maybabydoll
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Hi all,
I'm in the UK and a really lovely South African friend has offered to throw me a baby shower. She wanted it to be a surprise, so she got in touch with my OH to arrange dates. Previously I had mentioned to him that I wasn't keen, as it feels like jinxing things. He told her this and she said that she would do an alternative party and not called it a baby shower, but call it a "baby festival" or something like that. It is so incredibly sweet of her and I love her very much. She's a very thoughtful girl and I'm so touched she thought of doing this.
The only problem is I feel like it's still jinxing things, as it will before the baby arrives. I can't help it, I've had MC, OH's mum had 4 MCs and my mum had a stillbirth, so in our families no one wants to really celebrate before bubs arrives. My friend also starting mentioning gifts and the like. I've lived in the US for a while and understand that this is just down to cultural differences. I don't have a problem with anyone else having a baby shower, I'm just very cautious.
So... I'm not sure how/if I should tell my friend. I was thinking of suggesting have a party once bubs is here, perhaps tied into the Christening (which is important to me). Also everyone will know the gender by then, as we're not finding out until the birth. What do you think? I'm I being silly or ungrateful? Do you think she would be offended?? x x
I'm in the UK and a really lovely South African friend has offered to throw me a baby shower. She wanted it to be a surprise, so she got in touch with my OH to arrange dates. Previously I had mentioned to him that I wasn't keen, as it feels like jinxing things. He told her this and she said that she would do an alternative party and not called it a baby shower, but call it a "baby festival" or something like that. It is so incredibly sweet of her and I love her very much. She's a very thoughtful girl and I'm so touched she thought of doing this.
The only problem is I feel like it's still jinxing things, as it will before the baby arrives. I can't help it, I've had MC, OH's mum had 4 MCs and my mum had a stillbirth, so in our families no one wants to really celebrate before bubs arrives. My friend also starting mentioning gifts and the like. I've lived in the US for a while and understand that this is just down to cultural differences. I don't have a problem with anyone else having a baby shower, I'm just very cautious.
So... I'm not sure how/if I should tell my friend. I was thinking of suggesting have a party once bubs is here, perhaps tied into the Christening (which is important to me). Also everyone will know the gender by then, as we're not finding out until the birth. What do you think? I'm I being silly or ungrateful? Do you think she would be offended?? x x