Help me please with my horrendous sleeper!

[kerrie24]

Owen has never slept a full night,never.Two or three times in his life he has had a late bedtime and woke early in the morning and I count that as sleeping through but its been literally a few times in his life.
He suddenly got a whole lot worse.The last 2 nights have gone like this-
8-8.30pm he has been taken to bed,story and asleep within 20 minutes.
By 10pm he has already been up twice.We keep him in bed and sit there while he goes back to sleep.
By 12am another 2 wake ups,now accompanied by screaming the house down and thrashing violently with his legs (imagine a 2 yr olds tantrum)
Turns up in my bed at some point before one and I leave him there as I haven't got the energy to go back through with him again and sit in the cold.
After more thrashing around,kicking the quilt off,standing up etc he decides he wants back in his room,meaning me or oh has to sit there again till he falls asleep.This is anywhere between 2-4am.He gets up at 6 am and will not go back to sleep.
He then spends all day in a mood as he has had so little sleep.

We cant leave him to cry as he wakes the older 2 and they have school.

I dont get along with the h v so wont fo to her for advice.

My partner leaves for work at 4.45am and it is not fair to expect him to help much but I am exhausted.I find myself getting angry with Owen because I feel so hopeless in the night and I just dont get a break as the bad nights run into the miserable days.

Somebody tell me I can change this.

 

[Babybear85]

No advice but your not alone. Josh slept well until a month before he was two and he started to wake up in the night. We thought it was terrors as he would scream and scream but as times gone on it's clearly tantrums but I have no ideaywhat triggered it or why. Now every night he either does resettle but still wakes screaming but more often he screams and cries so much and won't stop until we give in after a long time and he comes in with us. I hate it it feels like I dont even got bedtime to myself but once he's in with us he does sleep then. I wish I could help or say it gets better but for us it's been going on for 4 months and it's not getting better. The health visitor told me to leave him but he either makes himself sick from screaming or he climbs out the cot in desperation to get to us. I didn't do this on purpose actually to find that out I left the room for a wee one time and he got that upset and the other time I needed to leave as I was gettin upset and angry. Yeahso Ihonestly I dont think she could help really.

 

[kerrie24]

Thanks for your experience. Thats the thing,if he slept once in my bed I wwould just leave him there but he still jumps around,kicks etc so its no good

 

[Babybear85]

Actually originally josh didn't really settle with us but we just got quite stern it was a case of cuddle your teddy and sleep here or you go back in your cot and then he realised that In with us was better. I really really dislike it though but he wakes my 11 month old and honestly my husband did the settle him back to bed for 2 months and it averaged around 3 hours until he gave in. I wish I knew why he did it but I am certain it's not night terrors as he is aware we are there. Weird little begins really. I just hope my youngest doesn't do the same else we will need a bigger bed

 

[george83]

Again I have no advice but just wanted to say your not alone, my lo has just started to be really bad at night time too, I've just written a post about it actually. He's never been a good sleeper but would settle the past couple of weeks he's been awful though. I've always thought you should leave them to it - I just sit with him until he's calmed down or sleep in his floor next to his cot - but we've now got a 10 week old and I dread the thought of him being woken up from the hysterics. My oh also leaves the house at about half 5 for work and god forbid I ask him to help me. I too then up with the awful behaviour the next day as he's tired and nothing interests him for longer than 2 minutes. If I find a cure I'll be sure to post it!

 

[superfrizbee]

My dd is sleeping badly at the moment too could you get a gro clock and do a reward chart? Some friends did this with their little girl - my dd is a bit young I think to understand but maybe your LO will?

 

[kerrie24]

Yeah I think I will look into it,Im ready to try anything! Thanks!

 

[superfrizbee]

Yeah I think I will look into it,Im ready to try anything! Thanks!

I hope you find something that helps, it sounds unimaginably rough what youre going through. big hugs.