Hello there!
I am 22 years old, 23 this year and am currently studying at university. I'v been with my partner for 3 years and the plan was to wait another 4 years before having children, so i would have finished uni and be in a steady, good job. Recently i was diagnosed with endometriosis, i also have a fibroid, cin1 and suspected polycystic ovarian syndrome, although no cysts were found at the time (but i have had ruptured ones). I'm worrying now that my chances of conceiving will get less and less the older i get (as i know iv had endo since i was 13 but it's taken all this time to be diagnosed).
Whilst i would love to travel first (though iv done quite a bit) and finish my degree etc, a family is important to me and i feel i would be ready should i happen to be pregnant now (in fact i thought i was as i am currently 5 days late for af, got excited but had a bfn ). The only thing is, I know my partner is not ready for a child as he feels we are not able to 'afford one' (but then when are you!). We have our own rented place (a 2 bedroomed house), he works and i work at weekends on top of my studies, so i feel it would work in regards to finance. We also talk about having kids and how we would parent them etc a lot, so i know he would like them, just not right now i suppose.
Do you ladies think i should perhaps have more of a talk with him to get him to come round to the idea of having kids within the next year or two? Or leave it a while, so i don't push my partner away or make him do something he would regret? It's partly the infertility prospect that makes me think start trying right away but even without that i would still like to bring it forward a few years (rather than 4!).
Does anyone else have fertility issues and is currently thinking/thought/acted on this?
I guess i just needed to rant a little bit and get my feelings out there! Any advice/ideas/support would be appreciated xx
I am 22 years old, 23 this year and am currently studying at university. I'v been with my partner for 3 years and the plan was to wait another 4 years before having children, so i would have finished uni and be in a steady, good job. Recently i was diagnosed with endometriosis, i also have a fibroid, cin1 and suspected polycystic ovarian syndrome, although no cysts were found at the time (but i have had ruptured ones). I'm worrying now that my chances of conceiving will get less and less the older i get (as i know iv had endo since i was 13 but it's taken all this time to be diagnosed).
Whilst i would love to travel first (though iv done quite a bit) and finish my degree etc, a family is important to me and i feel i would be ready should i happen to be pregnant now (in fact i thought i was as i am currently 5 days late for af, got excited but had a bfn ). The only thing is, I know my partner is not ready for a child as he feels we are not able to 'afford one' (but then when are you!). We have our own rented place (a 2 bedroomed house), he works and i work at weekends on top of my studies, so i feel it would work in regards to finance. We also talk about having kids and how we would parent them etc a lot, so i know he would like them, just not right now i suppose.
Do you ladies think i should perhaps have more of a talk with him to get him to come round to the idea of having kids within the next year or two? Or leave it a while, so i don't push my partner away or make him do something he would regret? It's partly the infertility prospect that makes me think start trying right away but even without that i would still like to bring it forward a few years (rather than 4!).
Does anyone else have fertility issues and is currently thinking/thought/acted on this?
I guess i just needed to rant a little bit and get my feelings out there! Any advice/ideas/support would be appreciated xx