Honeymoon Babies

[Armywife84]

I don't so much believe that God will provide a child for us, rather that (hopefully) I will be able to follow the path that I am meant to be on. I am not overly religious, churchy, or Godly. I just have faith. Our earthly desires do not always coincide with Gods plan. Yes I want baby, badly. But maybe I have a calling I have yet to discover.

I am a nurse and I was called to be one. I am doing what I was meant to do in life. If I was not meant to have children then I will accept that too, however hard it may be.

And instead of raising wonderful babies to be wonderful adults, I will find another way to contribute to the world. My husband will love me no less if I am not able to make him a baby. He has a 10 yo daughter so we know it's not him.

And regardless of how it feels every time AF comes I know my life will continue and I will always make the best of it. I allow myself to be angry and jealous when my cousin announces her third pregnancy. And I allow myself to be upset and cry when it's not my month. I have all those same thoughts and feelings of why me. But I refuse to let it rule my life, ever.

I understand not everyone is able to see things the way I do, but maybe a little more faith is just what is needed? Pray for enlightenment? God bless.

Do be careful. Although your DH already has a daughter, it doesn't make him exempt from being the cause of infertility. The gyno/FS states that infertility is 50/50, or sometimes shared. My DH has gotten 2 previous women pregnant (abortion and miscarriage) and we're facing male infertility. Not saying that you're going to end up in LTTC, I hope you don't. But just a heads up. You still got 5 more months to go. Good luck!

 

[Rin731]

I HATE honeymoon babies! How is that even f-ing possible? The drunken newlywed sex?? Surely they'd have to schedule it around ovulation.

That's about as bad as those babies conceived from one night stands!

I know it makes me sound catty, but it's true: I hate hate hate those women who fall "accidentally" pregnant when we've been trying so hard!

 

[Armywife84]

Ok. So whenever I see a pg announcement on Facebook, even though it feels like someone has stabbed me in the heart and twisted it repeatedly, I try to be nice and congratulate them on their news....

However, earlier today a friend announced her pg. As per usual everyone congratulated her and then joined in with the pg talk. She then went on to joke how it was so easy and how it happened two months before their wedding, the first month they tried.....

Well I'll admit it, The bitch side of me took over and rather then congratulating her on her pg, I noted that that it explained her weight gain in the photos. :/

Thankfully Facebook allows you to delete comments.... And I did it pretty quick so I hope no one saw it!

Why do we torture ourselves reading this stuff. As much as it upsets me, I can't help but read it!

Oh that's so snarky! LMAO.

I admit, I haven't made a comment like that. But I have been rude with another pregnant woman on FB complaining about how it's the wrong time for her to be pregnant!!! Wouldn't it be nice to choose when you could be pregnant??!!!

I quickly told her she was incredibly lucky to be pregnant when there are so many women out there struggling to conceive A baby and have to resort to measures that cost as much as a new car.

Honestly, I have to delete pregnant woman from my FB. It's all full of old friends that I'm not close with anymore, people from HS, college and some family that lives all over the US. So it doesn't hurt my feelings when I un-friend them.

 

[doodles999]

I had a friend post on FB that she was going to start trying (who does that in the first place??) then posted her positive HPT two weeks later. I wanted to strangle her through the computer.

Oh, and my SIL got pregnant 6 weeks after giving birth. She tried to tell me last week that IVF is pointless because it just happens and you can't control it. DH told me to stop talking to her.

 

[Lizzy444]

I had a friend post on FB that she was going to start trying (who does that in the first place??) then posted her positive HPT two weeks later. I wanted to strangle her through the computer.

Oh, and my SIL got pregnant 6 weeks after giving birth. She tried to tell me last week that IVF is pointless because it just happens and you can't control it. DH told me to stop talking to her.

How horribly insensitive of her; ugh! Some people just have no clue. I had a friend tell me, "the timing of it (BD) is just so important...." Really? Are you kidding? People can be so mean!

 

[doodles999]

I would have had something snarky to say about that. Like, wow...if only I had known that all these months!

