Here we go again....

[Pocketrocket]

Hi ladies

Really feeling the need to vent tonight. I had mc 4 months ago at 10 weeks. I am now in my 3rd cycle of trying since it happened. This January so far has been good, I was feeling really positive that this month could be the one. My af is due tomorrow, I can feel that feeling u get just before it starts so I guess I'm our this month, totally disappointed. I log on to Facebook a hour ago to see my so called best friends status as 'now I'm on maternity leave yayyy!' I feel like ive been stabbed in the heart. I know I should be happy for her but inside I feel really sad that I lost mine. I also have a 3 year old who took 15 months to conceive who u am eternally grateful for but still feel like something is missing. I put on a brave face but inside I know it's gonna kill me when her baby is born. I feel so selfish but find myself distancing myself from her. Anyone else feel this way? I guess I just try again in 2 weeks time and continue to put a smile on my face

 

[needalilman]

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I'm currently on cycle 5 and it's really stressful. I've had two mc's, so I can relate to how you feel in that aspect. I have quite a few friends that are preggo and I'm actually really close to them. Don't give up keep trying. If she's really your friend you should be happy for her. I'm not being judgmental, so please don't get offended. I'm just saying a true friend is hard, and if she's that, you have to ask yourself is she really worth losing, but from what I've read in your post she hasn't done anything wrong. She's simply enjoying her pregnancy. If the shoe were on the other foot. How would you feel?

 

[Twinkie210]

I think it is normal to feel this way! It hasn't been that long since your MC, and you have every right to feel upset. While you can't blame your friend for being pregnant, if you don't feel like spending a lot of time with her right now then you don't have to. Tell her it is hard for you to be around her right now and you still treasure her friendship, but you need some time to work through your emotions. A true friend would understand and let you take things at your own pace! You have to grieve after a loss. Good luck! And don't count yourself out until AF shows!

Oh and I lost my angel in August, and it is still hard for me to be around pregnant women and babies.

 

[Pocketrocket]

Thanks twinkle. I love my friend to bits but it's very hard when all she does iis moan to me about her toddler and her current pregnancy to me when I have not long lost mine. It's still very raw and I feel sometimes babies and pregnancies come so easy to some and dont always seem grateful for them. I'm sure our time will come. Thanks for ur kind words x