How long would you let lo whine/fuss ...

[cbass929]

In their crib before picking them up from laying them down to nap?

Lo is 4 weeks old and mostly cosleep right now or in my arms. I'm trying to get him to where he will sleep some in his crib because he does not like it much.
So he ate a few minutes ago, I changed his diaper then swaddled him up heavy eyed and put him in his crib to go to sleep. First time doing this...
He's been there a few minutes and was quiet at first but no whining and a little fussy then whines some more. He's not crying and I wouldn't let him actually cry laying there because I don't want him to hate it more.
How long should I let the fussing whining go on before I get him and rock him??

 

[cmarie33]

I spent a large number of weeks picking lo up pretty much every time she made a noise...... Then I realised she's just settling down. From my experience of my lo, I'd say leave him be for a bit and see what happens xx

 

[cbass929]

Well I failed, I got him after about 8 minutes being there. He never got to actually crying but he was at the start of throwing a big fit.
For some reason I can not stand to listen to him cry or whine it makes me so upset I have to get him. I was not like this with my first 2 and don't know why I am this time. I know if I keep it up it will get worse and ten it will be hell breaking the habit!
When I got him I sat down and he was wide awake!

It might sound crazy but I went through hell during my pregnancy from start to finish. There was several weeks were I thought I was going to lose him and once you get that feeling it doesn't go away. I worry, stress and think about everything that could go wrong because I still have that fear after this long. I don't know how to let it go.... so I think that I just have to have my eyes on him at all times to make me feel ok. How do I let go of that fear??
Last night he ate at 7pm and stayed awake at 8:30 I gave him a bath and got him ready for bed. Then I have him about 2 oz to top him off held him until he fell asleep put him in the bed about 9:30 and he slept until 1am in his crib but I was a nervous wreck going and looking at him every few minutes.

 

[cmarie33]

if you want to hold him/rock him to sleep/not let him fuss then you do what you want, not what people say you're supposed to. Lo napped on me for months but she now sleeps fine in her cot.
The fear eases eventually, I bought a video monitor and it helped that I could see her, I eventually got so tired that I had to sleep on a night rather than check on lo every 5 mins xx

 

[Peggy O]

Lily is about the same age, she likes her little travel crib, I spend about 1/2 the day holding her, and she sleeps the other 1/2 (and at night) in her crib. When she does fuss, I let her go a minute or two to see if she is just settling, but if she is clearly distressed I go get her and when she is asleep I put her back in.

 

[aliss]

I leave him until it's a proper cry, starting a few weeks ago. At 4 weeks, I picked up at a whimper.

 

[cbass929]

if you want to hold him/rock him to sleep/not let him fuss then you do what you want, not what people say you're supposed to. Lo napped on me for months but she now sleeps fine in her cot.
The fear eases eventually, I bought a video monitor and it helped that I could see her, I eventually got so tired that I had to sleep on a night rather than check on lo every 5 mins xx

I love rocking him and just holding him for hours but at the same time I cant get anything done around the house or with my DS1 and DD. I rocked my ds1 to sleep every night and when I stopped it was hell at bedtime so I ended up caving and letting him sleep with me most nights then when it came time for him sleeping in his bed it was hell and he screamed hisself to sleep every night for the first 2 weeks or so. So I didn't do that at all with DD. I never rocked her when it was time for a nap or bed I put her in her bassinet and she went right to sleep from day one. But then she would ONLy sleep in her bed. Not in my bed, car seat, my arms nothing she would cry until she was able to go to sleep in her bed.
So I have to find a middle... Lol... But he's my last so I'm trying to enjoy every last second of it because I won't have it again! But I'm scared of creating a monster when it comes to bedtime and naps

 

[cmarie33]

Haha wonder how many babies wed need to have before we find the 'perfect' solution?!

 

[Hooblet]

I always picked LO up when he started to properly cry. He slept in a moses basket, then a cot, but he only napped on me until he got to 6 months. Then he started to struggle to get a decent nap and needed to go in his cot. He fought it, and I used to pick him up immediately, and then gradually I began to give him 5 mins before going in. It just started to get to the point where he was settling and my going in to him just extended it, so now at 9.5 months he might make cross noises for 5 or 10 mins and then sleeps, or sometimes he drops off straight away. Do what feels right for you and your LO. If you want to go to him straight away then do that, and maybe when they're a bit bigger you'll want to try something slightly different. There isn't a right answer really, just know you're doing your best and it will all figure itself out with time! xx

 

[Wishing_well]

I pick Quinn up the second she makes a noise. She doesn't need to moan/whimper/fuss before she goes to sleep so I know that however small the noise is, it means she needs me.

If you need to rock/bounce/feed/shh etc then do it. Whatever works for your baby

 

[Peggy O]

Maybe some kind of carrier would help? I find ours does....I made a coffee cake, cooked breakfast and vacuumed today with Lily in hers. She nods off on my chest in it, and I can atleast get some stuff done. I can usually get her out of it and into her crib while she is still sound asleep.

 

[CMarie]

At 4 weeks old I definitely picked up and snuggled LO if he made any sort of sound. I found that wearing him in a Moby wrap (any carrier could work) really helped. He napped so peacefully in it and I was able to get some stuff done around the house without constantly worrying if he was okay

 

[eulmh82]

i used to pick mine up at every little sound but now unless he is full blown crying I do leave him. Yours is very young still so I suppose next time I would leave a LO unless they are really crying unti; the point where you think ok they just aren't going to settle

 

[Twister]

At that age I picked her up because the whimpering usually lead to crying anyway. She slept on me for all her naps up until about 3 weeks ago and now she settles in her basket during the day just fine. Nowadays if she makes a noise in protest I tend to leave her unless she starts getting worked up then I step in and calm her.

 

[Nat0619]

I only go to Ciara if she cries now generally. Unless she is moaning and babbling for quite a while and clearly not going to sleep.

If I picked her up at every murmur I wouldn't have as good a sleeper as I thankfully do. She stirs in her sleep a fair bit, I'd be up a good few times a night if I went to every sound! She will often babble to herself for 5-10 minutes and then settle back to sleep.

I don't fall to sleep immediately, toss & turn a bit and also stir during sleep. So I don't expect my baby to fall asleep without aby sound and sleep completely silently throughout night/a nap (she sometimes briefly stirs during naps and settles again). A lot of the time when I check on her if she cries out a bit her eyes are still closed. She is just stirring in her sleep and settles back down x