I've also got people telling me now "well now that you're relaxing and waiting for IVF, you'll just get pregnant on your own! You just need to relax!" My response- yup, if I just relax maybe DH's sperm will swim. I've gotten a bit mean lately.

 

[Rin731]

Some people just don't get it.


Especially those who fall pregnant 'accidentally'...

THAT really gets to me. When those women are the ones trying to tell me how to TTC...

 

[Lizzy444]

I would have had something snarky to say about that. Like, wow...if only I had known that all these months!

I've also got people telling me now "well now that you're relaxing and waiting for IVF, you'll just get pregnant on your own! You just need to relax!" My response- yup, if I just relax maybe DH's sperm will swim. I've gotten a bit mean lately.

Oh yeah, I wanted to say, "What do you mean, timing? We kiss every day...isn't that enough?" or something totally stupid like that.

That relaxing comment is rather dumb, too! Irritating!

You're not alone in getting mean. I've gotten very mean lately. Have said words (only to my husband) that I've almost never said before...calling people choice words, extreme sarcasm, etc.

And to make it worse, I think AF is on her way again. Ugh!

Anyway, I digress

 

[Armywife84]

I agree. Just how many couples do they actually know while waiting for IVF, fall pregnant naturally? Really it just boils down to them hearing it happens for infertile couples. Sure, miracles happen, but not for everyone.

 

[innmate]

I know what you mean!

 

[mg80]

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[doodles999]

Oh yeah, I wanted to say, "What do you mean, timing? We kiss every day...isn't that enough?" or something totally stupid like that.

That relaxing comment is rather dumb, too! Irritating!

You're not alone in getting mean. I've gotten very mean lately. Have said words (only to my husband) that I've almost never said before...calling people choice words, extreme sarcasm, etc.

And to make it worse, I think AF is on her way again. Ugh!

Anyway, I digress

I think we're allowed to be a little mean Especially when AF shows!! After starting to say mean things back to stupid comments, they seem to be less frequent. I'm hoping it means my family and friends have gotten the message that their advice is not wanted.

 

[emz-amy]

it makes me laugh when people say ( stop trying for a while it might then happen?!?) er ok then good advice loooool

 

[Sophe]

it makes me laugh when people say ( stop trying for a while it might then happen?!?) er ok then good advice loooool

yeah it''ll happen when it happens just stop trying alright, don't you know? don't even have sex your husband only needs to look at you... silly you, you do't know how babies are made do you?? don't you know you just don't try and it happens by accident with out even having sex... like the divine conception!!!

sorry just entertaining myself here!!

 

[mg80]

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[Armywife84]

As far as the stress goes, it can make my period really late. But I still confirmed ovulation earlier in the month. So, I'm iffy on the stress inhibiting conception.

DH and I tried the "relaxed" approach when we first started trying..everyone is like oh that's when I got pregnant, blah, blah. I finally ditched that approach and started putting in the legwork. Still nothing.

 

[Amandamb1108]

Yeah I might try this "stop trying" method. I will magically forget that I am popping a Clomid pill on days 2-6, maybe I should just pretend they're Smarties!!

I hate the "stop trying" crap. people can be so stupid they don't understand its not easy for a lot of us to get knocked up. Im always like well should i have my husband grind up my Clomid and mix it in some pudding so i can try to forget and "stop trying" ?

 

[Rin731]

Yeah I might try this "stop trying" method. I will magically forget that I am popping a Clomid pill on days 2-6, maybe I should just pretend they're Smarties!!

I hate the "stop trying" crap. people can be so stupid they don't understand its not easy for a lot of us to get knocked up. Im always like well should i have my husband grind up my Clomid and mix it in some pudding so i can try to forget and "stop trying" ?

Yeah...like I'm supposed to somehow 'try harder' or 'stop trying'???

I think people aren't trying to be mean, they just don't know what to say. Still, it can be sooooo annoying.

 

[Reb S]

I posted this a while back and we had a lot of fun with it - https://www.babyandbump.com/problem...one-else-tells-me-just-relax-itll-happen.html
Read the 70 odd rants there, it'll make you laugh! x

 

[ami1985]

love it lol xx