Help needed!! I want to give up co sleeping and give my DS a proper BEDTIME !!!

[kalou1972]

SO at the minute Miller co sleeps with me.....and mainly goes to bed same time as me.

trouble is...if i want top get him to bed at a decent time it means me going to bed with him....lights and tv off and having to go to sleep too !! If i get back out of bed and go back down stairs.....he lasts around 15 mins and then is wide awake !! If i stay in bed with him he sleeps !!!

I want some adult time now.....

......so....i want to move him into his own bedroom and give him a bedtime !

Trouble is i am clueless where to start !!!!!

The good thing is we are going on holiday a week friday. We are going to our own apartment and taking a travel cot with us. Maybe a good time to at least break his cosleeping habits !!??

 

[kerrie24]

I dont really know how to help as I have the same problem but im too much in need of my sleep to try and change it lol.
I suppose just letting him get used to the new routine and making sure you stick to it.Maybe own bed first then earlier bedtime,both together might be a bit much.
I would definitly wait till you return from holiday or it will upset any routine you have worked on this week.

 

[kalou1972]

Oh i definately will wait......its gonna be bloomin hard work !! Its just so easy at the mo !!x

 

[Nicoleoleole]

I am dealing with this too. I'm am watching this thread! xx

 

[kalou1972]

I am dealing with this too. I'm am watching this thread! xx

Hopefully we'll get some answers !!x

 

[hpjagged]

You probably wont like my answer, but I have been doing CC. Like you, I cosleeped, I had to go to bed with she went to bed even if I so much go to the bathroom or get a drink, she's up and routing for my boob. She also liked to suckle on me all night.

Last week, I decided enough was enough. I loved cosleeping but in the end we were waking each other up, she would be waking every 1 or 2 hours we both wasn't getting a full good block hours of sleep. So Friday we started the CC and you know what, she didn't even cry.
She was moaning, no hysterical crying and she was asleep within 20mins. I know my LO is older than your LO and CC is not recommended until 6 months, but we did it at the right time.
Saturday and last night she fell asleep with 5mins and she went a whole 6 hours without waking, she's never gone that long before!
Anyways.... I know that's not what you probably don't want to hear. But for me, I had, had enough and this was for the best for us. I also tried many many methods, but they all never worked, with my LO it's all or nothing.

I've heard many good stories about the No Cry Sleep Solution, didn't work for us but heard it's really good for others.

 

[kalou1972]

You probably wont like my answer, but I have been doing CC. Like you, I cosleeped, I had to go to bed with she went to bed even if I so much go to the bathroom or get a drink, she's up and routing for my boob. She also liked to suckle on me all night.

Last week, I decided enough was enough. I loved cosleeping but in the end we were waking each other up, she would be waking every 1 or 2 hours we both wasn't getting a full good block hours of sleep. So Friday we started the CC and you know what, she didn't even cry.
She was moaning, no hysterical crying and she was asleep within 20mins. I know my LO is older than your LO and CC is not recommended until 6 months, but we did it at the right time.
Saturday and last night she fell asleep with 5mins and she went a whole 6 hours without waking, she's never gone that long before!
Anyways.... I know that's not what you probably don't want to hear. But for me, I had, had enough and this was for the best for us. I also tried many many methods, but they all never worked, with my LO it's all or nothing.

I've heard many good stories about the No Cry Sleep Solution, didn't work for us but heard it's really good for others.

Thanks chic....i have a feeling that CC is gonna be the only method thats gionna work with Miller !! Hes a tough cookie to break tho !

Can i ask how long you'd leave LO to cry for ??

 

[kelly29]

you'd think with my 4th baby i would know better wouldn't you?? my lo is only 9 wks and mostly sleeping in her mb but a bloody nightmare in the day or sometimes just when i go out of sight putting down etc!! you'd think i'd know how to deal with the crying wouldn't you lol but i just cant!!! so when she cry's i more or less sort her out. last night i tried putting her to bed at a normal time instead of 11pm or midnight she screamed i couldn't deal with it lol i brought her back down stairs ooops!!

whatever you decided, what method is right or works? bare in mind that they do grow out of it lol i have older kids who do in fact sleep in the own beds lol and let me leave the rm without crying and there also very independent! x
good luck x i'm watching too to see what works for you guys x

 

[hpjagged]

Thanks chic....i have a feeling that CC is gonna be the only method thats gionna work with Miller !! Hes a tough cookie to break tho !

Can i ask how long you'd leave LO to cry for ??

Your welcome. I'm not sure how long I would leave her for. I kinda set a time for one hour, but everyone was telling me longer.
I was really really surprised how quick she has adjusted to it. I was ready for world war 3 to kick off, but it was good. Do as much research as possible before doing it and in the meantime try other methods.

 

[spacecadet]

Hiya I coslept with my first until 5 1/2 mths and would really recomend trying the pick up put down method, it worked well for me! Someone on this forum once said to me you just need to teach your baby how to self settle, so far he's always fallen asleep close to you so when he wakes up and finds you gone he will kick off! And needs you to help him to fall asleep again.. It's just all he's ever known! With the pu/pd (I did my own version of it - not sure if I did it all by the book) I found it worked really well and my eldest is now 2 and loves her bed, my son is 20 weeks and I started him in his cot about 3 weeks ago from cosleeping with evenings similar to yours with your son! Now he will go in his cot awake at 8pm and sleep at least 4 hours! We still cosleep 1-8am but he has slept till 4am a couple of times!
Good luck (if u want to know more please ask! I didn't put all the details as I'm on my iPhone but can give u more detail if ya want! I remember the absolute worry and stress sleeping issues caused me and so glad I found a way!
xx

 

[kalou1972]

Anyone else with any tips ??xx

 

[lynnikins]

when we started EJ with a bedtime routine he was a bit younger than your LO and we would do the same things as normal with his last feed of the first half of the evening and then put him upstairs in his crib to sleep swaddled ( we swaddled till 6 months nearly ) and when he fussed go in and stroke his chest or face with our hand till he calmed down then leave and repeat this till he was asleep it didnt take long for him to figure out being swaddled and put to bed upstairs ment bedtime and as soon as we took him up in the evening he would get himself into the bedtime mind frame and after a while we just put him down awake and left him and he would go to sleep, we then co-slept again for several months ( he always slept in his crib till after we went to bed then would wake and come to our bed for the remainder of the night ) and he started having night feeds again during this time so in Dec when we moved here and put him in his own cot in the other room with his brother it was quite a change and when he woke for feeds id go in and sit in the dark there and feed him then put him right back in bed and leave, yes he fussed and cried but i didnt go back in and he settled within a few min each time then after a week wasnt waking for night feeds anymore and agian doing 12-13hours overnight

 

[kalou1972]

Thanks chic.....wish me luck !!x

 

[queenbee_01]

Yes please. I wud be interested in the details. My lil one is very tough and not sure if she will ever b able to settle yourself. Don't know where to start x

 

[queenbee_01]

Thanks!

 

[kalou1972]

Glad its not just me with a stuborn LO !!!xx

 

[kalou1972]

Any more advice girls ?? ...sounds like either PU/PD method or CC ??..

,.....not looking forwrad to either !!!...but really looking forward to some adult time !!!