Cheers for the replies girls.
The father, like I said in a post waaaay back, has been threatenin court action.
He will stop at nothing to make it known that he is the father, so Imi, even if I dont put him down on the birth certificate, he will happily pay to take me to court for a DNA test if I start denying him as the dad!
I thought about that one a while back, even had a solicitor talk me through what can and cant be done- they said they dont advise that I leave him out of the birth certificate simply because he can take me to court for a DNA test and if things get too messy & I start refusing to have any tests, I can be forced to give one. When it's proven he is the babies dad, he can then go on to apply for something called a parental responsibility order which gives him the same rights that I would have, and then once he has got that, he could attempt (though he wouldnt get it) to apply for full custody!
Tell me, would it really be worth leaving him off the birth certificate? he wants a child that bad (and now hes got one on the way) that he'd do ANYTHING.
Trust me, I wish I could say that he's coming no where near Nicky when he's born, out of sheer spite for what's going on between us now, but in fear of being dragged through court and him actually winning any case that he applies for, I dont know if i'd be strong enough to do it.
Has Maddies father ever attempted to threaten you with anything like this? dont tell me he just accepted everything you said and just walked away freely? believe me, I wish that would be the case for me.. Oh and Tilly, my father put his first born in a drawer lol, they were that poor that he stuck two chairs together, placed a drawer on them with a load of bedding in it, and put baby in it lol.