HELP I am so confused

[carlywarly]

Hi all,

I don't know if this is the right place to post...but yesterday I found out I had a mmc. I lost at 6 weeks...but supposed to be 9 weeks now (so it stopped thriving 3 weeks ago). Now, I have had no signs at all of this (except my own gut instinct going for the scan in the 1st place) - and I really want nature to take it's course rather than have that tablet to speed things up :/ (I haven't had any bleeding or cramps or anything) It is/was my 1st pregnancy.

Well, I don't actually know why, but this morning I used an OPK and got a POSITIVE result...I suppose I did it out of curiosity. I don't think I will start TTC again so soon anyway, but is the OPK right? Will I be ovulating soon? How does all that work?? I am baffled....or is it a bum test??

Thanks, I would appreciate any help or advice.

 

[Elhaym]

Hi there - firstly, so sorry for your loss i had a mmc last year and it is an awful thing to go through.

If you have not yet passed anything (apologies for the clinical way that sounds), I would imagine your OPK is picking up pregnancy hormone (hcg) still. Hcg and LH are very similar molecules so an OPK will pick up the presence of hcg. Until your body has lost the pregnancy, hcg will still be present in your urine.

You won't ovulate again until your hcg has dropped back down, which kick starts your menstrual cycle hormones again.

I hope you're not waiting too long, I hated the waiting in limbo stage and ended up opting for an ERPC. I understand wanting to do it naturally though, its a personal decision and you have to do what feels right. Sending you lots of love xx

 

[carlywarly]

Hi there - firstly, so sorry for your loss i had a mmc last year and it is an awful thing to go through.

If you have not yet passed anything (apologies for the clinical way that sounds), I would imagine your OPK is picking up pregnancy hormone (hcg) still. Hcg and LH are very similar molecules so an OPK will pick up the presence of hcg. Until your body has lost the pregnancy, hcg will still be present in your urine.

You won't ovulate again until your hcg has dropped back down, which kick starts your menstrual cycle hormones again.

I hope you're not waiting too long, I hated the waiting in limbo stage and ended up opting for an ERPC. I understand wanting to do it naturally though, its a personal decision and you have to do what feels right. Sending you lots of love xx

Thank you so so much...the hcg does make sense...and definitely the likely cause of a positive.

I am so so happy for you expecting your rainbow baby - congratulations!! Did you TTCAL straight away or wait a cycle?...I just don't know what to do for the best xx

 

[confusedprego]

Hi there...so sorry for your loss

Like the other girl said the opks pick up hcg as positive so until you get a negative pregnancy test your opks will be inaccurate.

I also hope you don't wait too long...I went the d&c route and found it to be comforting to know everything was under control.

I'm so sorry again and wish you the best of luck in the future!

 

[sarah986]

Hi, firstly im sorry for your loss, we get so attached from an early stage and a mmc is a difficult thing to go through. As the previous posters have said as you still have hcg in your body it is this that the ovulation test is picking up.
I had a mmc in August last year. I was 12 weeks but baby stopped growing alot earlier than this, around 6 or 7 weeks, for this reason i opted for a D and C, i felt my body was not going to let go. After my D and C it took over 6 weeks for hcg hormone to leave my body, this was so disheartening as all i wanted was closure. I felt i couldnt get over this until i had another baby to look forward to. I had my first cycle 10 weeks after D and C and got pregnant again on that cycle. Thankfully everything is fine and baby is due in just over 7 weeks time
I hope this helps you. You need to choose which option is best for you and go from there. Make sure you take time to rest and grieve for your loss.xxx

 

[Mrskg]

so very sorry for your loss xxx

i had a mmc last july i found out ar nearly 12wks my baby had stoped growing at 6 x i had 2 failed med managments an eventually passed eveything at what would have been 15 weeks x i just wanted you to know it can take a while for your body to let go x i will say it was a draining 3 weeks but i really didnt want surgery x i really hope you get some closure soon x

 

[geordiemammy]

hi sorry for your loss i know exactly what your going through i went for a scan at 10 weeks to be told baby stopped growing at 7 weeks i opted for the waiting option but wish i had taken another route i started bleeding at what would of been 12 weeks the 13 dec 2011 throughout the day the blood came in waves of really bad bleeds i rang the hospital and they said this was normal then at around 6pm i collapsed i was taken to hospital by amulance my bp was 52 over 31 through the floor i lost 3 litres of blood and had to be rushed to surgery at 1am thankfully i made it through but i didnt think i would but im here i dint try again til feb im now expecting but have bleeding if i got told again to have a medical or surgical i would opt for surgical as its over and done with and you know everything has gone which means you get back to normal quicker

 

[Elhaym]

Hi there - firstly, so sorry for your loss i had a mmc last year and it is an awful thing to go through.

If you have not yet passed anything (apologies for the clinical way that sounds), I would imagine your OPK is picking up pregnancy hormone (hcg) still. Hcg and LH are very similar molecules so an OPK will pick up the presence of hcg. Until your body has lost the pregnancy, hcg will still be present in your urine.

You won't ovulate again until your hcg has dropped back down, which kick starts your menstrual cycle hormones again.

I hope you're not waiting too long, I hated the waiting in limbo stage and ended up opting for an ERPC. I understand wanting to do it naturally though, its a personal decision and you have to do what feels right. Sending you lots of love xx

Thank you so so much...the hcg does make sense...and definitely the likely cause of a positive.

I am so so happy for you expecting your rainbow baby - congratulations!! Did you TTCAL straight away or wait a cycle?...I just don't know what to do for the best xx

Thank you! we did NTNP straight away but didn't catch for a few cycles. Looking back if I had gotten pregnant again very soon after it would have been really scary, in a way I'm glad it took a few cycles as it gave us time to grieve as I think it affected us more than we realised at the time.

Best of luck with whatever you decide, hugs to you

 

[carlywarly]

Thank you all so much for the kind words, and helpful information. It is nice to know others know how I am feeling...and what I am going through...it's also really lovely to see a few of you are expecting a rainbow baby soon...actually gives me hope - and realise this isn 't the end. We will be trying again..we just don't know when. You are right though, we are grieving...but it's still a bit surreal right now...I cannot imagine waiting 4 more weeks til nature takes over though :/

I am going back for another scan in 10 days to see if anything has happened...but if not, I will be having a tablet or something...they said they only do D&C's in emergencies or if women choose that route. I could not bear the thought of having it...and would be worried of the risks (not being able to conceive again...or problems with pregnancy). I hope nature takes it's course...but maybe that's just wishful thinking...it hasn't in the last 3 and a half weeks :/

Good luck to all of you, and thank you once again xxx

 

[Yam87]

Carlywarly, i'm sorry for your loss. Unfortunately we all know how you must be feeling. It's a devastating time. Be aware that family and friends will say really insensitive things with good intentions or because they have absolutely no clue.

I lost my 'olive' at 10 weeks, found out at 11 weeks, had a d&c at 12 weeks. I chose the surgery as I didn't want to experience the pain and bleeding. To me, that would have been more traumatic but everyone is different. We decided to try again straight away. I didn't conceive the first cycle but I did on the second. I think it will be scary no matter when you get pregnant again.

You might find it helpful to plant a tree for your little one. I bought an olive tree, it sits by my front door so I can see it everyday. Look after yourself, take as much time off work as you need and don't let anyone tell you that you are not dealing with it properly. Everyone gets through it the best way they can. X

 

[carlywarly]

Thank you so much Yam Good luck with the pregnancy of your rainbow baby! H&H 9 months to you xx