't have the energy to run around with my baby to ware her out which results in tantrums both at nap time and bedtime. Over an hour long each today. She's so good and I know it's only due to her picking up on my low energy and being upset.

I'm in tears and I know it's pathetic. I'm so lucky to have my second due so soon but I just feel I'm not coping well right now. Pelvic bone feels like its breaking in two, the softening ligaments ouch, nasty heart burn, no energy, not sleeping, 13 hour days with no break, swollen everywhere, big fat wide pregnancy nose, spotty face, extra chins, the bags under my eyes no makeup can help. I feel huge. I don't feel like myself at all. Feeling overwhelmed by it all. I'm getting frustrated at my baby which I never ever do and it's not her fault. She's a baby for goodness sake. I'm so angry with myself.

The one fear about being pregnant again was that it would effect my precious time with my daughter. It is.

I'm so wanting bump to be here with us and to start feeling normal again. It's going to be exhausting having the two but I'm looking forward to it.

I'm blathering on, not sure why. Think I needed to get it out of my system. A lot of people wouldn't understand and think pregnancy is a breeze. First pregnancy is full of pampering and all delicate with yourself and resting where you can. Second pregnancy flies by putting up with all the horrible symptoms while coping with working (luckily finished) and all that goes along with looking after your other children. No luxuries, no pampering, no breaks, no me time :(
I'm feeling sorry for myself but when my daughter walks up to me (newly walking :) )and gives me a big hug and when bump is kicking away I know it's all worth it.
 
Ah hun, I can sympathise and empathise with you. My DD is 2 and a half and this pregnancy has been so much harder than first time round. When I was pregnant with her I could nap when I wanted, take a bath, read a book etc - this time round I barely get a minute a day to myself between work and looking after her. I can't even take a 5 minute shower without her popping in and out!
First time around is def so much easier and everyone treats you like you are precious - second or more and no-one seems to give a rat's bum!! :)
Just console yourself with the fact that it'll be over soon and baby will be here and I have been told that it is much easier once baby arrives even with sleepless nights etc.
Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day!!
Take care x
 
I know how you feel! My husband is currently in school to become a police officer and he doesn't get home till about 8pm every night (except weekends). We have a 16 month old little girl who is a hand full to say the very least lol. I am tired, i barely get a decent nights sleep maybe once a week. I take care of her all day and try to keep the house up. Believe me I feel your pain! Once 37 weeks comes I want this baby out lol. I know its going to be a bit more difficult raising 2 kids but I want my normal self back, my normal body!
 
Thanks girls. It's true..... Second pregnancy you're just left to it. Friends promise to help out, meaning well but it hasn't happened yet. Believe me when oh gets into the force you'll see him less!!!!!!!!!!!! You never get used to it :(
Same - no me time. The smallest things become a luxury like having a shower in peace, eating a meal with two hands or painting nails lol.

Zonked dot com lol

Plus hubby is not that supportive during pregnancy. I know men can't know what we are going through but he doesn't even try to imagine. I just get on with it and he takes it for granted.
 
i feel exactly the same and my little girl is 13 months too im just so done being pregnant now i know that sounds awful but i want her out. im just so ill ,tired , grumoy , sore i feel like ive broken my body :( . i ended up in hospital last weekend with gastroenteritis and had to stay for 2 nights and my mil had to have my 13 month old and i just felt like the worst mother ever and then yesterday i had to call my mum to come and have her for a couple of nights as im just still in so much pain and she is just getting upset seeing me like it but the guilt i feel is huge its my fault that im having another baby and that my baby who is here is missing out so much . im lucky that she loves going to her nanny's she just waves bye to me and doesnt look back lol but it still breaks my heart. any way sorry for rambling on on your post lol i just wanted to let you know your not alone and fingers crossed we dont go over our due dates as im going to be awful to be around haha
 
Aw good luck hun. Ramble away please :) I had a better night of sleep - still broken but better. I had mw apt first thing and it was good to hear bumps heartbeat and a chat about the birthing plans. Consultant had said no to another waterbirth and my mw is saying yes so that's an option at least now phew.
Went and bought new toys for baby this morning so we've new things to play with while we stay cool in this massive heat here.

You've not long to go. Small age gap is going to be mad at first but soooooo worth it x
 
I sympathise totally with how you are feeling, just wanted you to know that you are not alone. We are human and allowed to feel like this from time to time. I am the same, and hate relying on anyone else to do things for me which I am having to do at the moment, because my body is hurting everywhere and Im 4 days overdue now. It is hard and tiring especially when our bodies are not working properly, but yes it will be worth it and all will be forgotten when you are holding your new baby. :hugs:
 
Thanks Asti. Yesterday was just a really bad day. We all have the ups and down's ad we know.
Aw I hope your little one arrives soon. My first was just one day late. I don't think I could bare to go really over due.
Midwife said she'll give me a sweep the day after my due date but then said it probably won't do anything lol. Great !
 
sending hugs...i'm in the same boat with my 18 month old and hubby working long days 7 days a week. it's tough, and my family don't really help out so it's a stuggle to the finish line every day, but the our LO's will be here before we know it xxxx
 

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