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Jovanni loves his toys cars I mean is absolutely obsses with them and adores them When jr tries to touch one of his toy cars he will push jr down or pull him by the shirt until he falls down I have gaven up I've tried time-outs, talking to him and taking his cars away but nothing works! He has gotten better and listens to me but when it comes to his toy cars he acts like if he deaf...what can I do? any ideas?

 

[x__amour]

My youngest brother is like this (12) and he has thousands and thousands of cars now... Hm, I'm not really sure. I would just say be pretty persistent and keep trying time out? He has to know that it's not okay to hurt Jr, kwim? Sorry, not much advice.

 

[fightchick]

get them each a seperate set? try getting them each a box of cars, and you can decorate them with their names and stickers and what not. goood luck

 

[Hotbump]

OH and I decided not to buy him anymore toy cars but I dont know if that is the answer, I will keep trying time outs I guess I'll see what happens

 

[Hotbump]

He thinks every toy car is his he only has about 5 cars and two of them were for jr but that didnt work he claimed them as his, he will share his other toys nicely just not his cars

 

[annawrigley]

I think you need to drum it into him that they're not just his and he has to share them or he WON'T play with them, don't give in. He can't go to pre-school/school and attack any child that goes near a toy car because he thinks its his.

 

[Hotbump]

The thing is he is different with other kids he knows how to defend himself if someone pushes him or pushes jr...it's like he has an idea of "nobody can treat jr bad only me" kinda of thing kwim? On a good note I got a different doctor who is booking him an appointment with a nutrionist and might tell the dr about his behaviour maybe she will listen to me

 

[EllaAndLyla]

I think its quite normal behaviour especially because they are brothers. I would just let him know that 'no means no' whether he listens or not at first it should soon set in and he will realise that he will miss out on certain things etc xx

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

I think it's just a case of being persistant with telling him he has to SHARE, and giving him 'naughty steps/time outs' whenever he refuses. Everytime Robyn decides to take something from Logan or won't share it with him I say stirnly 'Robyn, share with Logan please or you'll be going on the naughty step. 5...4...3...2...1' By the time I've got to 1, 9 times out of 10, she'll have gone 'here you go Logey'. Also, when she's hit him etc, I put her straight on the naughty step, explain what she's done wrong, and then make her appologise to LOGAN for hurting him. (This has only happened twice, they get along really well)

He'll get the idea that he has to share his cars or he won't get to play with them at all. Just keep at it hun

 

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we have made progress I cried he cried but at the end he is finally sharing

 

[Tanara]

We give Taye three chances, 1st is a warning, 2nd is a time out, third is taking away what he wont share. You should to take the cars you bought for Jr and explain to him that they are his brothers cars not his, and that he can play with them but he has to share his cars with his brother too. Promise it will get better!

 

[Hotbump]

yea i did that and has been getting better

 

[bbyno1]

Aww glad he is making progress!

 

[x__amour]

That's good!

 

[Cassie_x]

Glad he's making progress, the photo of them was really sweet