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Discussion in 'Miscarriage Support' started by icsunshine, Aug 22, 2009.

  1. icsunshine

    icsunshine Mother of 3 TTC after MC

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    I don't know what to do! Am I just scared of having another mc or what? I go from wanting another baby to feeling like I should be happy with what I have.

    I have a 5 yr old, 3 yr old and 18month old. I just had a mc with my 4th pregnancy which we were using the natural family planning method but I never took too much care in keeping track so it was not a total shock when I discovered I was preggers. However I freaked out and my OH said "maybe we brought this on ourselves" Really, he was meaning maybe you brought on the mc because it took me a good week to accept my pregnancy and get real excited about it. He was fine with having a 4th but I was scared that we could not afford it, what if we can't give them everything they deserve etc.
    Now, I am so confused. I was devestated when I lost the baby. I don't want to go through that again but I want another baby. Am I being greedy? has anyone else felt like this?
     
  2. Sparklestar

    Sparklestar Mommy to Keigan

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    I dont have any other children so i cant comment, all i will say is that i dont think you are being greedy and from experience having a miscarriage makes you want a baby even more. i'm even more obsessed now and im not sure thats good. you are very lucky to have the 3 you have and i'm sorry for your loss :hugs: xxx
     
  3. Liz2

    Liz2 Well-Known Member

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    I am sorry for your loss. I think that this is something that goes on in all of our heads. DH and I talked after my MC and said that if this were to happen to us again there is no way we could go through it. Now that I have had a baby after that I couldn't imagine not trying again. If we would have given up and said be happy with what we have then we would have never had our 7 month old. Loving and wanting children is far from greedy....think about how much we give up for our babies, do you see any greed in that?? Even now, almost 2 years after my MC and the birth of a healthy baby I am thinking should I really try again?? Do I want to go through it all?? I think it is natural to question when we are scared. Hope this helped. Good luck!!!
     

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