hey i could do with some advice about my relationship with my partner since having my

[lilmissj]

I have been with my partner 19 months, when I fpund out I was pregnant he didnt take the news to well as he didnt want kids. We split up twice because he wanted me to abort and I didnt want to. However we got back together and he said he would see how things were when the baby arrived. Now Lucas is here 14 weeks later we are still together however things have changed alot since the begining of the relationship. He isn't as affectionate, he keeps wandering off all the time when I am spending time with him, we argue lots ( not infront of Lucas though) and he doesnt really feel like sex anymore. I have confidence issues as it is because I had annorexia for 5 years shortly before I fell pregnant. Now he doesn't want to have sex ect and he the whole lack of affection thing its really getting to me and I don't know what to do. I love him to bits and I don't know what i would do without him. can you offer any advice please. thanks xxx

 

[applelova911]

Didn't want to read and run. Good Luck! My relationship doesn't feel the same with my OH either. The difference is that he works nights and stays home with the baby during the daytime so he uses his tiredness as an excuse for all of the above. I thought we were supposed to be the ones with the hormone problems. I hope it gets better. Just wanted you to know you're not alone.

 

[Cat lady]

Hey,
Having a baby is so tough! My dh and I thought we would be able to handle it easily and other people who said it was difficult, we just thought they were not strong enough to handle it. But since our little man has been born, he spent the first two weeks in intensive care and that was hard, but in a way, it pushed us closer togther and now he has been out two weeks, we both realise how tough it actually is!!! Because our baby was so ill my hormones didnt get a look in! But its the lack of sleep that I think will drive a couple to split, we both get so tired and cranky with eachother!
Maybe you both need to take a day apart from eachother and your baby to try and establish who you are again and what you love about eachother. My dh and I always try and take an hour or two to do alone stuff each day, hobbies mainly for my dh and I tend to sleep!!! But it keeps us sane and still able to kiss and tell eachother that we love eachother! Hope this helps hun.
xxx