QTPie
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Oh huge hugs
I pretty much agree with this I am afraid. It makes me very, very sad, but it sounds as though he isn't up to the responsibilities of being a partner (through thick and thin) or a Dad (no Dad in their right mind would say those things...
Men often suffer terror and may leave their pregnant partner when the thought of a baby starts to sink in... and some of them see sense (if the relationship is basically very good) and get back together. If your relationship is truly in trouble and that is what he really thinks, then it doesn't sound good at all. I am afraid it sounds as though your OH is a REAL idiot. . Honestly, you would be better off without him
The most important thing is to get yourself a good support network (family, friends etc) to help you through this - the existing depression, him being such an idiot, the pregnancy, the birth and get you on the right foot with the baby... You need real people to help you get through that.
You can do this and you will have a gorgeous baby girl out of it who will light up your life. It wont be easy, but you can do it. If money/housing is an issue, then get in touch with the Citizen's Advice Bureau and make sure you get any benefits reviewed. You shoudl also seek maintenance from your OH - whether he likes it or not, he DOES have some responsibility towards your child.
Am wishing you lots of strength to get through this
QT
forget him, get your LOs things from his house then cut all contact you deserve better than to be that and so does your daughter, it will be hard but its for the best he'll realise what a stupid child he is being and will be the one that regrets it whereas you will have your daughter xx
I pretty much agree with this I am afraid. It makes me very, very sad, but it sounds as though he isn't up to the responsibilities of being a partner (through thick and thin) or a Dad (no Dad in their right mind would say those things...
Men often suffer terror and may leave their pregnant partner when the thought of a baby starts to sink in... and some of them see sense (if the relationship is basically very good) and get back together. If your relationship is truly in trouble and that is what he really thinks, then it doesn't sound good at all. I am afraid it sounds as though your OH is a REAL idiot. . Honestly, you would be better off without him
The most important thing is to get yourself a good support network (family, friends etc) to help you through this - the existing depression, him being such an idiot, the pregnancy, the birth and get you on the right foot with the baby... You need real people to help you get through that.
You can do this and you will have a gorgeous baby girl out of it who will light up your life. It wont be easy, but you can do it. If money/housing is an issue, then get in touch with the Citizen's Advice Bureau and make sure you get any benefits reviewed. You shoudl also seek maintenance from your OH - whether he likes it or not, he DOES have some responsibility towards your child.
Am wishing you lots of strength to get through this
QT