How can I thank OH for being my rock?!

[hawalkden]

I'm just wondering what can I get for OH as a Thank You present when it comes to putting up with me thought out the pregnancy?

I'm just grateful for everything he does and doing for me I'm currently 28 weeks pregnant and last night for the first time I had to sleep downstairs due to pressure on my stomach and I couldn't get comfy. Also wanted to give OH some peace instead of waking him with me moving all over.

I've finished work early due to bleeding and stress so I'm at home doing nothing all day mainly on B&B ! Which I feel bad about. I do get the housework and tea done before he's home and do the food shopping ect but I feel really bad when he's done a 12 hour shift at work and I'm 'relaxing' he says enjoy it because when peanut is here I'll be busy etc which he's right!

I don't know how he copes with me when I'm crying my eyes out because of hormones and just worried etc and I shut down and he's always asking so I take it out on him but he just watches me, feeling helpless and strokes my hair or back and stocks the tissues up for me!

He's my rock and I feel like I should give or do something for him for all the crap basically that I throw at him.

Any ideas? I've got a very limited budget though so need something cheap etc but shows huge appreciation

 

[2RockinBoys]

I don't think you'll need to buy him anything to show your appreciation. I would treat my OH with the following....
A fancy cooked meal for the 2 of us at home (after our son's gone to bed)
Full body massage with oils
Run him a nice bubble bath, and put a face mask on him, and scrub him with fancy body wash whilst massaging (ie massage hands and feet when washing)

He like's all that kind of stuff so if i want to treat him for being a star, it's what i'll do.
Is there anything in perticular that your OH like's that could be considered a treat??

 

[lissaw]

I'm taking my OH to a comedian that he really likes, its going to be a surprise and its about a month before the baby is due. We're going to start with supper at his favorite place

 

[ovetta2001]

I think I'm a heartless cow. Or my OH is weird....

When I said I don't know how he puts up with me he told me that not only am I giving him the best gift ever (LO) but I have to be pregnant ALL day where as he only knows how I feel from how I react and if anything he should be thankful and understanding to me. Lol

 

[2RockinBoys]

I think I'm a heartless cow. Or my OH is weird....

When I said I don't know how he puts up with me he told me that not only am I giving him the best gift ever (LO) but I have to be pregnant ALL day where as he only knows how I feel from how I react and if anything he should be thankful and understanding to me. Lol

That's really sweet!!

 

[KnitWit]

It's so nice to see a thread like this! There seems to be a lot of threads about OH's being arseholes and I can never join in because I'm truly blessed with a wonderful man!
I'm struggling with SPD and have generally had a crappy experience of pregnancy so far and he's there for me no matter what. My hero!

I too feel like it would be nice to do something to say thank you but not sure what to do. I tell him constantly how much I appreciate him and I think he realises that I do. A night of pampering might be just the job, it's a great suggestion

 

[Blah11]

You've grown a baby and giving him a child. He won't need anymore thanks, trust me.

 

[FeistyMom]

This thread rocks!

I've been wondering the same thing for my DH. He was a rockstar during my first pregnancy, but my second was very rough for us. This time around he has been absolutely PHENOMENAL! There has been a lot of other things going on in our lives that has caused super amounts of stress, plus dealing with our oldest starting in a school, and our current youngest starting toddler-hood, but lots of other work and family related problems happening. Through it all I've gone a little crazy but he's just been steady and dependable and giving me positive excitement when that's what is called for...

He turns 33 in October, and I just can't think of a way to say 'thanks' and 'happy birthday' to him in a way that really measures up to how grateful I am. He's not really into massages or anything, and spending a bunch of money would stress him out more. Maybe just a homecooked meal of his favorite food (he normally does the cooking, so just having me do it would be a treat!) and a movie night for us or something... seems so small compared to how much he's doing for me right now.

 

[2RockinBoys]

But it is the small things that count and make all the difference!! I'm sure he'd really appreciate that

 

[fairykate]

You're going to squeeze his baby out through an opening in your body - pain for possibly 24-36hrs is more than enough thanks lol.

