how long did you have to wait before having sex again?

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  1. monster91

    monster91 Well-Known Member

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    women that had stitches how long did you have to wait before you had sex again? and when do you know if you are ready to have sex after baby?
     
  2. mum2liam

    mum2liam Well-Known Member

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    took me about 6 weeks to pluck up the courage, i was nervous as hell lol!!!

    this time will prob be the same, Hubbie is refusing to DTD with me since 32 wks too wierd apparently!! so i told him well you will just have to wait till im ready after the birth!! kinda forgotton what its like!! haha
     
  3. Beaney192

    Beaney192 Mummy of 2

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    I havent hsd sex yet, part of me wants to, but then again im so nervous, think I will at least wait till my 6 week checkup.
     
  4. angie79

    angie79 Mummy of 2

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    I had a tear and i was cut and i didnt feel ready until 8 weeks and didnt actually dtd until 10 weeks - my oh gave me no pressure at all until he hinted at 9 weeks :flower:

    xxx
     
  5. gills8752

    gills8752 Mum of 2 Girl

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    I had 2nd degree tears, was cut and had stitches and. I waited till 12 weeks hahaa. I really wasnt in the mood for it before then, and even then it was tender and strange.
     
  6. GingerNut

    GingerNut Pregnant mum to Rosie

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    I had an internal 3cm second degree tear, and waited 4 weeks. I wanted to try at 3 weeks but DH wouldn't.

    It wasn't that I was uncontrollably randy, mind you, just that I was nervous about it, and knew that if I left it too long, it would get scarier and scarier. I really just wanted to get it out of the way! Thankfully it was fine; a bit, well, odd, but comfortable enough. And actually way better than it used to be, once I got used to it.
     
  7. aimee-lou

    aimee-lou Totally Outnumbered!!

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    3 weeks here. I only had a few cosmetic stiches though as I had a deep graze caused by LO's nails :wacko:
     
  8. lizardbreath

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    waited 5 weeks with my first waited 3 weeks with my second. I was ready both times OH never pushed me for it and even when we did he was so worried he was going to hurt me. Mind you I never tore with either Child.
     
  9. x__amour

    x__amour Mommy.

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    3 weeks. :dohh:
    I had an EMCS though. We just took it slow and used a gallon of lube. :haha:
     
  10. AirForceWife7

    AirForceWife7 Mama to Brenna.

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    About 8-10 weeks. I had an episiotomy followed by a 4th degree tear, so was petrfied at even the thought of sex! We used a ton of lube, so it was no problem :) x
     
  11. NawlinsMama

    NawlinsMama Mummy to 1, due Nov 27

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    Two weeks. :blush: I had a second degree tear, but we used tons of lube and it went okay. My only problem was the blood, as I bled quite a lot postpartum. That was a bit off-putting.
     
  12. AshleyNichole

    AshleyNichole mommy to 2 boys!

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    i had an episiotomy with my first, and waited 4w, and it hurt like hell :nope:
     
  13. lynnikins

    lynnikins Well-Known Member

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    with my first i had an episiotomy and waitied about 8/9wks with my second i had a 3rd degree tear and waited about 7wks
     
  14. Rebaby

    Rebaby Mama to 2 boys

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    I had a 2nd degree tear and stitches with Toby and we tried to DTD after 7 weeks but it was too painful. We tried again a week later with more success! :winkwink: It was sore for a while though, i think it was 3 or 4 months before things started to get back to normal.

    With Rudy i had a 1st degree tear, no stitches and we only waited 3 weeks and it was absolutely fine :thumbup:
     
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    MiissMuffet Well-Known Member

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    I waited about 3 months i think but i got badly torn up so no1 was going to go there LOL
     
  16. CJane

    CJane Well-Known Member

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    I waited about 3 months too, as had tear and episi and stitches, so wasn't in the mood at all before that. TBH DH wasn't too sure even then, he kept checking "are you sure?" and also a ton on lube like someone else said!!
     
  17. aj11

    aj11 Mama to Ari :)

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    we waited until after our 6 weeks appt., BUT at the bottom of the opening of my vaginal opening the two edges healed together. EEEEK!! effectively making the opening like 2/3 as big. the dr told us to try to open it back up "the old fashioned way"---sex...and we tried but HOLY CRAP that was not happening. so i had to go back and get it cut back open, and that took a further 2 weeks to heal up! hoping to have a better experience this time, but regardless we will wait until after the 6 week check up!
     
  18. luvmyfam

    luvmyfam Well-Known Member

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    I didn't say anything to my doctor but I think this is the same that happened to me. OUCH is all I have to say. It was really sharp pain for a while, that eventually got better. Maybe after 4-5 months!
     
  19. rachy12342

    rachy12342 Well-Known Member

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    I can't remember with my daughter but this time I'm 3weeks pp, didnt have any stitches but I dong know when I will feel up to it, I'm worried my partner won't enjoy it and cannot see how he is still attracted to me :( what if I'm really 'loose' now? I really need some words of wisdom please
     
  20. Saaaally

    Saaaally Almost mother of 2 :)

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    I had a 3rd degree tear, and about 3 weeks i think :) We took it very slow though! And it was fairly painful, but i felt sorry for OH! xxx
     

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