How have you grown on your ltttc journey?

[LizMcD]

I was told everything happens for a reason... and so there must be a reason we haven't conceived or had a baby yet.

Quite frankly i'm struggling to grasp the logic!

But it got me thinking, what could my possible reasons be? Whether you believe this or not, it's good to ponder how YOU have grown since starting out on this roller coaster LTTTC journey .....

Has it made you a better person? Are you stronger and wiser? I think we can all take something positive from it, even if it's something very small.

I will kick off with what my reasons might be:-

• DH and I are closer than ever before, we've grown a bond that wasn't there before like 'it's us against the world!' - so we will be better parents now
• I am more grateful for ALL the things I do have, I appreciate everything in my life and how blessed I am in lots of ways. Perhaps i needed to realise this before I can be a humble mother lol
• Since ttc we have brought a bigger house in a nicer area - a better place to bring up little people.

So, how have you grown?

Lets keep the positivity going to make this a 'feel good' thread. The more good things we say, then hopefully the more good things will come our way

Baby dust to you all

 

[Naneth.Estel]

Lovely post idea!

Like you OH and I have grown closer, much much closer.

We've gotten married (we actually started trying the month we got married)

We've moved into our dream home - just need to find something to fill up our spare bedroom

I've moved out of a job that was making me ill and causing loads of stress (and possibly interferring with TTC) into a job that I love

OH has started his own business which is going well.

We've both joined new groups and taken up new hobbies.

I've mastered the art of knitting baby clothes.

 

[LizMcD]

Thanks naneth sounds like you are nesting well!

We also bought our dream house and waiting to fill the spare room with a bundle of joy. It's nice to enjoy the house before babies come along I guess.

It will happen for us, keep knitting xx

 

[JustKia]

Oh gosh, we're both older and wiser.
We know that our relationship has been tested and tested and that at the end of every day we've still been friends as well as partners.
We know that so long as we have each other we can (most probably) cope with anything.
We've had 10 years together next month - we got married the day after our 7 year anniversary, so we know we enjoy each other's company.
We trust each other implicitly. I truly don't mind if hubby wants to go out with his friends (which includes single women). Like I tell him I trust him not to do anything, I don't trust them not to try it on with him, but I trust him to turn them down.
He makes me feel loved and I hope I show him that I love him just as much if not more (he says I do).

 

[Sophe]

I have learnt to be more understanding of other peoples unhappiness/worries, I have a single friend and she complains all the time about not being able to find a partner, i now know what it feels like to want something and not be able to get it and feel envious of others so when she doesn't feel like coming on yet another hen do, I am much more understanding of why.

I have learnt to appreciate the miracle of life and how amazing a little baby growing inside of you really is, and when it is my time I will tresure every minute of it.

I have seen that my DH who was hesitant about ttc really really does what to be a father seeing the dissapointment in his eyes when AF shows up told me that, he really does want this as much as me and is willing to do whatever it takes, i can see how much he loves me he told me i will make a fantastic mummy one day as I care so much and research and try everything to get us a baby, he said he knows I will do all I can when i am pregnant and a mother to be the best I can, and that means a lot, my DH does not open up much but TTC has made him more.

I guess it has also made me thing about my life and things I would like to change, when faced with the fear of never being a mother its made me realise I hate mu job and want more from life, so am looking at my options.

Oh and I am finally having driving lessons at 32 as i will need a car when I have a LO!

Great post, Thank-you for starting it!
x

 

[ami1985]

Im grown more patient 9 you need to be when TTc)
Also ive learned to deal better with diappointment
I have a new house in a better area much more suitable for a baby and a spare room just beggfin to be decorated into a nursery
I appreciate my family more, i lost my mum 3 yrs ago, and during this TTC journey Ive learned to appreciate what I have and what Ive lost xxxx

 

[lucydiamond]

Aah, I love this post!

My main positive outcome is that I have learnt to eat well and to look after my body and I'm now much much healthier now than I was before ttc.

I've also learnt that just because someone else is pregnant and I'm not, doesn't mean I can't be happy for them, and have learnt not to feel like it's done to spite or punish me. (This one I'm still learning to master, and I still have awful off days but I'm coping much better!)

All in all I have learnt to look on the bright side as much as humanly possible and be thankful for everything I do have!!

 

[MrsB09]

Much like lucydiamond I have learnt an awful lot about healthy eating & exercise, as has my husband. As a result of making a few small changes to our lifestyle we've lost 5 stone combined & both have so much energy. As a result of this increased energy we have swapped boxsets for activities. This weekend I'm having my first ever ski lesson. If I hadn't spent the last 2 years really working on these things not only would I be a less healthy mum, I'd be a less healthy role model. My children would grow up spending too much time indoors and not enough time being adventurous. I am also 100% sure that I want children and I will NEVER take them for granted. Now that I've learnt these amazing, life enhancing lessons that have made me a happier, healthier, more wholesome person... Can I have a f*****g baby please?!!?!

 

[Sophe]

Aah, I love this post!

My main positive outcome is that I have learnt to eat well and to look after my body and I'm now much much healthier now than I was before ttc.

I've also learnt that just because someone else is pregnant and I'm not, doesn't mean I can't be happy for them, and have learnt not to feel like it's done to spite or punish me. (This one I'm still learning to master, and I still have awful off days but I'm coping much better!)

All in all I have learnt to look on the bright side as much as humanly possible and be thankful for everything I do have!!

I have learnt to look on the bright side too! I have to or I would be a depressed broken heap by now!

 

[KittyCat82]

I have been feeling very much like this recently-on top of many of the above including being much closer to hubby, realising how lucky we are in many ways, leaving a highly stressful job, being closer to my friends, appreciating smaller things in life, living for the now. I also thing I have just learned a massive amount about myself and have basically re evaluated everything in my life. When I eventually do get pregnant (hopefully, not if) I will be so over the moon and the baby will be so wanted-I wonder if I would have felt that so much if it had happened for us quickly? After planning my life with such precision for the last 15 or so years, I have learned that life doesnt really have a plan but that is sometimes when it leads you onto another path and thats when it starts to get interesting...x

 

[LizMcD]

It's so good to know we have all gained something on this tough journey. It's horrible when life doesn't go to plan but at least we will be ready for it when we do get Preggars!! And that is a When and not an If!!

Lots and lots of luck to u all xxxx

 

[KittyCat82]

Definately Liz-I posted on another thread to you-are you at Cov? I have jsut been referred there for my 2nd IVF-was wondering how long the wait was and how you find the service? x

 

[NavyWife84]

I have learned a lot like the ladies on this post...about being more patient, loving what I have, etc. I have also learned so much more about my body. Before ttc, I didn't have a clue about my cycle, the different times during the cycle, etc. Now I know it all