After that you have to go through the pain of recovery, (poss c-section too) sore boobs and you may not be able to wee for a while without a jug of water. Call me harsh, but I think HE should be thanking YOU.

Don't get me wrong, I love my OH to bits and he's been great during the pregnancy so far (aside from saying he doesn't think childbirth hurts that much and that he goes through more pain everyday lol) but I show him that I appreciate it by cooking his dinner and looking after him as I always have. You don't need to do anything special!!!!

 

[Anna B]

You're lucky, my man just says "oh you're used to being pregnant by now" but saying that he helps round the house takes the kids to school.. he is an angel!

 

[hawalkden]

Thanks ladies ..

Think our child will be the best gift at the end of it all but thinking for it's a birthday, Christmas and thanks you all together .

He came up with a great idea last night for helping me sleep. It's like we're kids again though, with doubled over two duvets once each for my to pile loads of the quilt under my bump! Letting the pressure off my body and he still tries to hug me until I fall asleep .

I know the labour will be the hardtime for me after the after healing etc but least I've got Christmas Period were all friends and family will be off and I can try and recover faster . I'm worrying for OH when I'm in labour because he doesn't want to see me in any kind of pain .. He was crying the other night becuase he's that worried about it all.

 

[queenlavera]

I like this thread! My DH is amazing and has been so supportive, understanding and helpful. I agree with some of the other posters that you don't need to do anything fancy just something to make him feel special or something he really enjoys. But isn't it wonderful to truly have a better half!!

 

[hotmamax3]

I, too, have an A-1 top-notch husband. Yeah, sometimes he drives me bonkers, but if you live with anyone long enough you'll get peeved once in a while. He knows how hard being pg is, and he's seen 2 vaginal births and a C-section. But, honestly, men are simple. I don't want to sound like a perv, but the best way to 'thank' him is to give him some extra....um.... lovin', if you know what I mean. At least, that's what my man would love, lol.

 

[Tampa]

Aw bless! I've got a great oh too. He's been doing loads of housework on top of working full-time, since I developed SPD at 28 weeks. I sent him a personalised Moonpig card to his work as a surprise - just a load of thanks and grovelling! I was surprised by how touched he actually was! In fact it's still out on the windowsill a month later.

We're not ones for huge gestures either - but it's nice to feel appreciated.

 

[amielh]

I love this thread! I agree I see alot of posts about bad/cheating etc OH but mine has been brilliant! He has always done his share if not more around the house but lately he's done more like the cooking as I'm so tired! He's been there and not judged when ive snapped or been moody, he's given cuddles when ive cried..We're not ones for great gestures but I am a true believer in cards. I think a present may last for so long but a card shows real thought. I would just get him a card if anything and write how thankful etc you are.. Words can mean so much...

 

[chichestermum]

My OH is great (the majority of the time and as long as his mum is far away!) I love him to bits! but i grew up with just mum and so it took its toll on me and now (IMO) im not a very good OH, i hardly ever tell him i love him, or give him a quick hug or kiss etc, he knows i appreciate him and all he does as i say thankyou lots! but 1 good thing about not being big in the hugging, kissing, love you front is that when i do say or do them he knows i really mean it and it means a lot to him
If he has done something really helpful, like right now he is down stairs cleaning the carpets because i cant do it with my asthma, then il buy him a little bar of his fave choc or a few sweets from the shop, its the gesture that means more and tells him you were thinking of him whilst you were out and not only were you thinking of him but you also know his fave things because you love him so much etc, Im off to the docs in a min and on the way back will be picking up a twix for OH and when i get back il put it in the freezer because i know he likes them best ice cold, il get myself changed into comfy clothes and then go back to the kithchen and make him a cuppa with his choccy, Its a small gesture but i know that he knows its because im so thankful of everything he does xxxx

 

[citymouse]

LOL, my DH got himself a hot tub as a present. I'm not buying him anything else!

But seriously, when I think he's being nice, I tell him he's my hero (men LOVE to be called a hero, it's in their wiring) and then (in his hearing) I tell the baby how great its daddy is! Not that the baby can hear yet, LOL.