MetalMaiden
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To start, i come from a family of all girls and i am pretty sad that my last name is basically going to end here. I am a proud ukrainian girl and i have always felt like its too bad the men dont take the womens names i am however pretty traditional and it would make me proud to have dh's last name for me and LO. I feel some anxiety tho about this cuz i feel like my family has "been there" longer than he has aka a lifetime, you know? I am pretty sure LO is a boy (to be confirmed this week) and have thoughts of hyphenating our last names since we're not "officially" married (but 7 years constitutes some sort of marriage in the eyes of the law of course.. we are engaged, maybe i shud be calling him DF) but "df" is ukrainian too so naturally we both have long last names (mine 8 letters, his 10) and i just feel stuck cuz i don't know if thats the right thing to do for future "let teach our kid how to write his name" purposes. it is a mouthful. DF "decided" (because i like 2 middle names) that we can either hyphenate our last names and give him one middle name or take his and give him 2. I just feel upset. what he says make sense but its just hard for me to deal with because i value my family so much anyone else in the same boat?