How can you TTC when you don't dtd often?

[Iveneverseen]

This is embarrassing and gets me down.

It has went from once a week, to once a fortnight, to once every 5-6 weeks but have seen a few times up to 2 months.

How are we supposed to ttc if this is the situation? I think i am being nieve thinking it will happen. things are otherwise fine.

 

[xakikox]

A lot of women try to time it by dtd in a small window of ovulation. Try taking your temperature every morning and pinpointing when you ovulate or using the strips. That being said, the more you dtd, the better off you'll be. We did it 2 weeks straight, right after my period until my temperature dropped. Good luck!

 

[storm4mozza]

A lot of women try to time it by dtd in a small window of ovulation. Try taking your temperature every morning and pinpointing when you ovulate or using the strips. That being said, the more you dtd, the better off you'll be. We did it 2 weeks straight, right after my period until my temperature dropped. Good luck!

I agree, try to DTD when your most fertile
Good Luck x

 

[Iveneverseen]

See I know about when I'm ovulating, the problem is having sex. 4-6 weeks can easily go by without any sex, so i really don't know how we will be able to dtd a few times in the ovulation period when now we do it every 6 weeks x

 

[Iveneverseen]

Noone else is the same situation?

 

[Lirpa11]

If you know when you're ovulating can't you ask your hubby to baby dance? Not many men would say no? Is there a reason you don't DTD much?

 

[Iveneverseen]

If you know when you're ovulating can't you ask your hubby to baby dance? Not many men would say no? Is there a reason you don't DTD much?

I do know when I'm ovulating that's not the issue.
what is a baby dance?
he hasn't a high sex drive, has just got worse and worse. I used to think once a week is bad now it sounds like a dream Lol.

 

[jtr2803]

Firstly, no, you aren't alone. Men with low/non existent sex drives are much more common than people generally realise, it's just not something that really gets talked about.

If you are both committed to trying then surely your oh will realise that the amount of sex you have needs to increase? Its perfectly possible to fall pregnant after just one time if it happens at the right time of the month.

I really think it's your oh you need to talk to about this though.....

 

[Iveneverseen]

Firstly, no, you aren't alone. Men with low/non existent sex drives are much more common than people generally realise, it's just not something that really gets talked about.

If you are both committed to trying then surely your oh will realise that the amount of sex you have needs to increase? Its perfectly possible to fall pregnant after just one time if it happens at the right time of the month.

I really think it's your oh you need to talk to about this though.....

I know it only takes once, but when he will only do it once every 6 weeks it's pretty impossible,. we have spoke about this numerous times. maybe i should just accept it and move on, just not nice feeling rejected.

I don't think about it too much these days, but the odd time it will pop up and make me feel like rubbish.

 

[jtr2803]

But what have you spoken about? The infrequency of sex generally or how you will conceive if things don't increase?

 

[Iveneverseen]

But what have you spoken about? The infrequency of sex generally or how you will conceive if things don't increase?

Both. He know's how i feel about the fact it doesn't happen often. I have also voiced my concerns of how will we conceive if we dtd every 5-6 weeks? he just say's not to worry about it we will. weird How? we don't even have sex once a month for fun?!

 

[butterbaby]

It makes me so sad to read this because it's obvious you're hurting. Is there any way you two could meet with a counselor of some sort? If you have talked about this many times and he's not willing to compromise a bit then maybe you need a third party to help you guys work through this.

I hate to bring up a sensitive topic but do you know if he uses porn at all? This can really do serious damage to some men and affect their ability and interest in real sex.

Is there any possible medical reason for this? Maybe he has low testosterone, it's worth getting a check up and asking him to mention his low libido. I know men hate going to the doc, I have to force my DH to go.

Has your frequency of sex always been like this or is this a more recent change?

Sorry for so many questions but I just like to help if I can.

 

[Iveneverseen]

It makes me so sad to read this because it's obvious you're hurting. Is there any way you two could meet with a counselor of some sort? If you have talked about this many times and he's not willing to compromise a bit then maybe you need a third party to help you guys work through this.

I hate to bring up a sensitive topic but do you know if he uses porn at all? This can really do serious damage to some men and affect their ability and interest in real sex.

Is there any possible medical reason for this? Maybe he has low testosterone, it's worth getting a check up and asking him to mention his low libido. I know men hate going to the doc, I have to force my DH to go.

Has your frequency of sex always been like this or is this a more recent change?

Sorry for so many questions but I just like to help if I can.

Thanks Hun.

As far as i am aware he doesn't watch porn, that is what he tells me and he say's he wouldn't wanna watch it unless i did with him. he doesn't get exited about it like he would when he was single.

It hasn't always been like this it was once a week, then once a fortnight then once a month now once every 5-6 weeks. but we have went 2 months without.

I'm not sure if there is something wrong with him, but he just says he is tired, sore ect he suffers ibs but was like this before then.

We have had this problem for years, we have got 3 kids (2 together) but it's just got worse and worse. i just don't think he really cares about my needs at all.

I just tend to try forget about it now, the odd time it will upset me. i vow to reject him next time like he does me, but he rarely initiates it, and when he does i give in and i hate myself for that.
as when he rarely does want to i always give him it.

last night he was watching a programme with a sex schene on (he watches a few programmes with frequent sex schenes in) and i just got upset and went to bed.

he say's he wants another child, but if he has trouble putting out now, how is he gonna manage when it comes to it.

I just wanna spend the night in my room away from him it upsets me. i dont get like this on regular occurrence, just once every few months then i get over it again.

 

[Angel_blues]

Just gonna point this out your posting in the wrong section and for women like me who just had their ttc dates cancelled it is very aggravating to see this type of post.

 

[Iveneverseen]

Just gonna point this out your posting in the wrong section and for women like me who just had their ttc dates cancelled it is very aggravating to see this type of post.

How is it the wrong section it's about ttc.
how is it aggravating? at least you will get to ttc.
if you cannot offer support or advice please go away. i feel rubbish as it is about my situation without people coming on to be no use but nasty.

 

[Angel_blues]

This is the WAITING TO TRY section.

 

[Iveneverseen]

This is the WAITING TO TRY section.

I am waiting to try!!!

 

[Angel_blues]

Here : https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/trying-to-conceive/

Good luck.

 

[Iveneverseen]

We are not ttc atm.

 

[loeylo]

Just gonna point this out your posting in the wrong section and for women like me who just had their ttc dates cancelled it is very aggravating to see this type of post.

Wow, that's rude. I felt it was perfectly clear from her post that she isn't yet ttc.

Your situation is no worse than anyone else's. We should all be able to support each other even if our situations are different. What next, you are offended by me being here because I have already ttc and miscarried?